John14087 Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 k heres the situation, i checked my myspace yesterday and found that i had a friend request from a girl. so i added her and sent her a message thanking her for the add (BTW she is extremely attractive, like absolutely stunning). She messages me that she knows who I am because her friend used to work with me. So i message back "i hope that the friend had good stuff to say about me", which she did. My question for you all is number one: Is she interested in me? Im guessing yes because she added me out of the blue, and two: what should i do to carry this forward? this is very new to me and she is the pinnacle of beauty and i am at a complete loss. PS. maybe should i ask for her number? Link to comment
CrazyKing Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Umm, first of all - girls aren't always interested in establishing relationships, they want friendship first in most cases or a guy friend to talk to, some girls like to collect a bunch of guys and after a long analysis select the one they find suitable enough... This is a typical thing that guys with less experience than the average will do - think that each girl that's friendly towards you is a potential partner... Just don't ask for a date or so, but just a simple meeting for coffee or tea, where you could talk to her... All this relationship stuff should be done slowly, step by step and not in a hurry... That's what I know... Link to comment
MollyElise Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I think you should invite her and your old co-worker to a night out with a group of friends. Link to comment
Myk_ Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 First off, don't let her "stunning good looks" get the better of you. Do not hold her any higher than you would the average girl down the road. She's human, as are you, and thereforeeee both equal. Don't try to play up to her or impress her. You don't need to to validate yourself to her. Just chat to her a bit on myspace or IM or whatever. Keep it light-hearted and playful, tease her etc. After a while, ask her where she hangs about, and what shes up to at the weekend. If she says a bar or whatever, say something like "might see you there, think my mates are down there too". And you could bump into her and then start chatting and flirting and stuff in real life. Or, perhaps if you chat to her for a while and you both find eachothers emails interesting enough, maybe suggest meeting up for coffee or whatever. Theyre the only plausible ways of perhaps meeting her in real life, IMO. Link to comment
1HelluvaGirl Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Just chat to her a bit on myspace or IM or whatever. Keep it light-hearted and playful, tease her etc. This is definitely the route to take. I met a man on myspace who I chatted to online for months with no real intention of going out with because of some things that I thought would make us incompatible. I guess he got tired of asking me out and getting turned down so he stopped emailing me. And you know what? I realized I missed him! And that if I wanted to continue to be friends with him, I needed to meet him. So I did. And a year later, we were engaged. Granted, that didn't work out how I hoped it would (we broke up in september) BUT the point is to be yourself, be lighthearted and HAVE FUN talking to her. If there is mutual interest, it will become obvious! good luck! Link to comment
LostInMyThoughts Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 i agree with the others. To some, myspace is a popularity contest and people will try to get as many 'friends' as they can. I say keep it light and friendly and see how things play out. Also remember that IM and email's can't convey emotions well, and so it can be easy to mistake signals. Link to comment
NO1GR8r Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I would suggest that you follow the advice given to you by the people who already gave the "best" advice you will get. Be careful and take your time.I met my ex on Myspace - she ask me to be her friend and that was a little more than a year ago and now it is over. I am not saying if you and this young lady become an item, that it will end, but jsut take your time. We waited three months to meet. and it lasted nine. Gave birth to experience. Link to comment
John14087 Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 yeah she is probably just adding me for the sake of it, its most likely nothing. should have thought of that Link to comment
NO1GR8r Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 yeah she is probably just adding me for the sake of it, its most likely nothing. should have thought of that Just be smooth with it. Link to comment
HappyAsALark Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Just message her and casually suggest you and your old co worker and her getting together sometime Link to comment
Myk_ Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 yeah she is probably just adding me for the sake of it, its most likely nothing. should have thought of that Well just go with that point of view, and chat to her a bit on there. If nothing happens, then you've lost nothing. Maybe she'd then wanna meet up, or maybe you'll see her out and about. Nothing to lose. Link to comment
elbandido Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Here's what I would do. I would ask her what kind of stuff did her friend say about you. Then when she tells you ask her if she likes that (whatever it was about you). Then when she says yeah, tell her something like, "that's cool, cuz if I ask you out I want to make sure I've got something working for me already". If she is interested in going out with you, she will let you know, if not, she will also let you know. With girls, you need to move fast, but you have to be sly. They know you want them, but you have to act like you don't care. You have to be aggressive, but not desperate (if you are, they will shoot you down). Basically, it's a game, like chess. Think of her next possible move and have an answer for it. Eventually, it will get easier and you will know within a few minutes if a girl is into you or not. It's a little frightening at first, but eventually you'll crave the chase and you'll be amazed how many girls you can meet. Link to comment
Phaser Posted January 13, 2008 Share Posted January 13, 2008 How many friends does she have on myspace? If she alot she might just want more friends, if not maybe there is something. Link to comment
John14087 Posted January 17, 2008 Author Share Posted January 17, 2008 Well see i checked her profile and i cant see how many friends she has, it doesn't show it. When she added me I innocently thanked her for the add. She messages me "sounds weird but I think your worked with my best friend, I think she talked about you before"( I'm paraphrasing) Also, i did ask her if the former coworker had anything bad about me and she said "no but i hear you're a big stoner" (which I am) and from what she tells me, she is too. Also, i put up a bulletin on Myspace about the Chargers beating the colts to which she messaged me that she was happy that they won and had a few message exchanges about that. What am I to gather from all that? Please help an absolutely clueless and naive guy out! Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 Not much yet to gather. I say exchange some more and if she lives close by ask her out. Link to comment
salam710 Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 what I would do: ask her for her email address then talk 'n stuff later if you get well along with her ask her for her number =) Link to comment
John14087 Posted February 8, 2008 Author Share Posted February 8, 2008 alright im stressing but i think im going to ask for her number! we seem to like the same things and she lives in my town but im shaking with anticipation and nervousness because 1. I've never asked for any girls number before and 2. i know i said it before but she is gorgeous! I just hope everything goes alright! thanks in advance for being patient with a guy like me! Link to comment
blender Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 just an FYI, you might want to be careful with any 'stoner" references on your myspace page, it is now fact that employers and human resource departments look up "myspace history" for all new applicants, so when you're out looking for a job you might not want to have anything on your myspace page that would represent you in a less than respectful way.. and by the way this girl said, "your friend who used to work with you said you are a big stoner"... Is that how you want to be described to anyone? Just food for thought.. best of luck with all of this... and as someone else said, even if she is so stunning she is just a girl, so try not to put her on some upper level, it will only throw off your own self image. so be proud of yourself and know that if you are a good guy the "right" girl will notice. Link to comment
John14087 Posted February 8, 2008 Author Share Posted February 8, 2008 well there isnt anything like that on my page, besides this has all been private messaging with this girl so far Link to comment
Phaser Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Just say in a message, hey whats your number, myspace is kinda lame to continue this conversation. Link to comment
John14087 Posted February 11, 2008 Author Share Posted February 11, 2008 update for yall i got the number i was so nervous i didn't check my myspace for a day but i did get it! THANKS TO ALL OF YOU I CANNOT THANK YOU GUYS ENOUGH!!!!!!!! Link to comment
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