chris189 Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Well i've been talking with this girl online for a while and we really liked eachother so we decided to meet. First we talked on the phone and we talked for 3 hours and had probably one the of the best flirtational conversations i have ever had and i wasn't shy at all... Anyway so she really enjoyed the convo and i did as well so she decided to invite me to her aunt's new years party. When i got there i didn't talk much and was nervous and shy... very frustrating for me since i know i didn't make a great first impression... so a day or two after we started talking on the phone and she still likes me but our phone convo's are really lame... I just can't think of what to ask or say to grab her attention and keep it, ie.. not make her bored. It's funny because i can't remember much at all about what we talked about in our first convo on the phone. What are some good ideas on a good convo that would grab her attention and keep it... after that it'll be smooth sailin'. Link to comment
cleo_gurl Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 There are tons of things to talk about. Her career, does she like sports? Where did she go to college? What activities was she in during college? Whats her fav color, food, flower, movie etc... What does she like to do for fun? Her family? Tons and tons of stuff to talk about. Just tell her you got nervous that night and your sorry it was just a little overwhelming and you froze she will eat that up. At least I would just you being able to tell her that you were nervous is nice. Link to comment
chris189 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Share Posted January 6, 2008 thanks. that helps. Yeah i told her that i was nervous and she said she was really nervous too... which is good and she said she still likes me. Oh by the way after all that akwardness and nervousness at the end of the night she walked me out to my car we hugged and i gave her a kiss and she accepted it, she said it made her really happy, So i'm hoping things are still going well. I told her that i sure wished we would of kissed on new years and she said yeah but we were both too nervous, So i asked her what if i just kissed u now? she said "well that's up to you" so i kissed her! I wish i would of recorded my last convo with her or something lol so i could just build off what we were talking about, it would be it alot easier... Link to comment
surfNski Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Man, don't feel bad about your first impression. Its hard for anybody (shy or not) to go to a party and not no anybody for a first date. I give you allot of credit for going in the first place. And man, it sounds like things are going just fine, just relax and go with the flow. Good luck... Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 I think you did great given a tough situation - meeting her at a family party for the first time! Keep the conversations short, end on a high note and make plans soon to see her in person again. Good luck!! Link to comment
chris189 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Share Posted January 6, 2008 This site is so great! Oh and thanks! that makes me feel so much better to get a real honest opinion about my situation. Not one of my friends really care and they don't know how to help. They just figure i should know already. I just really need to talk to her on the phone and start building my Flirtability skills and then i can try to do the same in person... I believe good solid flirting is the key to a solid relationship, Correct? So basically a sum up of my situation is that we both still really like eachother but i just need to get over my Nervous akwardness and open up more. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Well - I always think that if you can make the other person laugh that's more than half the battle. More important than "intense" conversations. Link to comment
Phaser Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Don't talk on the phone so much, then what will you talk about when you see each other. Link to comment
Altruist Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Don't talk on the phone so much, then what will you talk about when you see each other. Agreed. Only use the phone to arrange meeting her. Link to comment
chris189 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Share Posted January 6, 2008 ok, well i'm pretty sure it's over and i'm getting over it... Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted January 7, 2008 Share Posted January 7, 2008 Minimize the phone conversations and talk in person. You should be doing most of your conversing in person and keep the phone conversations short. Link to comment
chris189 Posted January 7, 2008 Author Share Posted January 7, 2008 lol ok yeah, talking on the phone is nothing like in person, i totally agree. Well it's still going pretty good... Link to comment
chris189 Posted January 14, 2008 Author Share Posted January 14, 2008 well it doesn't matter because we don't talk anymore... Link to comment
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