cptanarky Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I really miss my ex's body.... she had the hottest body i had ever come accross double D natural breasts, slim with a shapely ass long blond hair and a very pretty face.... every girl since her has just not stacked up.... (maybe cos i am just so used to that body type) i feel like i want her back even tho she is a cheat and was absolutley crazy sometimes and is going out with a former friend of mine lol but i just cant bring myself to like other girls assets like i did hers.... yer im shallow but cant help it.... i did go out with her for 3 years so there was MUCH more then just her body to her.... but it would make it so much easier if she was not so damn attractive dont think il pull anything like it again... anyone else in this boat? Link to comment
blueyes85 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I don't think you're shallow. I can totally relate. Although my ex's body wasn't perfect, his face was absolutely flawless. Of course you loved other things about her (or you wouldn't have stayed with her for 3 yrs.), but being very good looking can make exes harder to get over I think. We always think we'll never find someone better. But hey, you must be pretty attractive yourself if you 'pulled her,' haha. You will find someone else and think she is just as perfect. And uhh, all the good looks in the world really can't compensate for the fact hat your ex was a cheat and "absolutely crazy"! Remember that! Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 There's more to people than just looks. Start looking for their inner beauty rather than the outer beauty. Link to comment
GottaLetItBurn Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I know how you feel but I know I can get just about any girl I want if I try. I thought more about maybe I'm just attracted to her, but I know it's more. I am just really attached and miss the good times around her, I got so attached it's ridiculous. Looks only matter for so long and I know I'm not deeply shallow. I get what your saying though, when you care about someone and they are so pretty it's even harder than if you weren't even attracted. Link to comment
Jonboy582 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I had a quick relationship with one girl. And my god did she have a nice body, most girls dress well and look worse with clothes off this girl just got better. And yes I miss it but I don't want her back (would sleep with her again though lol) I don't think its shallow unless your only thinking about her looks and not what you once had. Link to comment
cichlid Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 There's more to people than just looks. Start looking for their inner beauty rather than the outer beauty. I used to think like that. I sat in a relationship for 2 years and found my ex to be unattractive. Which is funny because I'm sure more women would say my ex is more attractive than my current BF. I'll admit shallowness...the main difference between a good friend and a SO is how physically attracted to them you are. Sure inner beauty should be there as well, but I wouldn't ignore outer beauty again. It's very important. Should the OP simply want his ex back because of her body? No. Note: I am actually not that picky when it comes to how my men look. Link to comment
HajiMaji Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 My first substantial ex was gorgeous. She modeled in a lot of advertising. There is no way anyone I meet will ever look as good as she did, but I am totally ok with it. At this point in my life, I dont care so much about those things. I guess, heres the deal.. If I am sick and you take care of me well, of course that is going to make me assosiate loving feelings with your face and body. If we have a good time at the beach, I will remember the imperfect curves underneath your swimming suit and smile because I the day was great. If I am having just a regular day and you let me know you are thinking of me by putting a note and picture on my car while I am at work, of course I am going to think that face in the picture is perfect. Love is such a beatiful thing, and if you have that with someone, you will not wish them to be any other way. Knowing this, when I look for a woman, I look for their capacity for love (and a bit of chemistry If I dont think they are hot the first time I meet them, they will definitely be hot after an established relationship based off love. And the better a woman is able to exercise love, the more attractive they become to me. Link to comment
cptanarky Posted January 28, 2008 Author Share Posted January 28, 2008 I don't think you're shallow. I can totally relate. Although my ex's body wasn't perfect, his face was absolutely flawless. Of course you loved other things about her (or you wouldn't have stayed with her for 3 yrs.), but being very good looking can make exes harder to get over I think. We always think we'll never find someone better. But hey, you must be pretty attractive yourself if you 'pulled her,' haha. You will find someone else and think she is just as perfect. And uhh, all the good looks in the world really can't compensate for the fact hat your ex was a cheat and "absolutely crazy"! Remember that! That is true... it doesnt really make up for it (however im kinda crazy as well so we balanced each other out lol) i do get quite abit of female attention however i am quite shy deep down ( i used to be over weight... gym fit these days, this still kinda effects my confidence) and the ones that i really like... (like her for instance, however she was the one that chased me) im just to shy to make an approach and hate to seem dodgy even when i know the girl likes me!! ](*,)](*,). Thanks for the replies! Link to comment
TheSmilingTurnip Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Ok, that is an amazing frickin post. I have definitely noticed that I need a little attraction and some chemistry to start a relationship - they don't have to look perfect. Right now I am seeing someone very very good looking, and when I perceive that his behavior is not that great, I find him less attractive to me. When I like his behavior, I find him to be hotter than hot. See what I mean? Link to comment
blueyes85 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Totally agree with phreckles and hajimaji. If you have intense chemistry with someone, they become more attractive to you...and the more you get to know somebody, the better looking they become. I didn't even care for my ex when we first met; thought he was OK but not my type...and within a few months of being together, I thought he was just perfect. Plus, attraction is so personal...everyone has something different that 'does it' for them! Your trash may be my treasure...and vice versa Link to comment
glimmerofhope Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 My ex was a very attractive woman, with curves like you would not believe. While I cannot deny having had a hearty appreciation for those superficial qualities, the thing I miss most about her body was how perfect it felt nestled up next to me while watching a flick together on the couch. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Can't say that I do. Link to comment
doyathink Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 nope. It still comes around daily. Link to comment
Sickboy48 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 AFter the last girl i dated, umm not really. Link to comment
comfyshoes Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 sure i miss it, but i had to move it. it was beginning to stink up the place and it was attracting flies Link to comment
doyathink Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 sure i miss it, but i had to move it. it was beginning to stink up the place and it was attracting flies LOL! Hey, are you going to be on the next 'Cold Case' files? Link to comment
rapunzel Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Yes, my ex has a beautiful body and in my opinion, a beautiful face. With his boyish good looks, he appears much younger than his age of 48. I have to admit that his looks were/are part of the attraction. He also has a wonderful natural smell. Our physical chemistry was to me, transcendent. He is almost a foot taller than me and I wonder in the long run if this would be a problem, that much of a height difference. It doesn't matter I guess, at this point. Link to comment
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