Im having a really hard time lately.

[helifreak]

So after our meeting sunday, she got the last of her stuff except for a few things she said she would get later. I called her to find out when and offered to drop it off at her moms house, telling her that I missed her and still had feelings for her and I want our next meeting to be because we want to, not because we have to. She understood.

 

I am sick now and dont know when I will drop her stuff off. I want to see her but I dont at the same time. I just miss her so badly.

 

I guess up until now things have been okay because I felt that she was missing me a little or thinking about me and although not a lot has changed, it suddenly feels different. I spoke to her and she texted me on sunday, its only four days which isnt that long, but it just feels so empty and lonely.

 

This was the love of my life, I planned my future with her and now I feel like I have been completely written off. Maybe I am over reacting but It really hurts like hell.

 

I havent been this depressed in a while.

[J_man]

that stinks, i hope tomorrow is a better day for you

[Tinnes]

I know how much it hurts when you planned to spend life with someone, and when that one goes away. It passed 6 months after my break-up and last 2 months I feel so bad, too. But I know one certain thing- no way back.

 

The only thing that you have to think about right now is you. Make shure to wake early every morning, go to work, or school, to eat well, sleep well. Go out with your friends and try to find something new in your life that will occupy you. When you feel to cry, cry. Just do whatever you like, but do. Do not sit at home and be depressed.

 

Yes it hurts so bad, but after some time you'll feel even great. Believe me, I made it(before ex that left me, tryed to come back, and gone again).Read articles about break up, and it will help you to realize things more clear. It helps a lot.

[samross]

tinnes is right. I'm going through the same thing. One thing about your situation is a little different - you're closer to the fire than we are. In other words, there is some pain for some time that you will go through. There's no way around it. But I am an optimist. When I say you're to close to the fire, it is too soon yet to make a final judgement on your relationship with her. You said she texted you so I assume she initiated that. That's a good thing. It sounds like both of you got burned a bit so both of you are hurting. Give it time. Things turn around every day. You just never know. Give it time.

[Tinnes]

Just try this. Live your everyday life. And try to become better, step by step, in the things you are interested in.

 

Be aware that now you cannot be happy emotionaly(in sense of relationship). But it does not have to mean that it have to effect all other aspects of your life. Separate these two things. Sit with yourself and think a bit.

 

It is you who can make you happy. Not her, nor someone else. Look around you. Life is great. Be closer to your family, friends, gain new. Maybe you did not payed too much attention to them lately. Take care of yourself.

 

Some people are ill, lost their child, have no leg, or arm... but still live and enjoy in their lives. Just turn a new page in your life. Some problems need time to be solved. Be patient. In a meantime, work on yourself and give a plenty of time to recover. It will be solved.

 

And write here on forum. It helps a lot. Write about your feelings...

 

(hope you understand me, because of my not so good english)

[helifreak]

tinnes is right. I'm going through the same thing. One thing about your situation is a little different - you're closer to the fire than we are. In other words, there is some pain for some time that you will go through. There's no way around it. But I am an optimist. When I say you're to close to the fire, it is too soon yet to make a final judgement on your relationship with her. You said she texted you so I assume she initiated that. That's a good thing. It sounds like both of you got burned a bit so both of you are hurting. Give it time. Things turn around every day. You just never know. Give it time.

 

Yes, she did text me on Sunday, but only in response to me asking if she would like to get her stuff that night. That is the thing, since the break up I have been playing it cool and she seems to leave me alone and then check in. Then she shows signs of thinking of me or flat out says it. But then, this Sunday she really acted as is nothing was wrong. She asked for a hug and told me to call her if I needed help moving.

 

I don't know if something just clicked and she doesn't care anymore, which is different then the week before when she said she was thinking about me and got me something (which she forgot) or if she is just pretending like nothing is wrong and this isnt the last of it.

 

I guess I just built it up in my head as a "final" goodbye for awhile and it felt like it just didn't matter.

 

Yes, she text me sunday night and told me she can wait on the rest of her stuff and hoped that I feel better. That is it. That was 4 full days ago, which isnt really that long, but for some reason, it feels like an eternity!

 

I am just having a hard time letting go. I miss those meaningless moments we shared more and more and I miss seeing her family and doing all the things we used to do together.

 

Sometimes its easy to think about her not wanting to be with me and say to myself, why get bent out of shape...but the truth is, I love her whether she loves me or not, so my love doesn't fade because hers may have.

 

Thanks for all the support, I considering taking some time off and spending it with my family for a few months, just to regroup, save some cash and get things back in order. This really destroyed me, i was in really deep with her and her family and in the blink of an eye it was ripped out from under me and now im left with nothing but memories.

 

If I talk to her, I may just tell her that I truly miss her but for the time being, i think we need to take some time apart and figure some stuff out. Hopefully in the future we can find each other and be close, whatever that may be, but for now I just need to clear my head.