My boyfriend just runs away

[lost in the clouds]

I am writing on behalf of my little sister.

 

just an hour ago my boyfriend left me in a club in the middle of no where (somewhere i don't know where i am) i some how found my way home within the past half hour and didn't know what to do so i wanted to know your thoughts.

 

He left me because i really wanted to dance with him and he was being stubborn because he thinks i am a better dancer than him so he refused. Then i went outside to be by myself for a while and one of my friends came outside to see what was up with me. After telling him he went inside to talk to him about it. I was then confronted by my boyfriend who told me that everyone was nagging him to dance with me. Then he left me as described in the above paragraph.

 

This isn't the first time this has happened but i was wondering how you will take this. you must understand that i love him more than anything and i won't get rid of him cus he means the world to me.

[ComputerGuy]

So basically you threw a tantrum because he didnt want to dance? Id have left too TBH.

[Hope75]

While I don't condone the fact that he left you in a place where you weren't familiar and were alone- I think you made an error in bringing your friend in the middle of a disagreement between you and your boyfriend. If he doesn't like to dance he doesn't like to dance, and you should just go to the club with your girlfriends and do other things with your bf that you both enjoy.

[StephenP]

^ What they said. Guys only confront what they can handle and walk away from everything else, and no guy can handle his girlfriend and her little friend nagging him to do something he doesn't want to do, when honestly, it's just not that important.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I agree with all said above, both of you were wrong in the situation.. You shouldn't have nagged him and harped on him to do something he's uncomfortable doing and left it alone when he said he didn't want to dance but instead you brought your friend in the middle of it.. And he shouldn't have left you at the club in the middle of nowhere without making sure you had a way to leave.

 

so pick up the pieces and both of you learn from this situation.

[lost in the clouds]

ok i understand that i was in the wrong about wanting him to dance with me so badly but on the way home i was ringing him and asking where he was and if he was ok. As far as i know he walked home and i had to as well. He cut me off loads of times when i tried to ring him and said he didn't care anymore which i thought was a bit drastic and i didn't understand how trying to get my bf to dance would make him say things like that to me.

[ComputerGuy]

I know for me personally, if something annoys me to the point where I feel the need to go "Screw this Im leaving" I really dont want to hear about it from the relevant parties right now. If you want to apologise thats fine but save it for the following day once I've calmed down. If you try and apologise while I'm still in a bad mood I'm likely to tell you "Whatever don't care, kthxbai".

[loveistough]

I agree that you never should have involved your friends and made your b/f uncomfortable. He shouldn't have left you though. Not sure why you are asking what to do if leaving him isn't an option anyway.

[ComputerGuy]

Who the hell cares about some petty argument. Leaving you in the middle of nowhere says that he doesn't give a damn about your safety at least. That is unforgivable. Dump him immediately.

 

Um if her friend was there bugging him as well its assumed her friend was there with them thus him leaving still leaves her with her friend.

[lost in the clouds]

i left on my own because i was more worried about my bf and what would happen between us. my friend wanted to stay behind though

[loveistough]

Um if her friend was there bugging him as well its assumed her friend was there with them thus him leaving still leaves her with her friend.

 

Good point. She said she was left alone but he really didn't leave her alone since the friend was there. If she chose to leave on her own then that was her own choice but she can't blame him for leaving her there.

[JadedStar]

I tihnk you made him extremely uncomfortable by not only nagging him to dance but going outside pouting about it then putting a friend in the middle of it.

 

He left to cool off.

 

Lessons learned. He does NOT like to dance. YOU know that. he made it clear. Some people are extremely embarrassed to do this, you should not have gone outside to pout. And he didn't leave you alone. You were there with friends. If you chose to leave without the friends that was your choice.

 

My advice is leave him alone for the night to cool off. Let him call you once he has had a chance to think this thru. Next time don't nag him once he says no to something. No means no when men say it to.

[vintage tees]

i would definitely say he over reacted while being upset with you. contrary to some other posts i find it incredibly wrong for him to leave you behind in a place you were not familiar with and were unsure about getting home safely. a real man cares about his girls well being and would not leave her behind like this, especially considering it was over something trivial, like you asking him to dance and him not wanting to because you are better. i guess i am open minded and would have danced fooling around. who cares if you were nagging him, it is wrong to leave you behind and you dont deserve such treatment.