qtbutterfly Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 Hey...well let me tell about my situation.... I liked this guy alot in the past but we were always just friends. I never told him how i felt because he already had a girlfriend. Well one day me and him got into an argument and quit talking. A few years later me and him started talking again and I the feelings i had for him came back. The only bad thing about it is...he is in jail and probably will be for the next three years. I finally told him how i felt and he told me that he didnt want a relationship while he was in jail but when he gets out we will see where our friendship goes. I like him a lot...but I realize three years is a really long time. The way he talks makes me feel like he likes me....Im just not sure what to do...should i wait or what. Whats your opion? Link to comment
Sagal88 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 Ok im glad i clicked on this thread... ok you are 16 years old, and your whole life in front of you, there are millions of guys out there looking for someone. why are you even considering a guy who is in jail!? and dont give me this "i hope he will change" cause more often than not he will not change. DONT WAIT. forget that loser. DONT waist THREE years of YOUR life for someone who is waisting 3 years of THIER LIFE for someone they did. Link to comment
RelaxByWater84 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 If I were you I would run from this person. I have the feeling that you are his little distraction while he is in jail. People who have been in jail have a tendency to become violent in relationships. Run as far away from him as you can. Link to comment
qtbutterfly Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 He isnt a bad person. He just tried to do something and ended up getting caught. Link to comment
MorbidMetalHead87 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 I believe you when you say he is not a bad person. And if he were not in jail I would say go for it. But you cannot deny the fact it's a very hard situation to form a relationship apon. I don't think you should wait, A great guy could come along at any minuite. And who knows what you would miss out on if you turned him down. For someone who you never had a relationship with? And maybe at the end off these three years he could decide he dose not want a relationship with you after all. Which would hurt alot. But at the same time don't go Looking for a bf cause they always come when your not looking. Just remember anything could happen in 3 years, you could be a different person aswell. So could this guy who is jail. I think it's fine to continue being his friend though, I mean like a pen pal or something. Link to comment
pacodemil Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 My honest opinion and I work in a prison so I see this every day is that these type of guys tend to use women to their advantage while they are in jail and if he is talking with you telling you to wait and see when he gets out then he is probably talking wit hten or fifteen other women telling them the same thing. Just be careful if he starts asking for money and things like that because that is generally how it starts and then oneday he will tell you he has some reason why you cant be together and you will be out all of the time and money you invested in something that he never intended on giving you in the first place. But like I said that is my biased opinion. Link to comment
qtbutterfly Posted January 15, 2008 Author Share Posted January 15, 2008 My honest opinion and I work in a prison so I see this every day is that these type of guys tend to use women to their advantage while they are in jail and if he is talking with you telling you to wait and see when he gets out then he is probably talking wit hten or fifteen other women telling them the same thing. Just be careful if he starts asking for money and things like that because that is generally how it starts and then oneday he will tell you he has some reason why you cant be together and you will be out all of the time and money you invested in something that he never intended on giving you in the first place. But like I said that is my biased opinion. Well really he tells me not to wait....he said he dont want to hold me back in life... he has always been so sweet to me. Ive known him for a good while and hes always been so kind. He told me he likes me but he dont want a relationship while hes in jail but when he gets out who knows. I told him i wanted to wait and he said he dont want to hold me back bc of him being in jail and everything Link to comment
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