CatsMeeoow Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Ok - So I work with animals... often times I have clients who come to me with behavior problems and so I teach the basics of behavior modification. Basically rewarding good / positive behavior. Starting out small - esp with phobias and when they reach a point a dog is anxious or hesitatnt they need to go down to the previous point where the dog was comfortable and keep reinforcing positively. So ---- the brick that hit me in the head today! I've been emailing my ex again... going well... (Insert positive reinforcement here!)... then I asked to call but low and behold he calls me first!... (insert positive reinforcement here)... I jokingly suggest later we get together on a weekend to watch a movie and drink some wine... (picture my ex suddenly getting anxious, pacing, turing his head, scraching at the back of his head... oops we're past comfort zone!)... take a step back and return to phone calls with positive reinforcement until he is more comfortable again... then ask to get together! Ok - so some might argure that indeed my ex is a dog... so why not? Actually this is ALL in jest as my ex is anything but a dog. The point is behavior modification does have it's place not only in the dog world but we actually used it with a pyschologist with my son who suffers an autistic spectrum disorder. And why did he love me in the first place? Because at one point he felt really good about himself when he was with me. He admittedly has up walls and guards himself closely. His ability to trust me is shakey - so it makes sense that when we reached beyond his comfort zone that I step back. Oh anyway - no one flame me here ---- I thought this was hilarious!!! Cats Link to comment
Opaque1997 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 To be honest I LOVE IT Whatever gets you through as long as it is getting you through and not holding you back. Remember you need the same treatment from yourself.. (reward yourself for being able to hold back and not beg) Link to comment
jettison Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I've made this point before on ENA. Will have to find the thread now. Dern, can't find it. Anyway, my recommendation was that people should be watching the Dog Whisperer for hints and advice on how to handle their mates. It's better then any other relationship advice show. Cuts right to the chase. Link to comment
CatsMeeoow Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 I'm starting to agree! Heck I've tried everything else... now where did I leave that clicker???? LOL! Link to comment
Little Blue Ant Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Bust out the clicker on him! (btw, I have two lovely dogs and positive reinforcement along with clicker training works WONDERS...particularly when the animal is food modivated) To be honest, if my ex would have clicked for everything I did well things may have been different. (joking, of course) great post, made me chuckle! I love dogs Link to comment
CatsMeeoow Posted January 26, 2008 Author Share Posted January 26, 2008 AND what guy out there isn't food motivated!!!! LOL!!! Damn... wish I'd thought of this sooner! Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Someone once told me the way to a guy's heart is through his stomach (meaning food is a way to a guy's heart). I truly do believe that. Link to comment
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