Too trusting?

[SadJJ]

Just curious: Do you trust people until they give you a reason not to? OR Do you NOT trust someone right away? Maybe it's just me, but I have always given people the benifit of the doubt and trusted them right off the bat (with some caution). But maybe I am too trusting? What do you think?

[Tonk]

Be careful!!! Trust is something that should be gained I think a lot of people me included are to trusting and find out the hard way you cant trust everyone. In both relationships and business there are people that will abuse the trust so dont get paranoid but caution is always good.

[The Morrigan]

I do the same - I'd rather trust, and risk being hurt by that, than withhold it, simply because if you don't trust someone, you can't expect them to trust you either, and that's no foundation for any relationship, even a friendship. I'm cautious in that I don't accept excuses for mistakes, I expect responsbility to be taken, and I do look at how the person has treated others as well, but I try judge myself at least as harshly as anyone else - and I can't say I've never made a mistake.

[avman]

I think a world where nobody trusts each other would be a very sad place. Wars start that way. Lawsuits start that way. Enemies are made and kept. And nobody is willing to take that first step to go out and take a chance.

 

Yes, by trusting we will get burned. That is inevitable. But I think it is the price to be paid for being a better person. Being bitter and distrustful is like a cancer that eats away at you from the inside. You never allow anyone to get close so you don't get hurt - yet you also never get to experience the richness and love you can experience by opening up and trusting people.

 

I vote for trusting until given a reason not to.

[SadJJ]

Thanks guys this helps! I was starting to feel like I was the only one who felt this way. I know that sometimes trusting people will lead to getting screwed in the end, but honestly I think that is something I am willing to risk. Why not? I truly believe that everybody has good in them, and if you never give them your trust you will never see the good.

 

Why not initiate the trust? It's got to start somewhere.

[idunno]

dont say you werent warned (not trying to be rude)

[SadJJ]

I never would, because I know it's a risk to trust someone right off the bat. Thank you for the warning though. But I would rather get burned, than miss an opportunity to meet someone wonderful.

[Tonk]

Good on you!. Was not trying to say dont trust. Most people are worth trusting. Just sometimes there is a risk and its worth taking stock of it.

 

Take care

[swift44]

with me i don't fully trust people until i get to know them i can let them know a few facts but not alot about me until they earn my trust, remember the world is filled with snakes and thies just keep you eyes open and u aint got nuthin t worry about.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[buffalosoldier]

Id love to be able to post here and say 'yes,i definitely trust people until they prove to me that they cant be trusted' - i really mean that,but i just cant find it in me to trust someone so immediately. I think if i really worked at it then i would be able to change that part of me (i would like to) but in a way i would be scared.I know people say you have to be completely open with people to be happy with them etc, but its just getting past that stage.Ive been hurt enough in my life, and i would absolutely love to be one of these people that can see the good in just about anyone,and believe that people are innocent until proven guilty.-But its hard for me to believe that there are that many people i come in contact with on a day to day basis that are trustworthy.I dont know id love for it to be different and maybe it would if the world had more lovely people in it

[neva_black_n_white]

hey

i would have to say that trust is a hard thing for me that generally has to be build up, it doesnt have a specific time but with some people it has to be mutural, equal if you know what i mean. it seems to me that i have people who i trust with somethings and others with others, and i dont think its because i dont trust them on a whole but just different people are sometimes easier to communicate with and thereforeeee trust.

 

i dont know if im making sense i guess i cant explain it.

 

i think that one problem is that trust can be lost easily and to me is very precious so handing it out too easy is not good for me.

i do trust a lot of people and give them a chance but theres always a side of me that is wary of something.

 

well thats just my opinion kel..