MyNinja Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Hey all! I want to know what your opinions are on this intense emotion. What do you believe is real or natural love vs. unnatural love? I like to know your thoughts! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 unnatural love? what do you mean? Link to comment
MyNinja Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 by unnatural, I mean the kind that is unhealthy, such as staying in an abusive relationship just because the person feels that they "love" their spouse. Link to comment
Seymore Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 I think healthy love is yearning to know the one you love, good and bad. Learning to deal with the bad and cherish the good, to appreciate the differences and to accept the person for whom they are. To desire to grow and learn new things with each other without forgetting who you are. That's what I think, among other things. I've been in a relationship before where I felt I was "In love", when in retrospect, it wasn't a "healthy" love. I wanted to be with the person 24/7, changed everything about myself that she didn't like and basically abandoned myself. That was borderline obsession, not love. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Well, I think healthy love is when you always wanna be your best but are completely comfortable being yourself. And that they return that sentiment. An unhealthy relationship is anything other than that. Link to comment
MyNinja Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 That's good to know! I just like to know what others' opinions are about this emotion knowing how cliche and commercialized it can get. Link to comment
Seymore Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 My thing is - and your word "commercialization" made me think of this - love never bashed me over the head like it does on TV or in the movies. It just came naturally. I wasn't skipping up and down the street or whistling all the time...I mean, I smile more, am a bit friendlier...however, when I'm alone I still can't believe I've got this wonderful girl. I mean I CANNOT understand how it happened. LITERALLY - when I begin to think about how we met and the light I'd seen her in before and after we'd met, it boggles my mind. 5 months later and I still can't understand it. It's seriously like a "dream come true" - I always thought that was something people just said, but I really understand it now. Link to comment
MyNinja Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 Same here!! I met my spouse on the train on my way to san diego and at that time I thought nothing of it other than someone being friendly on the train. From this day I still remember the clothes he was wearing and his beautiful smile. I even remember the smell of his cologne! To this day I feel myself more open to people, more outgoing and more talkative. I feel I've became more "alive" if you will, since I met him. Link to comment
Jetta Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Unnatural love is the high feeling after sex, or another fleeting emotion. Natural love is a high you get just being around the person that is everlasting. No matter who that person really is you love them unconditionally. You may notice their imperfections but you love them regardless. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 For me, "real" love is something that develops from time spent together, commitment - a shared life, essentially, with respect and communication. Link to comment
FortunateOne Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 This is a very subjective question so the best I can provide to quantify it is the following. link removed Link to comment
ftheunion Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Love is a choice to be truly other-centered. Link to comment
Lucy__lou Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 For me, healthy love has been when I've felt deep joy just in knowing that person exists, and being honoured to live in the same world as them, maybe even share the same sky with them if I'm lucky. It has not required that I be in their life. It is a feeling of loving them and not needing anything from them, but just being happy to see them shine, and happy to see other people be touched by them and who they are. Unhealthy love is where you need them to love you back or you'll be hurt. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted February 1, 2008 Share Posted February 1, 2008 This is a very subjective question so the best I can provide to quantify it is the following. link removed Wow, fortuneOne, where did you find this? This is a pretty cool presentation. Link to comment
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