scared and alone Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 If my relationship really is over, I just don't think I can have sex with anyone else. I've always been the girl that wants to only have one partner and I still feel like that. I can't imagine doing it with anybody else. How * * * * ed up is that. It's not that I wouldn't be able to as in nobody would want me, its just personally I just don't think I could allow it to happen. And the thought of HIM with anybody else, makes me want to vomit. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 Hey Scared and alone - I'm sorry. I do know how you feel. The only advice I have is.... I understand that you feel that way, but don't cling to it. Not for too long anyway. It will drive you nuts thinking about him and you'll have a hard time moving on thinking about it for yourself. Don't focus on that aspect is all I'm saying. Take time to mourn your loss first. Then worry about what will happen if and when either of you move on. Keep posting! Link to comment
scared and alone Posted January 27, 2008 Author Share Posted January 27, 2008 well we're gonna talk about it and try to work it out, but if hes not willing to stop being so damn stubborn, its only hurting ME. but yeah, this just sucks. he was my first and i wanted to lose it to someone i'd be with for a very long time. not just 2 years. This is a VERY important issue to me. I dont regret it but at the same time... I hate it. Link to comment
Dako Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 I understand, and I'm a guy! Sex is a pretty darn personal matter, but when your heart goes out to someone who understands, sex will seem secondary to real love. Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 I get where you're coming from, because I'm the same way. Just hang in there and don't focus on the sex aspect of it. Don't let wanting to only have one sexual partner be the reason you stay. Link to comment
scared and alone Posted January 27, 2008 Author Share Posted January 27, 2008 lol Alea, im NOT trust me. im just saying if i ever do have to be with anybody else, i dont think I can... Link to comment
Dako Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 I felt much the same way after decades with one woman. It was delightful to be so wrong. Link to comment
blender Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 If my relationship really is over, I just don't think I can have sex with anyone else. I've always been the girl that wants to only have one partner and I still feel like that. I can't imagine doing it with anybody else. How * * * * ed up is that. It's not that I wouldn't be able to as in nobody would want me, its just personally I just don't think I could allow it to happen. And the thought of HIM with anybody else, makes me want to vomit. Honey the way you're feeling right now is natural, your heart is aching, you had "planned" on being with only one guy, but it's okay, you loved, you tried, you learned, and you will heal and grow way past this.. Remember "feelings' are different then the "facts" and the FACT is you will love again, you will find intamcy within a committed loyal respectful loving relationship at some point.. right now this time is for YOU, to allow this heartache to guide you to discover your own strength, how you can rise above this pain to heal and love again... At times we are all overwhelmingly sad in life, those times are the opportunity to learn, grow, heal, and celebrate your own independence... All those thoughts or fears you have about when will YOU ever love again, and what IF HE loves someone else.. those are fears.. there normal, but they are not going to destroy you, they will empower you to choose to take this heartache as a gift, an emotional bridge of growing that you needed to walk over in order to discover more of who YOU are and what YOU want in life and in love.. You're going to get through this, I promise, you will have sometime of crying your eyes out, followed by moments of letting go, then crying again, then feeling a bit stronger, then growing and accepting that sometimes in life things don't always work out the way we hoped they would, but FATE has a way of doing what we "need" more than what we "want" and it's all for a reason.. trust this.. Keep writing on here, and try not to think or fear too much about the future, you have NOW, one day at a time, for now you just take care of your own healing heart.. one baby step at a time to a whole new happy you... you're growing up, you're learning, FATE is preparing you for that special love... it's all for a reason. Continue to respect your own heart, mind and body, you're a nice girl and right now you are going through a tough transition, just remember that you are still as precious and wonderful as ever.. and FATE is getting you ready for the most wonderful guy to come into your life.. but right now it's time for you to discover YOU. Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 lol Alea, im NOT trust me. im just saying if i ever do have to be with anybody else, i dont think I can... All of us had this happen to us at some point (why else are we here? Trust us, the way you're feeling is totally normal and will pass! I felt that way too. You will want to have sex again. No, you'll really want to have sex again! Link to comment
scared and alone Posted January 27, 2008 Author Share Posted January 27, 2008 well im not even a sexual person as is and with this, i just cant imagine doing it again with anybody else. hell i was shocked that i even had sex to begin with. lol Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 you will get over the break up. just takes time. Link to comment
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