so what do you think??

[barbielovesmac]

Here is just a quick general question:

 

Do you think moving in together puts added stress on a relationship? Obviously on finances and stuff like that .... but im talking tension between the two kind of stuff.

 

Do you think it wrecks a relationship?

 

What are your thoughts on "living together?"

 

Before marriage of course ...

[redrose85]

It all depends on the couple as a whole, and on each individual person. I lived with an old boyfriend from 17-19, and it was hellish. But that's because of who he was. He was unstable, and a liar, and got into drugs. It was an absolute nightmare.

 

I was pretty cautious when getting back into dating and into other relationships. With my current bf, we decided to have me move in to his place for a variety of reasons, including that we just didn't see a reason to be apart and pay separate bills and rents anymore. Things have been pretty great. We bicker about the chores, but our relationship is strong, and can take whatever comes our way. I've lived with him now since last April, and it was a very natural progression. I know it isn't like this for everyone though, and it can very well break a relationship. Are you thinking about moving in with your bf? If so, make sure that you are BOTH emotionally stable and secure in yourselves, and make absolute sure that you are serious about each other. IMO, it feels a bit like marriage. Make sure you're ready for that.

[melrich]

Do you think moving in together puts added stress on a relationship?

 

As a general comment yes. You up the ante on time spent together/responsibilities/finances etc etc.

[tatanya4me]

I would think moving in with someone would make your relationship stronger. One learns to deal with someone on a 24-hour, 7 days a week basis, vs just a few dates a week.

[enchiladaman]

Most definitely can add pressure to the relationship. Especially early in the relationship when you are still getting to know one another. I think there will be an initial transition period when you first move in and there can be a lot of fighting while you are adjusting to one another. I would definitely wait till both people are 100% ready and both people don't have any outside stress. That should reduce the chances of things going south.

 

I have definitely seen couples break up because they moved in together - this forces commitment to a new level and they were't ready.

[Jonboy582]

I would say it depends on the circumstances. I believe it would have improved things between me and my ex as we hardly had time too see each other so living together would have balanced it out. But then again you need allot of compromise with things such as TV, bills, food and small stupid little things such as using someones shampoo. On there own they are not much but they build up and cause arguments.

[Gath]

Here is just a quick general question:

 

Do you think moving in together puts added stress on a relationship? Obviously on finances and stuff like that .... but im talking tension between the two kind of stuff.

 

Do you think it wrecks a relationship?

 

What are your thoughts on "living together?"

 

Before marriage of course ...

 

It does put more stress on the relationship. But a good relationship will be strong enough to shrug it off and keep on trucking. A bad one will become a train wreck. The price of failure is also quite a bit higher, as living together usually starts tieing finances together.

[JadedStar]

If the relationship is already a dysfunctional one moving in together will make it even moreso.

 

Moving in together for the first time can be stressful on the best of couples but they usually can pull thru it and adjust, but it can ruin the weakest of ones.

[ghost69]

i think i'd rather live with a girl before marrying her.