dragon111 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I only ever drink alcohol socially and only ever in a pub/club, never at home I've made the decision that i don't want to drink alcohol at all anymore, for reasons of purity and discipline and mind. How do i tell people that i have given up alcohol without getting that negative response that i know i would have given to somebody, i suppose it is a question of standing up to peer pressure without seeming to lose face or making myself seem that i think i'm better than anybody else or anything because i don't. what do i say when they ask why? how do i respond to the talk about being no fun or something Link to comment
Censored Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Simple: You do not need to justify it. Do they justify why they drink it. Ask them next time. So why do you drink alcohol? Do you think it makes you more fun? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Simple: You do not need to justify it. Do they justify why they drink it. Ask them next time. So why do you drink alcohol? Do you think it makes you more fun? Perfect answer! Link to comment
richmonder80 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I dont drink anymore. I was like you, a social drinker but not even that much at that. One day, I decided not to drink for purity in mind and body as well. MY friends were taken back at first as they are big time drinkers but as they saw that I had a great time out with them without drinking the asking and questioning of why I stopped drinking stopped and they accepted. So when we go to a party or they envite me over, they always make sure there is non-alcoholic drinks around. It's all about how you have fun when in social settings. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I don't think you even announce it. If you don't make it a big deal, neither will they. Also, a trick I was told about is to just order soda and put that little red straw in it. No one will know there's no alcohol in it. Not that you should hide it, but if you don't want people coming up to you and asking why you're not drinking, it's a good way to avoid it. I very very very rarely drink and when I do, it's just one. But I hate getting asked that all the time like I'm ruining their fun. Link to comment
lizer Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 just avoid bars and parties with alcohol and you'll be fine ive been an avid 'non drinker' back when i first turned 21. and even before then. you shouldnt need alcohol to 'loosen' up.. you should be fun just as you are ALL the time. i will say that i went to a bar with my friend once, because her friend was the bartender, and i got asked upward of 10 times why i wasnt drinking. "oh you dont drink" "drink some of this its so good" "take a shot with me".. in FACT, a few people made me feel like i was being RUDE by not taking shots with people. as if my presense was offensive because i was not partaking. annoying. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 i don't think you'd have to justify giving up green beans if you don't like them... so the same principle applies. there is lots of social brouhaha around drinking, and it makes drinkers uncomfortable when someone is sober amongst them. so just decline, and if they bother you, say you just don't like drinking or the way it makes you feel so you don't do it. end of story. if they continue bothering you, turn it back around and say, 'what is it about my not drinking that is making you uncomfortable so that you have to keep bringing this up?' nail the problem right there, which is it is THEIR problem if they can't accept you choose not to drink, and they need to explain THEMSELVES as to why this is a big deal for them, but not for you. that usually will do the trick. Link to comment
niczeegs Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Tell them that you don't need alcohol to have a good time. And you don't want anything to happen to your body. Tell them that you believe that your body is a temple and if they're your true friends, they won't judge you and your values. I'm so proud of you! I'm trying to do the same thing. I went to party last night and I wanted to go since it was an outing with friends. Instead of drinking alcohol, I brought a big waterbottle and still had a fun time! You are amazing & keep it up! Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Just say you don't enjoy it anymore and just smile and say you can have a good time even without alcohol (agree with niczeegs). The key is, stick to your principles, whilst making it clear that you don't expect anyone else to change their habits for you. If, after the initial curiosity, they don't respect your wishes, then quite frankly, they aren't very good friends. Link to comment
Gath Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I only ever drink alcohol socially and only ever in a pub/club, never at home I've made the decision that i don't want to drink alcohol at all anymore, for reasons of purity and discipline and mind. How do i tell people that i have given up alcohol without getting that negative response that i know i would have given to somebody, i suppose it is a question of standing up to peer pressure without seeming to lose face or making myself seem that i think i'm better than anybody else or anything because i don't. what do i say when they ask why? how do i respond to the talk about being no fun or something This is an issue I've seen lots of. Especially with the kind of folks I hang out with, not drinking (at all) is usually gunna disturb the crew. If your buddies are anything like me and my buds, then not drinking will make you the butt of jokes and get you teased for a while. Don't act like it bothers you and try hard to laugh at the jokes, and then occasionally buy the crew a round of drinks (like you'd do if you were drinking). Stick with your coke (or whatever) and eventually they'll give up on it (other than the occasional friendly dig). Whatever you do, don't argue with them about it or get into some moral or philosphical discussion (which is a hard thing to avoid in a bar), just laugh off the discussions with an "i don't want any tonight" and keep hanging out. make sure you do buy something to drink (pop or something) though, or you'll feel out of place with nothing to hold onto. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 There's no need for lengthy explanations. When people offer me a drink I usually just smile and say, "Sure, I'll have a coffee," or "Nah, no thanks. I'm drivin'." If they persist in their inquiries I might add, "Haven't really been in the mood these past couple years." This usually does the trick without anyone getting uncomfortable. Link to comment
toshiba Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Tell them you can't due to a medical condition or due to some medication you take. If they are rude enough to ask what the condition is or medication is for, tell them it's personal and then turn away and start talking to others. Or you can always tell them it's for "female problems". This will especially work on guys. Another thing you can say are that it gives you severe headaches and the dr. told you that you had to avoid it. Link to comment
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