Height preference for gay people?

[pianoguy]

Hey all,

 

So I was reading a discussion on height preference in another part of the forum. I thought it might be interesting to see if gay men and women have a height preference in a partner. We know that straight people traditionally prefer the man to be taller, but I don't know of any traditions for gay people.

 

So, do you have a height preference? Do you prefer about the same height, taller, shorter? How tall are you, how tall have your partners been?

 

I'll go first- I'm 5"9" and my boyfriend is the same height almost exactly. My range of attraction is about 5'7" to 6'2". Shorter and I tend to not be attracted, taller and I tend to be intimidated or jealous. I notice that when I'm attracted to guys shorter than me they tend to be in fairly good shape, but when I'm attracted to tall guys they tend to be skinny.

[Snoopy24]

I'm not gay, but I have been with girls in the past.

 

I'm 5'5. I prefer a girl between like 5'3 and 5'8.

[Puma]

I prefer both men and women of tall stature (although with women, I am more lenient and wouldn't mind dating one around my height). I like the look of long legs on both sexes and to me, it makes me feel as if they're the dominant/protective figure in the relationship.

[mgirl]

I am 5'10", i wouldn't settle for anyone less than 5'8".

[BrokenTinMan]

I'm gay. I like guys who are as tall as me or shorter, and slightly chubby but not flabby(!) I'm skinny, so I tend to not be attracted to skinny guys.

 

My ex was perfect He fit the mold so perfectly.

[mgirl]

My ex was perfect He fit the mold so perfectly.

 

Go and get him back.

[hektic]

I'm 5'9 and I prefer someone my same height or taller, I don't find shorter guys attractive really.

[FoxLocke]

I have an extremely huge preference for tall guys. Okay, I won't discriminate against my fellow shorties (I'm 5'8 on a really good day); but I really love guys that look like they could play center in the NBA.

My ex-boyfriend is 6'3...Just something about looking up into their eyes or having em kiss you on the forehead.

 

I'd love to end up with someone well over six feet tall (possibly approaching seven). But if he's 5'3 and exhibits alot of great qualities then he is perfect too.

[vasilias]

Im 5.9 and ideally someone same would be great- but generally speaking if they are younger than me i dont mind them shorter, but if they are older than me i do want them taller than me. I had no problem with my ex who was a year younger and 6.1. I went out for a date recently tho with someone 6yrs older and i found it unnerving to look down upon his head at 5.7

[reisforpeace]

I think taller girls are more attractive. im 5.3ish and for some reason the girls that are a little shorter than me that i find atractive have a "boy" stlye hair cut. and the girls that are significantly taller and not skinney all have had long hair. Just a pattern that ive noticed.

[Imaginary]

The only time I had a beef with a guy I liked's height was when he was younger AND taller than me. In the end I ended up not caring... not that it mattered, because nothing ever happened, either way

[pianoguy]

I'd love to end up with someone well over six feet tall (possibly approaching seven).

 

See that's interesting... between 6' and 6'2" is attractive to me, but as you start to get taller than that it just starts to seem freakish to me.

But if he's 5'3 and exhibits alot of great qualities then he is perfect too.

 

I think it'd be hard to take someone seriously if they're that short... it would seem like dating an elf.

 

Have you ever noticed that people respect taller people more? Look at how silly Kucinich seems. I remember reading a report on salaries, and there is a definite correlation between height and how much you get paid... the taller you are the more likely you will get promoted.

 

There's a really funny episode on Will and Grace concerning this- he refers to this really short guy as a "pocket gay" meaning he can be carried around in a pocket, I suppose. I think the plot ends up that Will isn't interested because he's so short and then finally this poor guy does something at the end that reedems him and Will decides to give him a chance I think.

[oceanview]

See that's interesting... between 6' and 6'2" is attractive to me, but as you start to get taller than that it just starts to seem freakish to me.

 

LOL. Thanks.

 

I agree. I like my guys tall but not too tall. There are always exceptions but around 6' give or take a few inches.

 

I like it when I'm taller than a woman by a few inches. Really short is ok, but if she's taller then only by an inch or two. I like looking up at men, but not to women. I'm around 5 1/2'.

[JadedStar]

I like it when I'm taller than a woman by a few inches. Really short is ok, but if she's taller then only by an inch or two. I like looking up at men, but not to women. I'm around 5 1/2'.

 

I assume you are bi. What a very interesting thing...how you like the men taller, but like to be taller than the women.

[pianoguy]

I agree. I like my guys tall but not too tall. There are always exceptions but around 6' give or take a few inches.

 

I like it when I'm taller than a woman by a few inches. Really short is ok, but if she's taller then only by an inch or two. I like looking up at men, but not to women. I'm around 5 1/2'.

 

How interesting. When I posted this topic, bisexual people had somewhat slipped my mind. It didn't occur to me that there would be a different standard for both men and women.

 

Yet, I suppose this makes perfect sense in many ways. I'm gay, but if I think about the type of people I'm attracted to as friends, there is quite a difference. For boys I tend to like the quiet, shy, introverted and sensitive types, but for girls I like women who have strong opinions, and are forthright and bold about sharing them (I don't have a taste for divas, though, but I like smart women who know they are smart).

[oceanview]

I assume you are bi. What a very interesting thing...how you like the men taller, but like to be taller than the women.

 

In addition to attraction, I think it's because when with a man I want to feel protected in his arms as if he can shelter me from the world. If he's too small I may feel he can't protect me. I think I like to be that same shelter/protection for women.

[BrokenTinMan]

For some reason, I think some tall guys are smelly. Maybe because I dated 2 people before, one was 6, and one was 6'4 and they smelled funny. They look like they showered, no strong B.O., but they had an acidic smell? Like faint battery acid. I also feel like if they're taller, they might get the idea that I will find them instantly hotter, and that's a turn off. Just my experience, tall people don't get mad.

 

I'm weird. I think I have Napoleon syndrome. I'm only 5'9 after all...

 

About the comment on getting my ex back... I already tried. Man, but he is the hottest guy I've ever seen, even though my friends disagree. Husky, 5'9, smells soooo good even without cologne, and body hair in all the right places. /sigh.