surfNski Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Ok, so I have a question and am hoping some of my fellow members can help a guy out. I have very little experience when it comes to meeting people online, I prefer to actually have a real human in front of me. But I thought I would ask for the hell of it.. How do women feel about getting random nice greetings, and do you take them seriously? I imagine meeting people on single sites is allot like it is in real life. The men have to make the first move, which is fine with me. I just want to know if there is some sort of understood process that I am not aware of. My other question is, men do you find yourself sending out like twenty e-mails and getting almost no response? Is it even worth it or are most of the women on personal sites bullsh*t? Thanks y'all Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I like getting random nice greetings. It makes me feel good that someone out there found me pleasant to the eyes. I don't always take them seriously, but I will usually respond to the greeting, and see what transpires. Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I'm on a few dating sites and I've replied to a lot of women, but get very few replies back if any Link to comment
m12988 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I have very little experience when it comes to meeting people online, I prefer to actually have a real human in front of me. Dont forget, people that you talk to online are real humans too, lol. Tell you what, it's probably better to meet people with interests like you in chat rooms of that interest. Say you like the San Francisco 49ers sooo much. Go to a chat room of the SF 49ers and you may just find a woman who loves them just as you. Just a tip from personal experience, from a few friends etc. The only personals thing i would use if i needed it, would probably be E harmony. Probably got less fakes on it since you have to go thru a long test at first and i believe you have to pay. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 eHarmony is a piece of crap. Been on there for a few months. Talked to a lot of people. No live dates though Link to comment
Entomon Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I think women actually like receiving random nice greetings. If you sent out many but receive little to no response then it means that either the women don't think you're interesting enough to respond to or they're not subscribing members (i.e., Match or EHarmony) so they just simply can't respond back. Don't lose hope - if you need a date (not that you can't find one) - I'm always available. Hahaha Link to comment
m12988 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 How do women feel about getting random nice greetings, and do you take them seriously? Also, if you do this and want to send random greetings, go right ahead. Why would a woman waste her time visiting and logging in a site if they didn't want some greetings from people? I for one would be flattered. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I've been on dating sites before, and will be pursuing it again soon, and have to say that it's worth a shot to send a nice greeting. The MOST IMPORTANT thing for you to do is write something that sounds personal, though, and in direct response to something about their profile. Write a few sentences, with a little humor, a little interest in something about them in particular (even use their screename in your salutation). What I can't stand -- and stopped replying to -- are notes that start with "Hi" without my name, and some sappy and vague, nondescript thing that sounds like it could've been generated to 100 other women besides me. This is the single biggest turn-off for me, that will guarantee a no-reply. The other thing is -- if I may be so bold -- if I were you I'd consider making sure your main headshot is a close-up of your face, looking into the camera, smiling, and without goggles, shades or other eyewear that obstructs the ladies from seeing your eyes. The eyes are a pretty important indication of someone's overall vibe to me, and I bypass all profiles that are not looking directly at "me" with eye contact and have the face covered in some way. There is an indirectness that makes me wonder about that. I know that's not a criterion for everyone, but it is for me. So for instance, your avvy here is fine for ENA, but that is a classic example of what I would find not revealing enough for a dating site, because I can't see your expression at all. As I said, SMILE, EYE CONTACT, STRAIGHT AHEAD. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 eHarmony is a piece of crap. Boy, you can say that again. Link to comment
surfNski Posted January 18, 2008 Author Share Posted January 18, 2008 I think women actually like receiving random nice greetings. If you sent out many but receive little to no response then it means that either the women don't think you're interesting enough to respond to or they're not subscribing members (i.e., Match or EHarmony) so they just simply can't respond back. Don't lose hope - if you need a date (not that you can't find one) - I'm always available. Hahaha Heya beautiful, Thank you Entomon, but I dont need a date. I am seeing this sexy little thing on Saturday Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 ^ You guys are so cute, Lol. Link to comment
doyathink Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Heya beautiful, Thank you Entomon, but I dont need a date. I am seeing this sexy little thing on Saturday YaY! \\ Now, no more soliciting on here guys! What will ppl think! GAWD! LOL Link to comment
Entomon Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Heya beautiful, Thank you Entomon, but I dont need a date. I am seeing this sexy little thing on Saturday Link to comment
Entomon Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 surfNski, I just want to elaborate that your not receiving any response from women whom you've randomly sent nice greetings to may not be the direct result of you not being interesting enough but that you two just don't have enough compatibility to require a response. So don't take it to heart if you don't get as many responses as you sent them. Some women are just picky like that and if they get to know you - I'm sure they won't be able to get their hands off you, you stud muffin you. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 so is your date tomorrow a girl from the internet? Link to comment
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