n707jt Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 My girlfriend tends to make me feel like a perv sometimes when we are making out. We are still pretty early into our relationship and all I've been doing so far is to turn her on by running my fingers on the side of her legs through and near her privates but I've NOT touch it because she doesn't want me to. Recently, I was also able to turn her on by touching her breast. Problem is, although she enjoys it, she would give me a very awkward look suddenly and push my hands away. I would try to put my hands back again and please her but after awhile, she would do the same thing. I feel horrible because I find that she makes me feel like a perv and makes me feel that what I did was wrong. Why is she behaving this way? I've tried to reassure her I'm her bf and there is no way I would hurt her. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 HOw old are the two of you? Link to comment
beth116 Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Well if she's not comfortable, you have to respect her feelings. when she is ready, she will let you touch her. Just becuase you're her 'boyfriend' doesn't give you rights to do whatever you want, and you shouldn't expect her to let you. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 If she isn't comfortable with you doing so and you continue putting your hand there even after she pushes you away you are doing wrong! She isn't comfortable, and just because you're her bf it doesn't give you a right to touch her anywhere or anyway that she isn't comfortable with. Give it time, if/when she is ready to move forward she will let you know. In the mean time, Keep your hands to yourself. Link to comment
n707jt Posted January 20, 2008 Author Share Posted January 20, 2008 Guys, thanks for your answer. We are both 22 years old. I think I wasn't clear with myself in the initial post. What I was trying to say is that, why is it that when we are getting intimate, she would allow me to touch her in certain places initially and shows clearly that she is enjoying it at that point of time but then suddenly out of no where push my hand away? Link to comment
Diablo7000 Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 well my g/f is the same way hehe, but i can tell you some things i do to make her feel pretty wild, i'll put my hand up her shirt but on her back, and while we are making out i'll just rub it and really get into her and nibble her ears, kiss her neck and right above her breasts when i do this to my girl she closes her eyes and enjoys it, idk how your girl might react everyones different.. but give it a try and stay away from the areas she dnt want you to be around, i know it's hard but it's better to wait anyway, the more you push her, the farther she'll wanna be from you and not want you anymore, cause it's not all about sex or being turned on, sometimes it's actually nice to just sit down and hold her in your arms and watch tv or a movie or something, or share a bowl of ice cream, theres plenty of things you can do.. if she wants to be turned on, she'll initiate it with you, don't force her cause she'll want it when she wants it and you'll know when... but you can hint at it by kissing her and kissing her neck yada yada watever might feel good to her, massage her low back, the nape of her neck, those are supposed to be some REALLY good spots to massage my g/f loves when i massage her, if you get horny dnt sweat it.. i do to cause well, they are just sexy looking and you can't control it lol but keep your hands where you can see them =) Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Guys, thanks for your answer. We are both 22 years old. I think I wasn't clear with myself in the initial post. What I was trying to say is that, why is it that when we are getting intimate, she would allow me to touch her in certain places initially and shows clearly that she is enjoying it at that point of time but then suddenly out of no where push my hand away? Maybe at first she doesn't notice? I have been that way before, I have gotten so into it and never noticed where my guys hands were and once I did and was uncomfortable with the position i'd push him away. Link to comment
DropToZero Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Some people are just like that...well only girls I've met so far, but yeah...it's early into your relationship...and some girls will suddenly decide "we're going too fast" in their heads and ask to stop or pull your hands away etc(even if you HAVE gone further sexually with her in the past)... Just respect it...I'd say if she has to pull your hands away twice in one ...-session- you should leave it alone until she feels comfortable and you do too. Link to comment
n707jt Posted January 20, 2008 Author Share Posted January 20, 2008 alright guys thanks so much for your advise. It is actually my first time I've ever got involved this way with a girl and I think my lack of experience has been raising doubts in my mind. But thanks so much for clearing it up! Link to comment
AnotherBrokenDoll Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Diablo7000 Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. You seem like an incrediably sweet guy. Just to let you know Listen to this guy okay. His answer is spot on. Control yourself. Girls have a million and one thoughts running through their heads. They don't always even understand themselves. Don't try to understand just respect her and the way she feels. If she pushes you away. Stay away. Link to comment
m12988 Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Well, if she is making you feel like a perv, then that should be enough to tell you maybe you should slow down with her. She just may not know if she's ready or not. But if she starts complaining of no sex (since you said she enjoys it), tell her exactly why and how you feel when she gives you that awkward look. The thing is though, she's kinda playing mind games with you, pushing your hand away, but letting you continue and enjoying it. Thats not fair at all to you, so i understand perfectly why you are confused in this situation. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 i doubt she thinks you're a perv or she wouldn't be with you. i think it is more a case where she might be inexperienced and not sure she wants to get sexual at all... maybe just wants to make out. in this case, talk to her and ask her what she is and is not comfortable with... if you just keep trying without talking to her about why she is pushing you away she might start to get upset. she may also not want to have sexual contact due to her age/morals/religious values, so you should just talk to her to find out what's up. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted January 20, 2008 Share Posted January 20, 2008 Diablo7000 Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. You seem like an incrediably sweet guy. Just to let you know Listen to this guy okay. His answer is spot on. Control yourself. Girls have a million and one thoughts running through their heads. They don't always even understand themselves. Don't try to understand just respect her and the way she feels. If she pushes you away. Stay away. I agree. Diablo7000 you put it really well. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 23, 2008 Share Posted January 23, 2008 she's teasing you. and she doesn't seem ready. not trying to make you feel like a perv. she is secretly training you. you will end up like the guy in the movie 'saving silverman'. no sex, but trained. Link to comment
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