Help with "small talk"

[woofwoof33]

Ok, I've been here in Phoenix for only a few months and don't know too many people. I got out of a relationship before I moved here and haven't dated in awhile. I got into a car accident and I've had to go to a chiropractor for the past month.

 

What's good about this is that I find the receptionist very hot and sweet, cute girl next door. She's exactly my type and I've been making small talk as best I can when I go in. Now the first few weeks I was actually in some pain so I kept it short and sweet. She knows me by name, and I'm not real sure if she's interested. It's her job to be nice and friendly. The bulk of her clientele is senior citizens. I've never seen someone younger than 50 beside myself (25). She's younger, I think 20.

 

I'm really not sure how to proceed from here, because it has been a long time since I dated and I've never asked someone out at their workplace before.

 

Me, I'm not that attractive, but I'm not ugly either. I'm a bit overweight, but I'm 6' so it's not too bad for my height. I do have money however and I dress well. I know stuff like that isn't necessarily that important, but hey, it can't hurt right? She made a comment about my watch so I know she's noticed. She's flirty, but I think it might be just be her being nice, and I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend.

 

She's probably the hottest girl I've ever considered asking out, so I'm a bit unsure.

 

can you help me out with good small talk I can make at her workplace....some days it's very dead there and I can squeeze in a few minutes before and after my appointment.

 

Info I'd like to get....is she interested at all or just being nice? Is she single? When do I ask her out (I'm not going to need to see the chiropractor after a few more weeks), how to ask her out? How to not be creepy!!!!?! GRR....I just want to ask her out, but I don't want to make her uncomfortable either. I don't care about rejection.

 

HELP!!

[AwdreeHpburn]

Hey woof woof - I don't know how to tell someone to be funny, but making a girl laugh almost ALWAYS open them up!

 

asking her questions about things she likes or getting her to talk about herself is ALWAYS a good idea too. People LOVE to talk about themselves. If you can just get her on a ramble or two, eventually she'll say something like, "my boyfriend and I...." and you'll have your answer bout that part.

 

But - if she doesn't..... as for asking her out, if you're really not intimidated by rejection (and good for you!) just out with it some time. Just ask her if she wants to hook up after work some day for coffee or a drink.

[woofwoof33]

Hey woof woof - I don't know how to tell someone to be funny, but making a girl laugh almost ALWAYS open them up!

 

asking her questions about things she likes or getting her to talk about herself is ALWAYS a good idea too. People LOVE to talk about themselves. If you can just get her on a ramble or two, eventually she'll say something like, "my boyfriend and I...." and you'll have your answer bout that part.

 

But - if she doesn't..... as for asking her out, if you're really not intimidated by rejection (and good for you!) just out with it some time. Just ask her if she wants to hook up after work some day for coffee or a drink.

 

That's a good start. I'd appreciate it if women, and perhaps those with jobs where they get hit on at work (receptionists, waitresses, etc.) can chime in with some advice.

 

I only have a few minutes tops and she's answering phones and stuff, I don't want to be a pest. I can be funny, but sometimes it can be tough being funny with a stranger whom I don't know. I really want to find some common ground for us so she doesn't just think I'm after because she's hot (SHE IS!!!). Also, being four years older....I don't want to be that creepy older guy either. Bah, so frustrated.

 

Anyone have a tip on something that can be cute or funny without being stupid. How can I find out common ground? I'm pretty cool with my massage therapist. She works there and knows her, should I try asking info from her? My worry is that as soon as I leave, she'll run and tell her and that might not be good.

 

I guess I'm trying to get at...I want her to know I'm genuinely interested in getting to know her, not just because she's hot.

[ghost69]

'so where do you go out on the weekends?' hopefully she is 21. just keep talking to her.

 

once really slick thing i do when i meet a girl (this is out on the town) 'you here with your bf?' or i noticed something she is wearing that is unique 'oh you bf, buy you that?' if she looks at her phone, 'checking to see if your bf called/texted?' it's a simple question that gets my answer. usually the girl doesn't have a bf or she would be out with him and not talking to me. but i get my answer and isn't offensive in any way. they usually blush and say 'i don't have a bf.' BINGO.