lilman90945 Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 oook, in my last post i got a pretty good respnse...but i think this one is a step further, ok im curious to know... the girl that im into...she used to always say how she doesnt want a relationship with a guy for reasons like, break-ups hurt, and she likes to flirt a lot. she seems to like me but im not quite sure if IM doing right. i try not to talk to her TOO much becuase i know that can push girls away, and i kinda play everything cool...yet i REALLY like her, i known her for about 3 months and i still feel that little"nervousness" around her, sometimes i cant even look at her face...i dont know why. (we went to homecoming together,like 2 weeks after i met her). she always writes me notes and calls me all these nicknames (baby boi, babe,honey) and she always initiates conersations with me. so i know she is feeling me at least a little. but what do I do/say...and how do I act...i want her but i know i have to wait a little longer because i know she still doesnt know me WELL enough to be in a relationship with me. (she doesnt know how much i like her) all responses are greatly appreciated Link to comment
idunno Posted November 11, 2003 Share Posted November 11, 2003 this seems to be the key phrase to me "she likes to flirt a lot". this is a situation i apparently seem to find myelf in. to the unjaded this could mean nothing. to anyone over, say...25, this means she is bizzzzy or wants to be. best bet, dive in, lie, play and leave. its what she wants anyway. too serious fella, you belong in the 1940's Link to comment
Hero_99 Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 oook, in my last post i got a pretty good respnse...but i think this one is a step further, ok im curious to know... I should read your last post, maybe it will give me better insight to respond to this one.... the girl that im into...she used to always say how she doesnt want a relationship with a guy for reasons like, break-ups hurt, and she likes to flirt a lot. She is afraid of rejection and wants non-threatening relationships she seems to like me but im not quite sure if IM doing right. The more you worry about doing the right thing the more you will wreck your confidence. Just don't worry about it..... i try not to talk to her TOO much becuase i know that can push girls away, and i kinda play everything cool... Ok, sounds good to me and I don't know otherwise how you are acting, so I am assuming you are doing well. Just don't start talking about yourself.. In a guys world it's the way things are done, but a girl sees it as rude... Girls tend to like to hear a lot about themselves. It shows them that you are interested in them when you talk about them. yet i REALLY like her, i known her for about 3 months and i still feel that little"nervousness" around her, Sounds normal, but remember that showing excess nervousess could be seen as unattractive..... sometimes i cant even look at her face...i dont know why. NO NO NO!!!, LOOK HER IN THE EYES!!! ALWAYS!!! MAKE HER BE THE FIRST TO LOOK AWAY!!! Men learn not to look into each others eyes for a prolonged time because it is considered a challenge, but for a girl is shows EXTREME CONFIDENCE! she always writes me notes and calls me all these nicknames (baby boi, babe,honey and she always initiates conersations with me. so i know she is feeling me at least a little. The more she wants to be around you the more she likes you. but what do I do/say...and how do I act...i want her but i know i have to wait a little longer because i know she still doesnt know me WELL enough to be in a relationship with me. (she doesnt know how much i like her) Ask her out to a date or something; Sounds like she will definatelly be responsive to you. And do it calmly and in a confident manner.... Also try to make it sound non-threatening, look for opportunities like for example: Girl: I'm hungry. Guy: Really, I was thinking of going to taco bell. Do you have any money? Girl: (Assuming) No. Guy: It's ok, I'll pay for you if you would like to come along. You can also ask someone else to come along before you ask her that helps to ease anxiety..... Just make sure it's not another guy who is also interested in her; I made that mistake once. Link to comment
Hero_99 Posted November 12, 2003 Share Posted November 12, 2003 Ok, I just saw your other post and would like to make a few comment; I might even modify the post above based on this.... 1. good thing: she went to homecoming with me instead of her b/f (her ex b/f now) bad thing: she ALWAYS talks about him, and mentions him when we talk ( bad things about him though) Going out with you doesn't mean she has interest in you. Especially if she is talking about her ex-boyfriend. DO NOT BRING UP HER BOYFRIEND, DO NOT COMMENT ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND, IGNORE THE FACT THAT SHE HAS OR HAD A BOYFRIEND, DO NOT GIVE HER REALTIONSHIP ADVICE, DO NOT ADVISE HER ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND!!!!!!!! You will never get in the green if she keeps getting stuck talking about her boyfriend or old boyfriend so do your best to ignore and avoid her talking about him or any other guys... 2.good thing: everytime we dont talk for a while ...not seeing each other or what not...she calls me, or email bad thing: she MAY only be doing it to be friendly...ya know Letting her contact you is a good thing; it leaves you with some control... 3.Good thing: we talk for hours on the phone about NOTHING (it feels good though)....she laughs at every thing i say, she even does most of the talking Bad thing: maybe im just a good listener and thats why she talks to me so much BAD THING: YOU TALK WITH HER TOO MUCH ON THE PHONE!!!! You need to show her that you have better things to do than sit on the phone and listen to her for hours and hours.. Always end the conversation first right before you run out of good things to say. 4. Good thing: she calls me "Baby boi" everytime she writes me a note or an email...but NOT on the phone..why? bad: she calls a lot of guys babe and stuff like that Yeah, that may mean nothing..... i know this seems a little weird but i really like her...judging from this post what do you guys think? Her interest level in you is low, but remember that is only judging by the post..... Link to comment
swift44 Posted November 15, 2003 Share Posted November 15, 2003 All you should do is try to stay close to her and wait for her to be ready to start a relationship with you. don't call her all the time let her call you sometimes and just relax just try to stay calm and be youself. Link to comment
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