Iwantittoend Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 My girlfriend left for the Air Force last week so I've been doing a lot of activities and just hanging out with friends of mine. This one girl from school that I met in a class last semester has been e-mailing me back and forth for like the past 2 weeks. Just us conversing online. In one of her more recent e-mail messages, she was telling me how handsome I am and how lucky my gf is. Then in another message she basically implied that she likes me just by the words she chose. She's 26 years old and I'm 19, and she made a comment that she would've never guessed I was this young. I said I get that all the time and it was probably the beard, and she made the comment..."oh right...you're so funny and cute." Then in an e-mail today, she asked me to go out for coffee tomorrow before class. I told her I'd go. Now she has a boyfriend, but still, it seems like she's been flirting with me for the past month or so. Now that my gf is out of the way, do you think she's trying to push her way in? Like I said, she's a lot older than me, but anytime I pull back she comes back and tries to talk to me again. Anytime I'm around her, she laughs at everything I say and seems to always sit right by me. Maybe I'm just overreacting... Link to comment
jettison Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 I'd say that it's just some woman who is over flirty with you. She probably feels safe being so flirty because she knows that you're taken, and she knows that you don't protest or act put off. So, because she finds you attractive, she'll keep doing it. If it bothers you then don't return the flirts or the emails. If it doesn't bother you, then keep flirting and see what happens if you're not that keen on your GF. Link to comment
stella74 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 I'm a bit confused. Why did you agree to go out for coffee with her when she has a boyfriend and you have a girlfriend? Do you want to be platonic friends with her because you're in school together or do you want an affair with her? Link to comment
Iwantittoend Posted January 15, 2008 Author Share Posted January 15, 2008 I'm a bit confused. Why did you agree to go out for coffee with her when she has a boyfriend and you have a girlfriend? Do you want to be platonic friends with her because you're in school together or do you want an affair with her? What's wrong with going out for coffee with a friend? I've done it before with girl friends of mine. I don't plan on doing anything with her sexually, but I thought her behavior was kind of weird so I wanted your opinions on it. I'm going to stay faithful to my girlfriend while she is away. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 If you're going to go, talk up your girlfriend a lot. Talk about how much you miss her, funny things she does, etc. Send the message that you are all about her. This women could be trying to start something up, or she just has a crush on you and wants to be around you and flirt, but won't take it any further. Just try not to give any indications that you're interested in her as well. Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 Older women I have found are pretty flirty. Not "Old Women," but women who are older than I. Have fun and don't blush. I work in a ratio of 1/6 in my workplace and many of them flirt, and some are hot, married, and involved. It will never go anywhere but its relaxing @ work to F around. Link to comment
stella74 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 This women could be trying to start something up, or she just has a crush on you and wants to be around you and flirt, but won't take it any further. Just try not to give any indications that you're interested in her as well. Yes, if you go make it very clear you're not interested in her as more than a classmate and that you are faithful to your girlfriend. You could say something like, "I enjoy being faithful to my girlfriend," or "my girlfriend and I are monogamous, how about you and your boyfriend?" What's wrong with going out for coffee with a friend? In my opinion, it sounds like she wants to start something up with you. You initially wrote: she was telling me how handsome I am and how lucky my gf is. Then in another message she basically implied that she likes me just by the words she chose. That's more than innocent flirting in my book! Think about how your girlfriend will feel about this. You could even talk to her about it and negotiate a way for you to be friends with this classmate while your girlfriend is away, if that's what you really want. If you're truly not interested in this classmate, than you have nothing to hide from your girlfriend. Link to comment
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