MarkWA65 Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 So I have been conversing with a woman on eharmony. I am 42 and single, never been married. She is 38 and has a 14yo son, she has been divorced for 10 years. She lives within 30 miles of me and I find her physically attractive based on the picture of her on her profile. We have gone through the basic questions about past relationships, favorite foods, favorite places to visit, family, pets, jobs, religion, smoking, drinking, and even views on marrige. I guess what I would like to know is ... what else should I discuss via the email system at eharmony or do you think we are ready to start conversing by phone? What questions would you ask? Thanx --M Link to comment
Stambler Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 Converse in the present and future now: What did you do today? How was work? Any fun plans for the weekend? I just saw a great movie.... Don't you hate it when [fill in the blank]..... Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 8, 2008 Author Share Posted January 8, 2008 Thanx Camber I was drawing a blank and that seems like a great idea --M Link to comment
Stambler Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 Works for me! Just don't get all emotional and tell her you love her!! LOL. Seriously toough, don't even suggest a date until you get a hint from her... Link to comment
sweetharmony Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 I know everyone takes it slowly and I think you should, but too slow may also hurt you as well. I would think you shouldn't e-mail for longer than a month, then progress to phone. I would really urge to meet within two months (or even shorter). Like Camber, talk about current stuff, just like he said. Link to comment
Stambler Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 ^ I agree. Usually 1-2 weeks of e-mail, a week or so of phone, then the dates. After I wine and dine them a couple of times THEN they tell me they just want to be friends (funny that could have sworn those profiles said "Looking for a long term relationship!) LOL - JK M, go for it! Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 8, 2008 Author Share Posted January 8, 2008 Well we have only been messaging back and forth for 5 days. In my last email I wrote... "I really enjoy chatting with you and hope that we might be able to take this conversation to the phone or to a meeting in person someday." "Hope you are having a good day --M Link to comment
JadedStar Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 Works for me! Just don't get all emotional and tell her you love her!! LOL. Seriously toough, don't even suggest a date until you get a hint from her... Hopefully you have not done that on many first meets Camber. Link to comment
Stambler Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 Is that what I'm doing wrong??? Link to comment
law1204 Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 Hey Camber, IIRC didn't you say you look kinda like Sting? Yeah, if that is the case, there is no "what you've been doing wrong." Because you can do whatever you want. LOL Link to comment
ramsickle1369 Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 eHarmony... I was on there a while. I met a couple people and wished I'd met with them in person more quickly. After several emails, IM's and phonecalls, you really don't know if you click until you physically meet. Somehow people are just different in person. AND, there's the physical connection issue. No matter how much you "click" you wont know if you want to pursue THEM until you physically meet. I think prolonged emailing adds unneeded pressure. Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Share Posted January 9, 2008 In my email to her this morning I included my phone number and said that when she is comfortable doing so she can feel free to call me and gave her the times I would be home. So I am hoping to hear from her soon --M Link to comment
sweetharmony Posted January 9, 2008 Share Posted January 9, 2008 ask her for her number! women don't like to do the calling first. that sends a bad message. e-mail her again and say, "i know i sent you my number, but if you feel comfortable, I would like to call you if you wouldn't mind giving me your number" women like to be pursued. I get annoyed when they send me their phone numbers. but that is just me. like camber said, 2 weeks e-mail, one week phone and then dates. you can't know a person until you meet them and wasting time online is too much. i don't ever understand those people who "fall in love" online only to be disapointed in real life. Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Share Posted January 9, 2008 I got a reply and she is going to call me this evening... guess we will see how that goes --M Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 We talked for almost an hour and I think the conversation went really well. I asked her if she would like to meet me in person and she said she would. I told her that I think it is best if she pick a place where she is comfortable and a time when we can meet and she agreed. She was heading off to play Volleyball and she said she would write me where and when or give me a call later to talk again. I told her the invitation to chat is always open and I look forward to hearing from her again and meeting with her. She seems like such a nice person that I really hope we "click" when we finally get to meet --M Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 10, 2008 Author Share Posted January 10, 2008 Well its set for lunch tomorrow at her favorite resturant --M Link to comment
HappyAsALark Posted January 10, 2008 Share Posted January 10, 2008 Make sure you are not really coversing with Wiser as well. He likes to pretend he is a woman on dating sites... hahahahahahah Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 11, 2008 Author Share Posted January 11, 2008 Happy, you made me laugh ... thanx for the chuckle --MJ Link to comment
HappyAsALark Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Happy, you made me laugh ... thanx for the chuckle --MJ you are very welcome! let us know how it goes! and let us know if it was really wiser...hahaha Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Share Posted January 12, 2008 OK... to start she showed up on time and alone ... I guess she really trusted me because meeting someone for the first time that you met online can be scary ... So we had lunch and talked for two hours ... probably would have kept going but she had to go pick up her sister from work ... She looks just like her pictures on eharmony, a bit over weight and average looks but with a definate cute factor. But I am not the kind of person that has a problem with looks or body shape... I found her to be really easy to talk to and when she smiled or laughed I could feel a definate connection. She said she had a good time and I asked if she would like to go to dinner some evening and continue the conversation she said she would like that. I asked her for her cell number and she gave it to me. She said she would email me this evening and I told here I would write back or call and we could discuss when she would like to go out again and she said that would be great... I guess we shall see where this goes. --MJ She wasn't your buddy wiser, and I don't think she used to be a man so I think were good there Link to comment
ultraviolet Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 I found her to be really easy to talk to and when she smiled or laughed I could feel a definate connection... Congrats Mark! I have a good feeling about this one! *fingers crossed* Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 13, 2008 Author Share Posted January 13, 2008 So we chatted on the phone for a bit today and were going to dinner Wed evening. I'll be sure and let ya know how that goes. --MJ Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 17, 2008 Author Share Posted January 17, 2008 For those that are interested ... I just got home from our date and I had a real good time. We talked about going out again sometime next week. Now I just need to call her and see when she is available. --M Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 17, 2008 Share Posted January 17, 2008 Was there a reason you didn't make a plan right then? Link to comment
MarkWA65 Posted January 17, 2008 Author Share Posted January 17, 2008 She is taking classes at the local college and plays volleyball several days a week. I suppose I could have asked right then Batya33 and maybee I should have. I guess we shall see. --M Link to comment
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