bobsiesprincess Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 So as u guys who keep up with me know... ive recently been tempted to break NC, which is highly unusual for me, cos im good at NC. But I hadnt done it, and I thought I was kinda over the wanting to break NC. Tonigh my brother walks in with his ex girlfriend who he split up with round about the same time i got dumped. This kinda stirred up alot of emotions inside me and I thought to myself... its almost been 6 months... text him cos ur strong enough to be friends WRONG! im not. ive been in tears all night. we texted back and forth for a while filling each other in on our lives now. its made me REALLY sad cos i realise i know nothing about him anymore and he knows nothing about me. hes going to be an uncle again. and hes now jobless and dropped out of uni. at least ive achieved alot more in the past 6 months and have better plans for the next year or so.... i miss him soooo much. i wish more than anything things could go back to how they were. if your thinking on breaking NC, its probably not worth it. but in general, ive come so far in 6 months, im far from healed but im much further than i ever thought i would be. im proud of myself. newly heartbroken ppl....... take it from someone who thought life wasn't worth living.......... things do get better. Link to comment
Russ Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 It's always hard. It might have even been a good idea that you broke the NC. Help a stage of healing. Awesome job Link to comment
AnxiousGirl Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 I've been broken up with my ex for 6 months too. I heard from him yesterday and cried a lot last night....once again. Link to comment
blueyes85 Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 going on six months here as well. i must say i expected to be over it by now, and i'm not. it stinks Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 wow its so hard for me to understand these residual feelings lasting soo long.. 6 months isnt too bad but ive heard some on here talk about 4+ years...which i can understand if its like a 15 year marriage but... maybe im harsh cause i know lasting feelings for an ex was a major part in my most recent breakup. how long does it seem on average to get over a love.. at what point can a new guy enter the picture or do you usually just stay sad till that new person sweeps you off your feet.....pls dont take this post as an attack cause im a strong believer in that anyones feelings are their own and never wrong im just curious as even though ive been in love ive never had these, what seem to be everlasting sadness. Link to comment
AnxiousGirl Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 wow its so hard for me to understand these residual feelings lasting soo long.. 6 months isnt too bad but ive heard some on here talk about 4+ years...which i can understand if its like a 15 year marriage but... maybe im harsh cause i know lasting feelings for an ex was a major part in my most recent breakup. how long does it seem on average to get over a love.. at what point can a new guy enter the picture or do you usually just stay sad till that new person sweeps you off your feet.....pls dont take this post as an attack cause im a strong believer in that anyones feelings are their own and never wrong im just curious as even though ive been in love ive never had these, what seem to be everlasting sadness. I was with my ex for 7 years. We had a baby and we were planning our wedding. Now I'm tied to him for life because of our child. I can't get rid of him completely, and because I still love him very much it's often hard for me to find a balance. Total NC would be sooo much easier, but we have to talk at times. I'm doing a hundred times better than I was in the very beginning. I have my good days and my bad days. I have a lot more good days than I ever had before so I think that's a good sign, right? Link to comment
S agapo Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 Been 9 months of NC for me. Half way through I thought I was doing better then I am doing now. Now, it is sinking in he is gone for good. Maybe has someone else. But for what ever reasons, the man is gone. Doesn't wanna know. Been crying myself to sleep every night these last few weeks, and doing crap at work. Thought I would be over this by now. Link to comment
bobsiesprincess Posted February 1, 2008 Author Share Posted February 1, 2008 It's always hard. It might have even been a good idea that you broke the NC. Help a stage of healing. Awesome job thanks russ! I've been broken up with my ex for 6 months too. I heard from him yesterday and cried a lot last night....once again. i think hearing for them makes your emotions feel more raw for a short time. its kind of out of sight (or out of contact) out of mind........ well thats so not true... but what im trying to say just isnt coming out... its so much easier when you dont hear from them i think. i hope your feeling a wee bit better now, i know i am. going on six months here as well. i must say i expected to be over it by now, and i'm not. it stinks im sure your alot better than you were 6 months ago though? if you truly love someone i think it will take a while to get over it fully, but it will hurt less and less, and think how much further on we'll both be in another 6 months wow its so hard for me to understand these residual feelings lasting soo long.. 6 months isnt too bad but ive heard some on here talk about 4+ years...which i can understand if its like a 15 year marriage but... maybe im harsh cause i know lasting feelings for an ex was a major part in my most recent breakup. how long does it seem on average to get over a love.. at what point can a new guy enter the picture or do you usually just stay sad till that new person sweeps you off your feet.....pls dont take this post as an attack cause im a strong believer in that anyones feelings are their own and never wrong im just curious as even though ive been in love ive never had these, what seem to be everlasting sadness. i dont know how long it takes to get over a love, because this is my first love. but in my experience if you really truly love someone and the relationship breaks down, it will take a while to get over them. for me i reckon itll be about a year. but if i see him after that, whenever it is in my life im sure ill still have feelings for him, cause we shared so many good times together. i would be ready for a new guy to enter the picture now. in fact, i really hope a new guy does. i dont think ill ever be over it until i meet someone else. I was with my ex for 7 years. We had a baby and we were planning our wedding. Now I'm tied to him for life because of our child. I can't get rid of him completely, and because I still love him very much it's often hard for me to find a balance. Total NC would be sooo much easier, but we have to talk at times. I'm doing a hundred times better than I was in the very beginning. I have my good days and my bad days. I have a lot more good days than I ever had before so I think that's a good sign, right? thats most definetly a good sign. as time goes on we'll get less and less bad days! Been 9 months of NC for me. Half way through I thought I was doing better then I am doing now. Now, it is sinking in he is gone for good. Maybe has someone else. But for what ever reasons, the man is gone. Doesn't wanna know. Been crying myself to sleep every night these last few weeks, and doing crap at work. Thought I would be over this by now. yeh its weird, i think sometimes your doing so well and then it just hits you again really hard and you get down. its just not easy, but it will get better again gemini. hope your ok Link to comment
AnxiousGirl Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 Been 9 months of NC for me. Half way through I thought I was doing better then I am doing now. Now, it is sinking in he is gone for good. Maybe has someone else. But for what ever reasons, the man is gone. Doesn't wanna know. Been crying myself to sleep every night these last few weeks, and doing crap at work. Thought I would be over this by now. You too? I felt great for a while...like I was really getting over it and moving on. Now I feel like I'm "relapsing" and going back to square one all over again. Link to comment
S agapo Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 You too? I felt great for a while...like I was really getting over it and moving on. Now I feel like I'm "relapsing" and going back to square one all over again. Yeah, half way through the break up I thought I was doing better then now. I think deep down I thought I would of heard from him or what ever. But now these last few weeks now xmas is passed and Valentines Day is approaching and nearly year since we broke up is coming back, it is sinking into me that he has gone. He doesn't want anything to do with me. I am Dead in his life. So now these last few weeks have been bad. He ain't coming back. There will be no ''us'' EVER again! He made his choice. Hope he was sure about it. Just realized in a few days it would be 10months since troubles started! ...so bobsiesprincess '' miss him soooo much. i wish more than anything things could go back to how they were. if your thinking on breaking NC, its probably not worth it'' I know how you feel, NC is the only way now. Link to comment
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