double standards

[boomshanks]

so as i look over these forums i get the compliant that there partner wont ahve sex with them. but depending on the gender of the poster, they are taken very differently

if a guy were to complain that his girlfriend wont have sex with him then he is considered and *mod edit * or is told to wait.

if a girl complained however, they are told that they should leave him since her needs aren't being met

i see this as bullcrap. what does everyone else think?

[gilfer]

Welcome to a guys life boomshanks.The preception is that only women are being unfairly treated, but reailty is that men are also(if not more) unfairly treated.Just look at some custody cases, the court always favours the woman.Being a guy means you are born with a handicap esp when it comes to getting sex, even the most ugly girl can get get sex, while even the best guy may no get it.

[m12988]

I'm thinking many people still have that mentality unfortunately, but we've had several guys/girls complain about that too lately and i was actually happy to see that almost all of the members who answered, answered in a way that was logical and non-sexist. I think you're just hearing stuff from dummies. Get rid of them. The answer to both of these genders regarding the sex issues is simply communicating with their partner, basically asking "why aren't we having sex?"

[m12988]

Welcome to a guys life boomshanks.The preception is that only women are being unfairly treated, but reailty is that men are also(if not more) unfairly treated.Just look at some custody cases, the court always favours the woman.Being a guy means you are born with a handicap esp when it comes to getting sex, even the most ugly girl can get get sex, while even the best guy may no get it.

 

Dont forget, there are many good women out there as well as good men. You think all women want the bad guys who act all macho and stuff? Think again. If you're a good guy, you're in luck

[gilfer]

Dont forget, there are many good women out there as well as good men. You think all women want the bad guys who act all macho and stuff? Think again. If you're a good guy, you're in luck

 

 

Well there have been many threads on why girls like jerks but lets leave it at that.The grass always does seem greener on the other side, i'm pretty sure there are women who think being a guy is much better and vice-versa.:splat:

[Red Dwarf]

so as i look over these forums i get the compliant that there partner wont ahve sex with them. but depending on the gender of the poster, they are taken very differently

if a guy were to complain that his girlfriend wont have sex with him then he is considered and * * * * * * * or is told to wait.

if a girl complained however, they are told that they should leave him since her needs aren't being met

i see this as bullcrap. what does everyone else think?

 

I agree, when it comes to sex, women always see the man as a sleaze and not understanding of a womans needs.

 

If i aint paying out, it aint because of some damn emotional need. Simple.

[midnightrambler]

so as i look over these forums i get the compliant that there partner wont ahve sex with them. but depending on the gender of the poster, they are taken very differently

if a guy were to complain that his girlfriend wont have sex with him then he is considered and * * * * * * * or is told to wait.

if a girl complained however, they are told that they should leave him since her needs aren't being met

i see this as bullcrap. what does everyone else think?

 

 

 

here here.... i agree

[ryan123]

I've noticed this also...

 

Personally i'd love to be a woman...Can get sex anytime with anyone. Maybe if you're real ugly you'll have to settle for a less attractive guy.

 

You have longer/better/multiple orgasms.

 

Can use "im a girl" as a way out of doing physical work. And then later complain about not being treated equal.

 

At a lesser risk of heart attacks pre-menopause.

 

If your career ends up down the toilet you can get breast implants and strip for good pay.

[RayKay]

Lots of very unfair generalizations on this thread about men AND women already.

 

I have advised both men AND women to first, address the issue. Communicate, go to counseling, work on the EMOTIONAL connection as that often is related. Support the partner in getting medical help and therapy.

 

If that does not work, then they need to determine how important sex is for them in the relationship and if the situation is unbearable for them....then it is time to move on.

 

If someone's partner has already shown to be completely unwilling, defensive and so on...I generally advise them to go to Step 2 almost right away - male or female.

 

I am a female and in a relationship with a male with low libido, and it is not always the easiest thing to go through. And it was certainly not always that way, so that can make it even more difficult. So I have a lot of empathy for those going through it - whatever their gender.

[psu11]

playa please, its so easy to be a guy...

 

all you need to do is make a girl feel wanted and special and boom....in her pants you are. simple.

 

men arent looked at as desperate if they hit on a girl, women can often be seen in that light if they approach a guy.

 

lots of men like women who like to have fun and drink, they complain when their dates order salads at dinner...but the minute girls get out of shape or put on weight...we become ugly. guys have much more pull when it comes to having a beer belly.

 

men can hook up with multiple girls at one time--pimp, bachelor. women who do the same? wh*re, sl*t, dirty--the list goes on....

[Taomagicdragon]

Both genders suck

[tmp0620]

I understand it's a double standard but to tell you the truth most guys are usually willing to have sex while women have more restraint (not everyone, but generally). So when you hear a girl saying a guy won't have sex with her, it seems unusual.

 

This is true. This is why there isn't REALLY a double standard.

[tmp0620]

Both genders suck

 

This is also true.

[boomshanks]

playa please, its so easy to be a guy...

 

all you need to do is make a girl feel wanted and special and boom....in her pants you are. simple.

 

men arent looked at as desperate if they hit on a girl, women can often be seen in that light if they approach a guy.

 

lots of men like women who like to have fun and drink, they complain when their dates order salads at dinner...but the minute girls get out of shape or put on weight...we become ugly. guys have much more pull when it comes to having a beer belly.

 

men can hook up with multiple girls at one time--pimp, bachelor. women who do the same? wh*re, sl*t, dirty--the list goes on....

 

that is such a load of crap. i can tell you right now that my girlfriend cares more about her weight than i ever would. my girlfriend before weighed as much as me while she was a good 4 inches shorter than me. and i am a fairly built guy as in i am about 150 and only 5'6. we dated for like 2 years and i was her support for anything and everything. i never had sex with her. when we broke up i cried and cried and cried. i think when a girl hits on another guy it makes them more attractive because they arent just sitting around. i think i speak for most guys when i say that girls who are a little aggressive in bed are hella attractive.

in my opinion girls play jsut as a much of a part in making it harder to be a girl as guys do. i can honestly say right now that i would never let myself get fat. and thats nothing to do with society but jsut a want to be in shape. and i think everyone should ahve that.

not all girls are willing to sleep with a guy just because they love them. it takes much more than just that to get a girl to sleep with you the first time especially when they are young. liek my current gf trusts me more than her parents. as in she called me when she had to go to the hospital from a car accident instead of them. have i ever even tried to convince her that shes ready for sex? no.

for you to say that being a girl is hard only because guys make it is ridiculous. and from what i rememebr i never said i wanted to be a girl.

[CaptainPlanet]

so as i look over these forums i get the compliant that there partner wont ahve sex with them. but depending on the gender of the poster, they are taken very differently

if a guy were to complain that his girlfriend wont have sex with him then he is considered and *mod edit * or is told to wait.

if a girl complained however, they are told that they should leave him since her needs aren't being met

i see this as bullcrap. what does everyone else think?

 

I completely agree except the answer is usually that the man is not doing it right if his girlfriend won't have sex with him. Then he is told to take better care of her needs.

 

I'll give credit where credit is due, some users do tell the man to leave or take his side, just not all that often. Mostly on this forum the womans side will almost always be taken. Almost always just get used to it and live with it.

[ghost69]

i've never advised this boom. only in a virgin scenario. two adults that have been bangin and now aren't. i'd get out. i'd tell a guy to get out. i'd tell a girl to get out. why wait? your needs aren't being met.