Poe Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I know we all have a tenancy to check our ex's myspace. We drive by their houses, never pass for an opportunity to hear what they are up to. Years ago I had a relationship where I did this, and eventually I made myself so sick that I just totally stopped any manifestation of my curiosities. When I break up now, I never look back, I never check profiles, or myspace pages, or drive past houses, or anything like that. Part of it is I know that I need to move on and looking back won't help. The rest is fear of being hurt the way I was with my ex when I'd check up on her, expecting the worst, and seeing/hearing the worst and getting that knot in my stomach. So now I don't do that - ever. Is that an unhealthy way to deal with breakups? Just cut her off, cold turkey, and never look back? It seems so narcissistic... Link to comment
emericaskater Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 well im likin the cold turkey, it seems to be workin on me. i hope its healthy! idk i dont see how anyone could really forget about it if they keep checkin up Link to comment
Blue Skittles Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I'm all about the word DELETE. Delete the exes numbers from my phone, delete them off facebook, delete their emails, etc. the more i can do to forget about them the better. I've done the long drawn out break ups and yeah its not nice. Link to comment
Sickboy48 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Yeah, it's way better to get rid of everything you can and just forget about them and go NC. Working for me and am happy. Link to comment
BrokenTinMan Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 One night... during a severe bout of missing the ex... I actually drove by his house at 2 in the fricking morning. 2 am! Drove by twice! Saw his open window, dark inside, he must be sound asleep!!! His curtain is left wide open, he might catch a cold! Saw his car, parked neatly, I used to ride in the passenger seat... I know... weird. The most bothersome part is... driving back home, I felt strangely happy. Like a weight has been lifted. I had this grin plastered on my face. I scared myself so bad, I vowed never to do it again!!!! So to you, OP. Kudos, much kudos. That is the best way to go about it. Link to comment
Jess... Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Is that an unhealthy way to deal with breakups? Just cut her off, cold turkey, and never look back? It seems so narcissistic... IMO I think that is much healthier than doing the checking up, drive by's, etc. So no way - definitely not unhealthy. That's the way I will be after any future breakups now, after having learnt big time what NOT to do from this one. Link to comment
GottaLetItBurn Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I hate how myspace gives people this image to put out there that says "look how much better my life is than yours". Every picture is them doing something that looks like fun while your suffering and wondering if they are even thinking about you. Myspace probably crushes a lot of people everyday including me. I have one that I don't even log into and tell my friends I don't have one. I think it's teeny bopper site. Myspace sucks. Link to comment
Emersontech Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I agree with GottaLetItBurn 100%.. I still check up on my ex's myspace and it still hurts alot. I'm trying so hard to stop but I guess i'm not trying hard enough i also agree myspace sucks.. Link to comment
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