Was this another opportunity for me to talk to a female in public?

[ConfusedDater]

just wanted to know if this was a missed opportunity

 

I was got on the elevator last night on my way home for work and there was one female on there. I never looked at her I just got on and stepped to the back. The elevator then stopped at the 4th floor and when the doors open no one got one and she turned to me and made a joke smiling saying-"i was hoping no one got on" And as usual when i noticed she was attractive I frozed up and started having a mild aniexty attack and couldn;t think of anything to say with a smile. So was that her way showing she was attracted to me and wanted to start up a convo you think? Ladies you would know

[SapphireNoir10]

Maybe she was just being friendly, maybe she was into you! You shoulda smiled and said something back. Or just laughed or said Hi! You dont know until you talk to someone really whether there into you or not. Im sure there will be many more opportunities.

[Entropy Smith]

Yes...she was interested...no guts no glory.

[ghost69]

you will never know now. this question is pointless really. you did lose an opportunity to make a quick joke and laugh with her and then introduce yourself. maybe you will get to see her again.

[ConfusedDater]

I was asking myself-"i wonder was she checking me out as I was getting on the elevator and liked what she saw which is why she turned around and made a joke"

[SapphireNoir10]

Maybee she was. Maybe maybe maybe. Maybe isnt going to get you anywhereee. SPEAKKKK.

[Dako]

You missed another chance to step out of your confinement.

 

I'd have at least smiled and said, "Have a fine evening."

[rocio]

yeah, did you at least say goodbye, have a nice day, when you got off the elevator. That's just basic manners.

 

For you and all other men who have a hard time approaching women in public, I suggest you open up to people in general. Get in the habit of making eye contact and giving a little smile to strangers - whether it's an old lady, a guy your age, whatever. Make small talk with cashiers, hold the door open for the person and when they thank you, look them in the eyes and say "have a good day". Just open up and be friendly. Then when there's that attractive woman you're dying to say something to, it will come naturally.

[Brightest Dark]

Possibly. But I don't think you should think about everything being an 'opportunity'. If it happens, it happens. There's not much you can do about it now. You can't turn back time. It's too late.

[greenmonster]

you shoulda said..."I'm glad no one got on either...I didn't want to have to worry about an audience watching when I ask you out"

 

or something totally cheezy like..."damn..I wish someone would have got on so I could have blamed the fart I just let out on them instead of you knowing it was me..."

 

or..."me too...in fact I was hoping you were going to get off so that I could sing along with the muzak Journey without feeling like a total tool"

 

maybe..."me too...that way we can discuss plans for dinner in private"

 

maybe even go with something totally simple like "yah..sometimes I think this building is haunted...hi my name is (insert name here) I live on (insert floor #)...*extend hand in a handshake type jesutre*"

 

something dumb like "I always wonder what happens if someone pushes the button the says 'no, wait...TODAY is the day I start taking the stairs...RIGHT NOW'" which you could pull off in a Seinfield like comedic style if you can pull that off...

 

or go with something totally lame and cheezy all at once like "I'm glad it stopped...I'm busy trying to work up the nerve to ask you out and I'm not quite there yet..."

 

 

dude...elevators are a captive audience...but a captive audience for only like 5 seconds...so you gotta have a game plan!!!

 

next time make a move...bust out anything...just say hi I'm Dave and I like mexican food...I mean christ saying something off the wall and stupid is better than nothing at all..

[ghost69]

since noone was in the elevator you could have turned to her 'oh i'm sorry, were you talking to me?' but say it sarcastic cause you know you were the only 2 on the elevator.

[rocio]

or something totally cheezy like..."damn..I wish someone would have got on so I could have blamed the fart I just let out on them instead of you knowing it was me..."

 

are you serious?

[rootcause43]

Had a similar moment last night at Whole Foods. So I'm in the dairy section and I see a couple of women looking at the "Kefir" milk section. I had no idea what Kefir milk is but I'm always looking for new stuff to put in my body so I asked one of them what the deal was with "Kefir" milk.

 

Mind you, I was not looking to pick up - I just wanted to know what the heck this stuff was in the dairy section that women gravitate to....

 

The next thing I know I'm looking at this beautiful girl next door face with big brown eyes and a mesmerizing smile. She tells me the milk has pro biotic properties and that she is trying to kick start her immune system, etc etc. I tell her I'm a fan of Greek Yogurt because I hear it has similar qualities. So we are bonding. And as she is talking to me, she brushes my shoulder (intentionally) with her hand as she is talking and looking at me and smiling at me.

 

So I got the shoulder tap within 60 seconds of talking to her! And I froze like a junior high school boy. I ended up thanking her for informing me abou t Kefir milk virtues and then walked away. I was just at a loss for what to say next - and I'm usually pretty good about keeping the conversation lines going.

 

Now maybe she was just being friendly. Maybe she was already attached. I can be flirty and touchy too on occasion even when I'm attached. So this is not a definite that she was showing her availability.

 

But I froze. Bahhhhh. I think I'm going back to Whole Foods at 7pm next Monday. Maybe she has a weekly shopping routine.

[ConfusedDater]

I know this kind of approached worked for a friend of mine

 

"Excuse me, do you have a minute, Just bare with with me because I don't normally approach women in public because I'm shy but I just really had to tell you shy or not that I think you are very attractive.

 

 

That was his opening that worked everytime

[greenmonster]

are you serious?

 

yes I'm serious...you say that then laugh because its not true, unless it actually was true that you farted...then your SOL

 

but saying something off the wall like that and getting a laugh or a smile out of someone is all it takes to start up a conversation...

 

its funny...it works

[greenmonster]

I know this kind of approached worked for a friend of mine

 

"Excuse me, do you have a minute, Just bare with with me because I don't normally approach women in public because I'm shy but I just really had to tell you shy or not that I think you are very attractive.

 

 

That was his opening that worked everytime

 

christ thats like going up to a girl with a puppy with a broken leg and asking for help...

[rocio]

I don't think most women like it when you talk about farting while trying to pick them up.

[ghost69]

next time get on and be like 'HAHA, now that i'm here you can't fart!' most humorous girls would really crack up at that.

[greenmonster]

I don't think most women like it when you talk about farting while trying to pick them up.

 

Oh I agree...but thats just it...its not actually talking about farting its making a joke...

 

granted, its a fart joke sure...but then again, when was the last time you actually heard a stranger drop out a fart joke?

 

it has shock value...it gets attention and its funny

[rocio]

well, guys, I guess I'm just not humorous because I would give the guy a dirty look and shake my head as I walked away.

[greenmonster]

win some loose some...we aren't all perfect for eachother!!

[Dako]

I still think a smile and a sincere greeting are better than hogging the spotlight of a brief encounter.

To me, it would be about her.

[rocio]

Nothing impresses me more than a guy with manners.

 

Next time you find yourself alone in an elevator with an attractive woman, ask which floor she's heading to, press the button for her, and when she thanks you, hold her eye contact and ask how her day is going. It's such a smooth and simple move.

[ghost69]

Nothing impresses me more than a guy with manners.

 

 

so the guy that says nothing and is calm and reserved in the elevator is good for you? he sounds really exciting.

 

it's just a joke. not like he farted in your face.

[rocio]

I'm sure there are girls out there who would find that cute.

 

I would personally find it a bit disrespectful. In my opinion, it's important for a man to know what is appropriate to say in a particular situation and I would probably assume that his mama didn't teach him manners.

 

Guys that try to impress me with some flashy pickup line or outragous joke don't do much for me. But if you want to make my heart skip a beat, hold my gaze and give a confident hint of a smile. I'll be thinking about you all day and that is definitely exciting.