Why can't he be younger??!!!!!

[spongbobwho]

OK I really need some advice. I started a new job a few months ago and met an awesome guy. We've gone out a few times and talk 24/7. He's really a good guy. He looks like he's in his late 20s. I'm 20 years old, so I thought no big deal right? WRONG! I found out he's actually 35! I thought he was younger and he thought I was older. I guess we should have asked each other a little sooner than we did. Is a 15 year age gap a big deal? He wants to give it a try and I think I do too, but is that weird? I really really like him. He's absolutely perfect in every other way. Please give me some input. Thanks!

[Lana0120]

It's a pretty big gap, but if you thought he was younger and you like him... why not give it a shot? Age gap relationships aren't without their problems, but the fact that look older and he looks younger means you're not going to have so many people judging you for starters. And besides, at the end of the day, it's what makes you happy that matters and if you think he will make you happy... I think it is worth trying for. Oh yeah, and that's all that's between Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise, anyways.

[annie24]

 

 

you posted about this recently.

 

i say go for it, if you like him and he likes you, go for it. be careful because you work together.

 

i don't think a 15 year age gap is a huge deal, then again, it doesn't really matter what a bunch of internet strangers think, the most important thing is that YOU and HE are ok with it.

[littlestar]

My parents have a 14 year age gap between them and it doesnt interfere with their relationship. Although they are compatible in other areas that has nothing to do with age.

I am attracted to a man 24 years my senior and it hasnt stopped me telling him of my attraction for him.

[just M.E.]

Go for it, my uncle and his wife are over 20 yrs (him older). I dated a man 31 years older than me once and one 10 years younger.

[Dako]

He doesn't sound all that defective.Too bad you aren't 15 years older, but he might overlook your numerical failings.

LOL.

 

If it feels right, why not?

[loveandhate81]

When i was 20, i met this guy and he was 36 and today we are still together, he still treats me like a queen, and i am so in love with him! i say go for it, at least dont discounted him because of his age!

[PixelPusher]

It's not physical age... it is maturity.

 

I think the work thing is a bigger issue than the age gap, so be aware. Ask yourself whether you'd be able to be amicable and professional with him IF things go bad between you. I suggest before you get into the relationship you sit down and discuss how to handle things at work both from within the relationship and if it went bad.

 

For what it's worth, my girlfriend (very serious, BTW) of 1.5 years is 9 years younger than I am AND we met at work. Though she no longer works here. (She found a better job somewhere else).

[knightNshiningarmor]

you have to understand though there might be some judgement from family and friends and you need to be ok with that going in because if your not he'll know it and it will fail before it even starts. people judge that which they dont understand and will probably judge both you and him for it but at the end of the day its not about others only about yourselves.