stratguy620 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 So Ive been with my gf for a year now, and Im crazy about her. The one thing that kinda bothers me is the fact that she was pretty wild when it came to sex, at least before she and I got together. I dont mean with lots of guys or she slept around or anything...its just that before we even started going out, she would tell me stories about how "adventurous" her and her ex were. For instance, he worked at a golf course, and she suggested they sneak out onto the course in the middle of the night and make love on the green under the moon. It sounded incredibly fun, and I was excited when we started going out, cause I figured this wildness would carry on. Well, like I said its a been a year now, and I almost have to force her to even make out with me. When we do sleep together, its fairly rare for kids our age (20, 21), and she just seems like she's bored with it. It makes me feel bad enough that Im not getting the satisfaction that I want, and it doesnt seem like she is enjoying sex anymore, but its even worse that I know that she probably would have been all crazy and sexy with her ex. I dont really know how to bring the matter up to her without sounding like an a-hole...also, I know she started taking anti-depressants right around when we got together...I think this may have lots to do with it, but Im not sure...anyone have any advice? Link to comment
greenmonster Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 was she all wild and crazy in the sack with you at first and then died off or has she just been a dud the whole time? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 the horses are already out of the barn......you will always be trying to be better than her Caddyshack boyfriend.....i think eventually you will tire of her and move on to something fresh. do not ask questions about her past!! Link to comment
Iwantittoend Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I'm kind of in a similar situation. My gf told me all these things her and her ex used to do and then we did it and she always wanted to take it slow. She told me it's mainly because she thinks she moved too fast in her last relationships and she's matured a little bit. Then as we got closer, things got better. I don't think it really has anything to do with you. But just bring it up casually in a conversation saying that you just don't feel she's that into it anymore. See what she has to say. Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 was she all wild and crazy in the sack with you at first and then died off or has she just been a dud the whole time? Just because she isn't adventurous does NOT make her a "dud" but for the OP. Why not try new things, like get her sexy lingerie, get a couple of sex games, try doing it in different places. Spice it up a little. Blind folds, whip cream...take charge. Link to comment
someguy88 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 My advice is to get better with sex. I don't mean just in the bedroom. If you want to get a woman really hot for you then you should make her feel good about herself. Look at foreplay as something that goes on all the time when you're not having sex. Make her feel loved. Make her feel like your sex goddess. Let her know that she's sexy but also let her know that you respect her and appreciate other things about her outside of sex. If you're expecting to have hot sex but you fail to do the proper prep work then you're spinning your tires. Put in a little effort and make her want you as much as you want her. Link to comment
greenmonster Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Just because she isn't adventurous does NOT make her a "dud" if you expect something wild and crazy and instead get lame and boring then I would call that a dud... I mean...when you light a firecracker...you expect a big bang...but when you just get a fizzle and a pop then its called a dud....right? Link to comment
Snoopy24 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 if you expect something wild and crazy and instead get lame and boring then I would call that a dud... I mean...when you light a firecracker...you expect a big bang...but when you just get a fizzle and a pop then its called a dud....right? No, if she "used' to be wild and crazy but isn't now, then maybe he's not doing the right things to turn her on. Link to comment
Natty7 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 My advice is to get better with sex. I don't mean just in the bedroom. If you want to get a woman really hot for you then you should make her feel good about herself. Look at foreplay as something that goes on all the time when you're not having sex. Make her feel loved. Make her feel like your sex goddess. Let her know that she's sexy but also let her know that you respect her and appreciate other things about her outside of sex. If you're expecting to have hot sex but you fail to do the proper prep work then you're spinning your tires. Put in a little effort and make her want you as much as you want her. Not even my thread and I gave you a rep point. LISTEN UP TO SOMEGUY~ THIS WILL WORK! Link to comment
Mavh25 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Maybe you went into the relationship expecting way too much.... Maybe she was just trying to get you excited but she was never actually like that Whats stopping YOU from making suggestions about spicing things up and doing it elsewhere? I also agree with someguy Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 maybe she is still wild and crazy, but now you are just used to it as normal. Link to comment
greenmonster Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 heres the plan... lay out a big plastic tarp in your living room...fill up a bunch of water ballons just like half way so they don't break easy...scatter them all around the tarp...get nekkid...cover yourselves with excessive ammounts of baby oil...then wrestle... I'm not sure if this will help anything but it just came into my mind as something fun to do. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 heres the plan... lay out a big plastic tarp in your living room...fill up a bunch of water ballons just like half way so they don't break easy...scatter them all around the tarp...get nekkid...cover yourselves with excessive ammounts of baby oil...then wrestle... I'm not sure if this will help anything but it just came into my mind as something fun to do. hahaha. nice. Link to comment
richmonder80 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 My advice is to get better with sex. I don't mean just in the bedroom. If you want to get a woman really hot for you then you should make her feel good about herself. Look at foreplay as something that goes on all the time when you're not having sex. Make her feel loved. Make her feel like your sex goddess. Let her know that she's sexy but also let her know that you respect her and appreciate other things about her outside of sex. If you're expecting to have hot sex but you fail to do the proper prep work then you're spinning your tires. Put in a little effort and make her want you as much as you want her. or he could be packing an inadequate wang for her. Not saying you are small...just not enough for her to be gongho about doing it with you. Like men, women are horn ball when they are turned on...so she may not be turned on by you. Not trying to be mean, just trying to give you a different perspective Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Is she still on her anti-depressants? Link to comment
Natty7 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 heres the plan... lay out a big plastic tarp in your living room...fill up a bunch of water ballons just like half way so they don't break easy...scatter them all around the tarp...get nekkid...cover yourselves with excessive ammounts of baby oil...then wrestle... I'm not sure if this will help anything but it just came into my mind as something fun to do. This would spice up ANY relationship! lol... You said she was on anti-depressants? Do you ever talk about that with her.... Why is she on them? (not obvious because she is depressed) When I was a teenager I used to take them because I was constantly overwhelmed... Did something happen? She could just be honestly, going through an emotional time right now and really needs you to be more honed into her needs. Then when she is well, the fun might resurface. What do you think? Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Maybe you went into the relationship expecting way too much.... Maybe she was just trying to get you excited but she was never actually like that Whats stopping YOU from making suggestions about spicing things up and doing it elsewhere? I also agree with someguy This is exactly what I was thinking. She may have been exagerating. Link to comment
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