Gratsy Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Do you think that sex is used as a tool to degrade and control people? I'm not saying always...but to me, it looks like some men have used sex as a way to confirm their disrespect for women in their mind. Sex is a way to prove their power over the woman. Examples: guys who sleep around but call all of the women they sleep with "s luts"...guys who seduce women and then say that they lost respect for her. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Do you think that sex is used as a tool to degrade and control people? I'm not saying always...but to me, it looks like some men have used sex as a way to confirm their disrespect for women in their mind. Sex is a way to prove their power over the woman. Examples: guys who sleep around but call all of the women they sleep with "s luts"...guys who seduce women and then say that they lost respect for her. I don't think so. I think its up to the woman to decide if she's gonna let the man control her just b/c they've had sex. Link to comment
MushroomGod Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Um those guys have something wrong with em. Link to comment
EQD Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 my "first love" didnt become controlling or abusive until after we had sex.. i think there was a definate correlation there. it probably made him posessive, and was confirmation to him that i was a piece of property. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 my "first love" didnt become controlling or abusive until after we had sex.. i think there was a definate correlation there. it probably made him posessive, and was confirmation to him that i was a piece of property. Thats what I'm talking about...there really is some sort of correlation there. What do you think makes these men think that way? Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 For some sick, dysfunctional men that maybe true, but for normal men, sex is another aspect of a healthy relationship. Link to comment
Luke Skywalker Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Thats what I'm talking about...there really is some sort of correlation there. What do you think makes these men think that way? This is one further reason that people should wait until marriage before having sex. Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 This is one further reason that people should wait until marriage before having sex. That's not smart though. If the guy is like that, then you can't just break up when he becomes the controlling freak, you're married, so you'd need a divorce and all the extra crap that comes with it. Link to comment
EQD Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 yep, i would much rather find out they are dysfunctional before getting into wedlock.. besides i couldnt live with someone who was lame in the sack.. well i could.. but it wouldnt be very enjoyable. I think only disfunctional guys act like my "first" did. For stable guys it is a normal aspect of a healthy relationship. Link to comment
dan39 Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 I think some men might use it to get close to a girl then once he feels closer he feels a certain level of security, and that might make him overly controlling/possesive. ^pure speculation! Link to comment
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