Genuine_Ghost Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 I heard a rumour that my ex girlfriend is HIV positive. I'm not sure whether to get checked or not, but I keep thinking about the possibility that I may be too, even if it seems like a remote possibility. It's just a rumour, and I know someone else who slept with her unprotected who isn't HIV positive. I don't know what to do, am I risk? Should I get a test? Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 You should get tested whether it's just a rumor or not. Once you are sexually active you need to be tested for ALL STD/STI's and HIV/AIDS regularly. You're always at risk. Link to comment
sweetharmony Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 sorry to hear you are going through such emotions. that must be scary! yes, I think you should get tested in any case. I always get tested every once in a while, even without reason, because you never know. I mean you're ex may not have known at the time either. every person you sleep with, well, you are sleeping with every person they've been with (if it was unprotected). so, just for mind's sake and for the sake of people you sleep with in the future, wouldn't you want to know for sure. It may be a rumour and hopefully don't have it, but for your sake of peace and mind, you should get it. you can do it anonymously. Also, it takes about 6 months from the first time you sleep with someone (unprotected) to show up, so make sure that enough time has passed. anyways, I wish you best of luck and I'm sorry this is probably really scary for you right now. please keep us posted and if you need support, we're here. Link to comment
cc2006 Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 Totally 100% confidential testing makes it easy as heck to do. It is silly NOT to do it nowadays. Even if it is a total rumor and untrue, it is worth getting tested because then you'll know with absolute certainty your own status ... and peace of mind is something you just can't put a price on. Link to comment
lana111 Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 go now, and go again in 6 months! and protect yourself in the meantime. knowing is always better than not knowing. Link to comment
melrich Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 Where did you hear this rumor? It does not seem like information that would be out in public unless she put it there and in that case why would she not have told you (at the very least in expectation that you would find out)? Link to comment
Genuine_Ghost Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 Where did you hear this rumor? It does not seem like information that would be out in public unless she put it there and in that case why would she not have told you (at the very least in expectation that you would find out)? It was actually from a girl I was seeing before her, that I found myself at college with last year. That's the main reason I doubt it, and feel that it may be a malicious false rumour of some sort. Link to comment
melrich Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 I'm guessing it is a malicious rumor. Having said that, it is such a serious issue that it would be very hard to ignore. Hard to know how to proceed. If it were me I think I would go back to the girl who told you this "rumor". Let her know how serious a statement that is, that it's not the sort of thing you muck around with and that you need to know where and how she found out or heard about this. I would also be telling her that if it turns out to be totally untrue you will be taking further action on the matter. See how you go with that in the first instance. Link to comment
Flux Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 It sounds like a malicious rumour, considering you can get a life sentance in prison for knowingly sleeping with someone if you are HIV+ ... It's probably just a rumour, but go for a check-up anyways. Link to comment
lana111 Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 may very well be that, but it cant hurt to get tested. Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 You should be going for regular STI tests anyway if you are sexually active. If you are having sex (or oral sex, etc) you are at risk for anything that is out there. In HIV itself, many people will expose others to it before they ever even know they have it. Does not hurt to go get tested. Even if it is a malicious rumour, you should always get regular testing. Link to comment
melrich Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 Even if it is a malicious rumour, you should always get regular testing. Whilst I totally agree if you are sexually active you should bet reasonably regular tests, it really is not going to resolve this. You could well be (likely be) negative and you have not "proven" anything. If this is a malicious rumor, and I am guessing that is 99% likely, or if it is not, you need to confront the person telling it. It is bordering on criminal to make statements like that and further, who else is she telling about the person you love? Personally I think you owe it to your g/f to put a stop to this. Bya ll means get tested (regardless of this particular issue) but don't leave it at that. Link to comment
jengh Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 chances are, it was just a cruel rumor, but that being said you need to get tested. There's still a remote chance that it is not a rumor. Being tested regularly is very important when you're sexually active. Link to comment
Kiwi_Sweet Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 I don't know if this is a rumor or not? Either way, I'm just happy someone told you. Now that you know it's a possibility you should go get yourself tested once every three months for the next few years. It will actually be wise of you to get tested twice a year until you are not sexually active anymore. To protect yourself in the future, you should start using condoms. Birth control WILL NOT protect you from STDS of any sort. Unless you are absolutely certain you know someones sexual history, then you should always use condoms.. Link to comment
Genuine_Ghost Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 Whilst I totally agree if you are sexually active you should bet reasonably regular tests, it really is not going to resolve this. You could well be (likely be) negative and you have not "proven" anything. If this is a malicious rumor, and I am guessing that is 99% likely, or if it is not, you need to confront the person telling it. It is bordering on criminal to make statements like that and further, who else is she telling about the person you love? Personally I think you owe it to your g/f to put a stop to this. Bya ll means get tested (regardless of this particular issue) but don't leave it at that. You're right, I'll contact the person as soon as possible. This is my ex-girlfriend she was talking about - we haven't actually been together for close to 3 years. I've always been pretty careful otherwise, but I still think that testing regularly is the right way to go. Thanks. Link to comment
melrich Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 This is my ex-girlfriend she was talking about Oh...sorry I missed that, I thought it was your current. Link to comment
Genuine_Ghost Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 Yeah, we weren't together for too long, so another theory is that the other girl I mentioned was just trying to find out if I had actually slept with her, or is that too far'fetched? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 14, 2008 Share Posted January 14, 2008 who knows. crummy situation altogether. Link to comment
kryptik0 Posted January 15, 2008 Share Posted January 15, 2008 The thought of having been infected has been driving me crazy too. I had unprotected sex exactly a month ago with a girl whose sexual history I don't know. Very very stupid of me. I can't believe I did something like that. My doctor did a full STD including HIV test on my request soon after this incident and everything came back negative. But I have been sick worrying about what it will be after 3 months. Having unprotected sex is really not worth it unless you're in a monogamous relationship for a long time and know everything about the sexual history of your partner. I don't really have much of a reason to suspect that the girl has HIV, because I asked her, and she told me that she was clean. But ever since, she has disappeared and have not returned my emails or calls. Thats probably the only reason why I have been freaking out. This is a big lesson and I will never do anything stupid again in my life. There is just too much at stake. Just wanted to share. Link to comment
Genuine_Ghost Posted January 20, 2008 Author Share Posted January 20, 2008 Well, I've spoken to the person who told me the rumour, and she said she "Can't remember where I heard it", which, naturally, left me quite annoyed. I'm going to my doctor's tomorrow to ask for a test, which I'm hugely scared about - it could mean the end of my life. Link to comment
kryptik0 Posted January 22, 2008 Share Posted January 22, 2008 dude, stop worrying so much. It's more than likely nothing. I am in sort of similar situation, but have managed to keep myself calm and happy through this waiting time. Go for the test and get another done 3 months after the incident. I am sure it will all come back NEGATIVE. Link to comment
Genuine_Ghost Posted March 16, 2008 Author Share Posted March 16, 2008 It did come back negative; I'm so relieved. Link to comment
sweetharmony Posted March 17, 2008 Share Posted March 17, 2008 good to hear. good thing you'll get a good night sleep now. Link to comment
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