Have you ever/would you ever turn down a date/meeting because of shyness?

[Brightest Dark]

I'm just curious if anyone's not met up with someone or taken things further because of being shy - even if they liked that person. Like say someone you thought was really attractive asked you to meet up - would you ever ignore the offer (or make up an excuse) due to shyness or insecurity?

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

yeah back in high school, a girl i liked asked me if i liked her, and i was supposed to meet her after school but never did beacuse of shyness

[love4life]

No, I haven't. But I can say that when both people are shy (as appears to be my current situation), it's very difficult to get the ball rolling!!

[Iwantittoend]

When I was younger, I used to do this a lot. I'm still shy now, but I've grown out of it a little more and I express my views a lot more than I used to. I realized I had to come out of my shell if I wanted to meet and get to know people. I couldn't just hide my whole life.

[Raize]

Yeah... in High School I sent a valentine card to a Girl I liked (but didn't really know), then found out from a mutual friend that she was waiting for me to come and talk to her, but I never did... Mainly due to the fact she was always around her friends.

 

A year or two later, I was 99% sure a girl I worked with really liked me, and I really liked her, but I never plucked the courage to ask for her number or give her mine. I guess I didn't have a car back then nor did my Family so I couldn't see how I could get to see her even if we did swap numbers. That was my excuse to myself anyways.

 

And on it goes...

[Madoc]

You know now that I think about maybe some of the girls I asked out in the past where very shy as much as I was now that you mention this.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

did i mentioned i turned down the girl i liked and she asked me to the prom

 

shyness sucks....plain and simple....

 

how many times does the shy guy in high school get asked to the prom by the girl he had his eye on the whole yr?

[Mavh25]

Yeah, while I was single I was asked out a coupla times, each time I sort of panicked lol and said I was'nt single cos i'm way too shy! the idea of dating someone new scares me lol I blush if a guy approaches me and I haven't had a alcoholic beverage lol unless ofcourse they're one of those pompous "I can have anyone" guys.

 

I gave a coupla people my phone number though! and they've become pretty good friends, so it is'nt all bad. I was just on the spot, not so used to being asked out.

[someguy88]

Never turned down a meeting because of shyness. Geez, it must be painful being that shy. If someone asks you out then they really want to see you. There's no need to feel insecure and shy because they already like you.

[Mavh25]

Yeah but it was gut reaction for me to go =O lol

 

I was'nt expecting it any of the times....

 

My first thought was... Oh god, why? lol

and then come the worries

 

Luckily it don't matter no more lol

[someguy88]

Yeah but it was gut reaction for me to go =O lol

 

I was'nt expecting it any of the times....

 

My first thought was... Oh god, why? lol

and then come the worries

 

Luckily it don't matter no more lol

 

Awwww. That's sooooo sad. Next time I meet a really shy person I'm sure I'm going to think of this thread. I can't imagine how awful that must feel.

[Mavh25]

Awww it aint loserish to be shy, just gotta learn how to react I s'pose. I would'nt be like that now. Probably because I'm not single though for real lol

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Never turned down a meeting because of shyness. Geez, it must be painful being that shy. If someone asks you out then they really want to see you. There's no need to feel insecure and shy because they already like you.

 

when your shy its a whole new world......eventually i broke out of it, well beacuse i was tired of just flirting and it never going anywhere beacuse i was to shy.....back in high school (not to brag) but i had girls all on me......but what da hell did that matter i didnt do anything

 

i could kick myself

[Taking The Lead]

Actully, I never used to get attention when I was younger, now that im a little bit older i'm getting alot more attention from girls then I used to get. It's actully made me a helluva lot more confident in myself, also, I don't have to settle for anything less then what I can appreciate.

[seabrook]

Welcome to my world

[matts0344]

Rarely to a specific person, a girl has never really asked me out before.

 

But I've made up excuses to friends plenty of times why I don't want to go to parties or bars, or meet up with some girls or something. Dozens of times at least.

[stranded247]

No I wouldn't if I wanted to meet the guy and I liked him I would go and just kick my nerves in the back well thats what I usually do. I'm shy when it comes to making moves but thats because its seen as a thing for guys to do not girls. But if a guy that I like makes a move on me my shyness will go away because then I know he likes me hence there is no need to be nervous because you wont be rejected and my nerves usually equate to shyness so I get rid of it.

[iamonlyhuman]

Oh God have I?

 

Twice I let my date down and we ended up calling it quits.

 

I'm now talking to a new guy, just on the phone for now though. He wants to meet up on Friday and I'm already in two minds due to the way I feel about myself, but he is such an amazing character and we have a really good rapport.

 

I've told him about my shyness issues and he thinks it isn't an issue, so it is making Friday seem a little less daunting I guess...

 

SO I guess thats a good start...lol

[Adobe GIllis]

Yes, I usually do this. Due to being shy, I need large amounts of signal and greenlight from her before I pursue any offer. Sometimes I get so shy, that only if the woman is persistent to the point of being predatory will I go on the date. This is not a good way to get things done in the dating world. As a matter of fact, you give me a good idea for another thread.

[Imipolex G]

In high school I had 3 or 4 girls approach me at different times, but I turned them down, because of extreme shyness.

 

I feel like nowadays if that happened my response would be different, but they don't seem to want to talk to me anymore.

[jerseygirl23]

I have always been super shy and have let a few great guys go because of it. I'm turning a new leaf now, though. I decided it's time for me to get out of my freaking shell!