really sad and anxious today

[bulletproof]

Hey all. Usually I am really good at not worrying about the future, because really, what's the point? But today I can't seem to ignore what is right in front of my face. I am 36 and single. I am feeling really despondent today about the possibility that I will never find anyone and that I will never have a family.

 

I think this is due in part to the fact that I have recently changed living situations and my new roommate is in a similar boat. She talks about it a lot and I think it's unhealthy for me to be around. She has no idea how I feel as I don't want to A) make her feel worse, and B) feed my obsessiveness by talking about it ad nauseum. I have tried the route of commiserating with other friends that have the same issue, and it just ends up making me feel worse.

 

Part of me feels like I deserve this, because I had several long-term relationships since I started dating as a teenager, and I never stuck with it. But I really believed at the time that those guys were not right for me.

 

I guess I am just venting. If anyone has any thoughts, feel free to give them. I'm just really down today and would like some relief.

[sweetpea]

You are better off with no relationship, having been in ones that you know weren't right rather than be in one that is not good for you and trying to make it work. So many people just settle and are miserable. You have time!!

[Clementine orange]

I think the concept of "I will never find anybody" is super common in between relationships. Then lo and behold, you find somebody.

I agree with another poster, no relationship is better than one that is not "right" - especially as one gets older. There's no time to waste on relationships that aren't going anywhere (unless of course you don't want them to go anywhere).

Have faith, you'll find someone - after all, you are bulletproof!

[bulletproof]

Thank you both for your replies. As I was creating the thread I thought about how hard this type of topic can be for people to reply to, as there really are no answers.

 

Like I said, it's the age issue that's upsetting for me. It didn't bother me in previous years because I didn't feel like I was racing against time, and now I do. I'm scared.

 

Clementine, you are nice to point out that I'm bulletproof! I guess I have to live up to my name more.