scared and alone Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Like right now. I don't even care how messed up or morbid that is. The only thing I can handle right now is the thought of being with him. Link to comment
Aschleigh Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 You can't be sure that if you died you would re reunited with your dad. It's a big chance to take. Link to comment
scared and alone Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 why would you say that. i'm not saying im gonna do anything, its just how i feel in this screwed up moment. Link to comment
Angel_baby Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 While you are grieving it is perfectly normal to think of wanting to be with your lost one again. Death is never easy and very hard to accept. No one "really" knows what is after death. If you end your life there isn't a guarantee that you will be with your dad again. But I understand how you are hurting and just want him back again. Let yourself grieve, it is the only way of healing during this hard time for you. Don't lock it up and pretend the pain isn't there. That makes everything so much worse. Are you seeing a counselor right now for this? If not I would highly suggest thinking about going to one as they can help you during your grief. Link to comment
Aschleigh Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 There are 4 stages of grief. Look it up on the internet. Elizabath Kubler-Ross did a lot of research on grief, it is very interesting. It is all normal. All your feelings are normal. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I really feel for you. You were much too young to handle losing your father and he was far too young to pass away. It helps me cope just a tiny bit with the early loss of my all-time best friend to keep his memory alive by occasionally telling others about him. If you'd like to say a little about what your dad was like, or tell a story or two about the times you had together, this is a very good place for it. Link to comment
scared and alone Posted January 26, 2008 Author Share Posted January 26, 2008 I hate that I feel like it could in any way be my fault that he died. I know its stupid but I can't help it. Link to comment
rocio Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 my dad's been gone for over 20 years and I still feel that way. it gives me comfort to know that i'll join him when my journey's over, though. another way you can be with him is by carrying him with you every day. continue his legacy by doing something meaningful with yourself. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 I hate that I feel like it could in any way be my fault that he died. I know its stupid but I can't help it. It surely wasn't your fault, but you're not stupid for having those thoughts. Everybody goes through that in a situation like yours, it's only natural to wonder if there was anything that could have been done. Heaven knows I've been there more than once myself, but I finally realized that if I could have prevented these things, I would have. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 None of us are that powerful. We think we are, but we really aren't. There are so many variables that make things turn out the way they have turned out. It's our effort to make sense out of the senseless that these thoughts come to us. We need to feel like we have control in this life, when the sad fact is that our sense of control is put there for the purpose of being able to act from a place of choice and volition in areas that we are able to act on. But all the rest -- we are totally not the ones directing the show. I don't know who or what is (I am not religious) but I do know that most of this is not under our control, what happens around us, and when I have surrendered to that thought, I found a wee bit of relief. Link to comment
glegend Posted February 2, 2008 Share Posted February 2, 2008 I know how you feel. I hadn't felt like that for a few months and now I'm starting to feel that way again. I dunno what it is but I feel that if I weren't around things would be much better not only for me but for everyone else around me. I wish I were dead so I could be with my grandpa who was my best friend. Link to comment
MidnightDynamite Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 You can't be sure that if you died you would re reunited with your dad. It's a big chance to take. Don't say that. Let the kid have hope. That was the only thought that got me through my dad's death. Link to comment
MidnightDynamite Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 I hate that I feel like it could in any way be my fault that he died. I know its stupid but I can't help it. Survivor's guilt. It's not your fault. Link to comment
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