K056 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Okay so there's this girl everything about her is great(smart, funny, cute) But I recently learned she has a dating philosophy/rule where she wont date anyone until she's out of collage(we're both juniors in high school) and "is like 150% in love with them and wants to marry them." I do fully respect her rule and I don't want to manipulate her at all. I want to date her, and she would want to date me if she didn't have her rule. All of this leaves me in a tuff place because I dont know what to do. Any advice? Thanks, K056 Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Really? So if Brad Pitt comes up to her and says he really really wants to date her she will say no? Link to comment
toshiba Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Well...I'd wait until she grows up.....because it sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do. She won't date someone until she's 150% in love with them and wants to marry them? Not possible. That sounds like something that am 8 year old would say (sorry, but it does). Trust me, you don't want to date someone with this philosophy because it's a philosophy that's not based upon reality. Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Okay so there's this girl everything about her is great(smart, funny, cute) But I recently learned she has a dating philosophy/rule where she wont date anyone until she's out of collage(we're both juniors in high school) and "is like 150% in love with them and wants to marry them." I do fully respect her rule and I don't want to manipulate her at all. I want to date her, and she would want to date me if she didn't have her rule. All of this leaves me in a tuff place because I dont know what to do. Any advice? Thanks, K056 Maybe she told you this cause she doesn't want to date you, but didn't want to hurt your feelings. Link to comment
boo121 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Maybe she told you this cause she doesn't want to date you, but didn't want to hurt your feelings. bingo!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
Superfreak Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Move on. I don't necessarily think this was a veiled rejection of you in particular, but it's an additional barrier to the already complicated task of trying to date. Her attitude will probably change before she graduates college, but if you really want a girl right now I'd suggest moving to more receptive territory. Link to comment
K056 Posted January 27, 2008 Author Share Posted January 27, 2008 Move on. I don't necessarily think this was a veiled rejection of you in particular, but it's an additional barrier to the already complicated task of trying to date. Her attitude will probably change before she graduates college, but if you really want a girl right now I'd suggest moving to more receptive territory. Yeah I don't think its a rejection either. I think she's scared to complicate her life with a relationship. I dont know if i should confront or say anything to her about this, and if need be how i would go about doing that. -K056 Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 hats off to people that want to focus on their school and career future. but once they make it that far, they have no social skills to get the job. good luck to her. Link to comment
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 thats her philosophy, its what she wants. she sounds like a boring individual to boot Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 totally agree. these are the people that end up searching for someone their whole lives. they always say 'i have a great job, my own place, a nice car, etc. but nobody to share it with. what is wrong with me?' Link to comment
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 i wouldnt say all that, i dont see anything wrong with her waiting until after college to find someone, she'll might be socially immature in that area and it would take her awhile probaly to find someone, but nothing wrong with it. i just find her boring, probaly one of those girls who rather read a book than spend time with her man Link to comment
K056 Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 i wouldnt say all that, i dont see anything wrong with her waiting until after college to find someone, she'll might be socially immature in that area and it would take her awhile probaly to find someone, but nothing wrong with it. i just find her boring, probaly one of those girls who rather read a book than spend time with her man I wouldn't have tried to date her if i found her boring. And i hope she does find somebody. Link to comment
boo121 Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 hats off to people that want to focus on their school and career future. but once they make it that far, they have no social skills to get the job. good luck to her. lol. Depends what you are studying. I'm doing architecture and that involves meeting with clients / presentations and develops the social skills to meet people. Link to comment
angellight Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 Okay so there's this girl everything about her is great(smart, funny, cute) But I recently learned she has a dating philosophy/rule where she wont date anyone until she's out of collage(we're both juniors in high school) and "is like 150% in love with them and wants to marry them." IK056 S'cuse me????? How does she plan on falling 150% in love with someone and find herself wanting to marry them if she doesn't date them first...Very doubtful that she is going to meet someone and BANG!!!! IM IN LOVE AND THIS IS THE ONE...weird... Link to comment
Batya33 Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 I don't get the whole "complications of a relationship" - the relationships I was involved in for the most part enhanced the other parts of my life - including career - when I was working crazy hours in school or at work, all it meant was that I found someone who could relate to that, typically someone going through the same thing, so that when/how I could see the person wasn't taken personally or as a rejection. I do agree that trying to have young children while building a demanding career can "complicate" things but a romantic relationship whether dating, marriage, living together, should make life less complicated not more, or at least, neutral. OP - she's not available to date - don't worry about whether it's a rejection because she barely knows you. It also could be her personal excuse to avoid putting herself out there. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 I don't understand how a 10 month year old post suddenly get's re-opened??? Link to comment
angellight Posted October 3, 2008 Share Posted October 3, 2008 LOL...Looks like opening that post is my fault...Didnt notice the dates.....MY BAD Link to comment
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