I dont know where to go from here

[JohnnyxHorror]

Well, I've made a few posts about my dilemma involving my ex girlfriend. Well I would like to say first that I've accomplish a lot within a month that I didnt think I could. I've managed to changed how I view my self meaning I'm more confterbal now with how I look and I've regained a little bit of my self esteem that was destroyed because of my ex. I'm also slightly more cockyer now which I'm not sure is a good or bad thing.

 

But now, I dont know where to go from here. It bugs me a lot not knowing what I can do from where I am. I do want to peruse another relationship but I don't know where or how I should start. I'm still a little afraid of getting in another relationship though, because I dont want to get wrecked like I did before. But at the same time I realize the chance that it wont happen again because my ex well she was kind of emotionaly confused, so I shouldve been prepared for such a thing.

 

but I suppose I'm getting off track. I dont know, I guess I just need guidence on where I should start from the point I'm at... where would a good place be to attract other girls. That does kind of sound weird and I apologize if this whole thing is weird but like I said... I just need guidance on what I should do. I'm happy without a relationship, but I'd be happier with one. I'd ask my friends for help, but I'm afraid of how they will think of me after I say it.

[knightNshiningarmor]

honestly a good break may do you a lot of good and you might just find the person you want when your not looking for them...but hmm advice..dont try to pick up chicks in clubs or bars less your looking for something that last a night or two but i might recommend taking up some social activities that interest you and just mingle...stuff like i dont know.. hiking club, dance lessons, sports, ect.

[Dako]

You seem conflicted.

Maybe some alone time would clear your head.

[ghost69]

take more time to yourself. sounds like you are starting to figure yourself out, but you just aren't quite there yet. when you look for a relationship, you can look desperate and also worry yourself too much. go about your business knowing you are a great catch. keep ur head up high. if you don't see an attractive girl one day, no worries. but when you do see one, go up and talk to her. but don't be thinking 'she would be great for a relationship.'

[JohnnyxHorror]

I normally dont walk up to a girl and think that they'd be good to date. I just really don't know how to start some of these things off, like...when I do manage to get ready for another relationship I dont know what to say or how to act to attract a girl because well to be honest I've never really had to try hard before. My other ex's just came to me and admited that they liked me. I have no idea what happened to such a thing so now I guess I need to be more I dont know confident i suppose. I just dont really know how I would hit on a girl without freaking them out.

[ghost69]

don't be worried man. just do it. it's not weird, creepy, etc. it's human nature to interact with people. get to it.