Wholesomeness

[easyguy]

Perhaps it is not solely looks which attract one to another, but also possessing qualities of wholesomeness: Someone who is content and never depends on another person for happiness, yet meets and connects with others purely to mesh the other's life. Perhaps it is not about how much you have, how high on the totem pole you are, or how you compare to others, but about having your life together in one way or another.

[shadesofmediocrity]

Intriguing thought. Obviously it is not solely looks that attract us to one another - so many people can attest to that, and I know that I personally notice more. They are for sure a deciding factor, but it's those little things that really count - their sense of humour, their maturity and ability to hold up responsibility, honesty, those charming little quirks, all sorts of things. But also from a biological standpoint, the 'wholesomeness' thing fits, the independent, confident image of somebody who can take care of themselves. The reasons for being attracted to someone can be so many, and can be so different - there's also the flip side of being attracted to damaged people, wanting to take care of them.