asdf-u Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 I have a two questions about dating sites. 1) Are there any that are free and worth trying?2) Would it be a bad idea to make a profile without a picture? I have no camera and I have no real alternative way to get a pic of myself onto my computer.I don't know why, but it feels weird to be back on enotalone. The last time I signed on was in 2005 lol. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 Yeah it's really pointless being on a dating site without a picture, most won't even take a second glance at a profile with No picture. Take a couple of pictures, have them developed at your local photo lab and have it put on a disc, put the disc into your computer and voila! you have pictures on the pc Link to comment
cabman Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 link removed good and free Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 Online dating does not work for everyone. I am currently on link removed and it is a free dating website. I have been on that website for 6 years and I have not met one girl from that site. Online dating is really hard to get responses because it is all based on attraction, looks and height. Link to comment
Aurian Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 Yeah - I didn`t look at profiles without a picture because: 1) I do need some physical attraction, so I have to like the look of the other's face. They didn`t need to be a 10 or whatever, but had to be appealing to me. 2) It implied they were serious. I figured those who didn`t bother to put up a picture weren`t in the long haul and did it out of impulse. 3) They have something to hide - maybe they don`t want their wife/girlfriend seeing their face online. 4) They may be impersonating what they claim to be - a girl pretending to be a man, an older person pretending to be young, etc. A picture narrowed the field. Secondly - there are some free sites and some paying sites. Usually the paying sites let you look at their listings and send "winks" or "smiles" and you only pay when you want to attempt to contact others. Sign up for many since different sites work well in different areas. Some people love link removed, but it was the pits in my area. Lavalife worked great for me. link removed is a free site (although I didn`t like it - it was more of a social networking site and a lot of people were just there to make friends and chat in my area as opposed to dating). OKcupid is another free site. Link to comment
asdf-u Posted January 17, 2008 Author Share Posted January 17, 2008 Well, putting a pic up just isn't possible for me at the moment. Is there any way I can have no pic and still give the impression that I'm serious? Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 1 - absolutely you need to post a photo, the responses you get will be of lower quality. i would not correspond with men unless they had their photo up. i would tell them to please post it, and i would not say anything else to them unless they did. if you don't have a camera, then call up a friend who has a digital camera, have them take a few photos of you, and post them. 2 - my experience was better on pay sites than free sites. people who are willing to pay are more serious about finding a relationship, or going on dates, than people on a free site, imho. you know if someone is paying $30 a month, that they are really looking for a date, not just a time waster. Link to comment
cc2006 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 I remember back when I needed a digital pic of myself and didn't own a camera at the time ... I went to a local computer store where they sold cameras, and told the salesman I was researching for a purchase .. and asked him if I could take a few pics with different cameras and he could load them on a disk so I could take them home. So .. I snapped off a few shots of random things, and of myself, from a couple different cameras .. and then took the photos all home with me. Ended up buying a camera .. just not from that guy .. but, he was helpful Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 oooh! brilliant plan!!! Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 In the late 1990s my friend met his wife through an online dating site - neither had a picture posted and they met without exchanging photos. But times have changed.... I was fine writing to and receiving emails from profiles where they promised to send me a pic (some had privacy concerns) but I didn't buy the "I don't have a picture" - i didn't have a digital camera, i paid to have pictures scanned onto a disk. I would do the pay sites because it screens out more of the people who are on there for less than serious intentions. Link to comment
Adobe GIllis Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 I met a woman on Myspace though a mutual friend on his friends list and we dated for about a year. It was bad... She was a real case. But we both had pictures of ourselves in the photo albums. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 I don't think that says anything about myspace or meeting people through myspace - that's just where you happened to first contact her. Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 I think myspace is a bad place to meet people. Majority of peoples profiles on myspace are fake. Link to comment
Aurian Posted January 18, 2008 Share Posted January 18, 2008 Well, simply having a photo doesn`t mean the other person is problem-free, but you are more likely to get serious responses when you have a photo and when the other has a photo. Link to comment
afc_2_dj Posted January 24, 2008 Share Posted January 24, 2008 Yeah - I didn`t look at profiles without a picture because: ... 3) They have something to hide - ... Other thing here is sometimes people [myself included] do have something to hide - the fact that we're not good-looking - theoretically we can use online to overcome the problem of not having a good-looking face making it really difficult IRL when they deceide immedailty to talk to you based on looks [which we all know is true], so the theory is you chat via email, so they already like you ... doesn't work in practice cos they dump you on the first IRL meeting! ](*,) Problem is it seems women know this and [at least on my site] many make a picture non-negotiable requirement, as Aurian rightly pointed out, you must pass the looks test first before they will chat with you. I tried to fool the system by putting up pictures but marked as private, and only share once the convo got going, worked except they stopped replying when I shared my pics!! So the point is, even from me as a big supported of no-pic-internet-dating I agree with everyone else, you must get pictures up. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 well, eventually they will find out what you look like, so it's good to have it out there. maybe not the most popular thing for me to say but 1) maybe have a professional take some really good photos of you, and 2) perhaps look into improving your looks - going to a gym, a stylist - maybe a plastic surgeon if there is something that is out of proportion or an abnormality. Link to comment
ConfusedDater Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I have a two questions about dating sites. 1) Are there any that are free and worth trying?2) Would it be a bad idea to make a profile without a picture? I have no camera and I have no real alternative way to get a pic of myself onto my computer.I don't know why, but it feels weird to be back on enotalone. The last time I signed on was in 2005 lol. The Best Dating site on the Internet is CRAIGLIST Link to comment
ilovepoemsalot Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I remember back when I needed a digital pic of myself and didn't own a camera at the time ... I went to a local computer store where they sold cameras, and told the salesman I was researching for a purchase .. and asked him if I could take a few pics with different cameras and he could load them on a disk so I could take them home. So .. I snapped off a few shots of random things, and of myself, from a couple different cameras .. and then took the photos all home with me. Ended up buying a camera .. just not from that guy .. but, he was helpful Good thinking there Batman. Link to comment
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