Update on The Guy

[knightingale]

To summarize on those who don't know, I met this guy a few weeks ago by way of mutual friends and we hit it off really well. We wound up falling asleep together one night, just sleep, and when I left the next day he kissed me. He neglected to get my number, however, and we didn't see each other for two weeks--last night. School had started and schedules were crazy, so I'm not sure it would have made much of a difference, but it still bothered me that we didn't see or talk for that long. I just assumed he'd lost interest some time between our kiss and me walking to my car. Anyhoo . . .

 

So last night there was a huge party for his roommate's birthday--an ex co-worker and a friend of mine--and there were A LOT of people there. The guy is very much a host, so he floated around most of the evening, talking with everyone and having a good time. We'd said hello when I came over and managed to avoid any awkwardness, but I was still trying to feel out how he was feeling about me. At first, I decided his neglect to really hang around me all too much was just that he just wasn't interested anymore. But it got to be late in the evening/early in the morning and a few of us wound falling asleep on his roommates bed watching The Office. He put his arms around me and we cuddled (that expression is kind of sappy to me, but I don't really know how else to put it) and then he made me a sandwhich to take with me to work. We hugged this time, but didn't kiss. I think he wanted to, but I'm not one for making first moves until there's some kind of established something between us and he didn't really move in for it either. And yet! Yes. He still neglected to ask for my number. We just sort of communicate via our friends, but it's getting kind of old. So, I guess the question is:

 

Should I be reading into the fact that he hasn't asked for my number yet? I feel like I should. Or, should I be judging everything by all other actions from him--initiated the cuddle session, kissing me the first time, making me a sandwhich etc.? Part of me wants to just give him my number the next time we see each other, or send it to him through Facebook, but I feel kind of ridiculous giving it to him when he hasn't made an effort to ask for it yet.

 

[Altruist]

I'd suggest that you give it to him and then wait for him to make the next move from then on. He seems to like you but somehow doesn't know how to break the ice.

[itsallgrand]

Just my opinion.

 

Forget about it, and if he asks for your number at a later date and you are still interested, then think about it again if you want.

 

But for now I'd put him and the possibilities out of mind. Because the rhythm has been set at casual.

 

I have found that when physical closeness comes before some one on one time (preferably dates) and some sort of other acknowledgments of interest, that the motivation to ask for the number and all that usually dwindles down or disappears.

 

So the best chance, IMO, is to let it be and when you see again, don't cuddle him! Wait out for him to ask you out, and simply enjoy his company as a person.

 

Basically just throw expectations out the window and let things run a natural course.

 

good luck.

[knightingale]

Both of these posts were very helpful. I find the complete difference in opinion interesting. Nonetheless, I'll practice restraint the next time we see each other. I can't help it! I like to cuddle!

 

Keep the opinions coming. The more, the better.

[CallingAllAngels]

I would wait...much as you don't want to...but wait....see what he does...let him ask for you number. He knows where to find you.

[scotty77]

The guy has kissed you and cuddled you but he can't get up the nerve to ask for your number?? That doesn't make any sense,sorry but I don't think you are high on his priority list ,so I wouldn't hang around waiting.

[knightingale]

So I sent him a casual IM on AIM the other night. He replied and we talked for a few minutes, but then he had to leave. Tonight I messaged him again and he didn't reply, and I was online for quite a while. So I deleted him from my buddy list and if he really wants anything to do with me, like allie said, he knows where to find me.

[Altruist]

So I sent him a casual IM on AIM the other night. He replied and we talked for a few minutes, but then he had to leave. Tonight I messaged him again and he didn't reply, and I was online for quite a while. So I deleted him from my buddy list and if he really wants anything to do with me, like allie said, he knows where to find me.

 

How has it been going with The Guy, Florence Knightingale?