boomshanks Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 ok so my girlfriend has a left inverted nipple. and it doesnt really even look any different. but shes really embaressed about it and she wants to get surgery done on it to make it "normal". personally i thinks its ridiculous to spend money and risk yuor health for somthing so trivial but she really doesnt like it. how should i go about to stop her from doing that? she doesnt need surgery shes perfect the way she is but shes just really set on the idea of getting a surgery for some reason! Link to comment
YeahOkWhateverIguess Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 she has to be comfortable with herself. Support her. Im sure youve told her u love how she is.. but your title bothers me a bit.. she's not dumb.. she's very common. Imagine if you had one testicle. Or.. had ED.. A woman's breasts define her feminity, her sexiness..well, for the most part. I know it comes from the inside im not talkn about that.. The way you feel about your manhood is the way she feels about her breasts. Just support her. Link to comment
rocio Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 just let her know that you don't think it's necessary and support whatever decision she makes. Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 be supportive. There are probably things that bother you, that she may find trivial and silly as well! Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 isn't this minor surgery? sometimes inverted nipples can cause problems nursing a baby, so perhaps it is not a bad thing if it is minor surgery and she really wants to do it... Link to comment
loveistough Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 You need to be supportive....and don't call her dumb!! Link to comment
thyroxine Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 My gynecologist told me that as soon as you pop out a kid, the nipple will probably pop out. I have an inverted nipple (actually it's the left as well!) She said that if it didn't, then I should consider surgery, but otherwise, it's not a problem. It took me awhile to get over the embarrassment of it...especially when a boyfriend would point it out. I also have to agree that you shouldn't call her "dumb." While, yes, it is a vanity issue...it's something that can be terribly embarrassing if your not comfortable in your own skin yet. Just reassure her that you'd support her with whatever decision she makes and be there for her. Telling her she's dumb will just lower her self esteem and probably make her feel even worse about her nipple problem. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 I agree with the above posters. Reassure her that you love her just as she is, rather than resorting to name-calling. At the end of the day though, as silly as the decision may seem to you, if it makes her happy, that's what matters. It's her body. Link to comment
boomshanks Posted January 6, 2008 Author Share Posted January 6, 2008 no well by saying shes dumb im not saying shes stupid. itwas just supposed to be an empty word i apologize for wording it like that. but from what i read this surgery can stop her from mess up her ability to breast feed for good and i just dont see why its necessary for it to be not inverted. especially going through something like plastic surgery:S Link to comment
Atticus90 Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Girls like to be "perect" with there self image. Us guys wouldn't mind a couple physical imperfections. Support her decision would be a good idea Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 8, 2008 Share Posted January 8, 2008 she wants to be comfortable with herself. if it fixes her insecurity, let her make her own decisions. u want to be a good bf? sure, voice your concerns, but be supportive of her life choices. Link to comment
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