12 years of marriage. How do I move on?

[onmyownagain]

Been married to my ex wife for 12 years, a couple of weeks ago we reached a stage where we couldn't go on as we were, so I left in the hope a bit of space would help.

 

Since then she has turned really bitter and angry and doesn't want to know.

How am I supposed to move on from this? I'm hitting 40 this year (guess no big surprise party now) and really don't want to start all over again:sad:

[luxe_13]

time. that's all i can tell you.

 

things will get better. if it wasn't meant to be, that means there is something better waiting out there for you. i really believe that.

 

be patient, stay optimistic and most importantly..busy!

 

chin up, you'll be ok

[Crazyaboutdogs]

The bitterness and anger are natural feelings when a relationship ends badly. You two haven't been apart for that long so the emotions are still riding high. Give the separation some time. Nobody has to file for divorce right now. Let the dust settle and see if maybe in a few months you two will be able to have calmer heads and talk about things...maybe go for counselling together. In the meantime, you have no choice but to get on with your life as best as you can. Maybe for your 40th you can go out with your friends or plan a fun event..take the day off work and treat yourself to something special.

[Dako]

You don't move on until you complete an educational and tiring transitional phase.

 

As you adjust to becoming a singleton, try to look forward instead of mourning your losses. Easier said than done, but when you find yourself standing on your own two feet, you'll be stronger and wiser.

 

40 isn't a bad age at all.