ted123 Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Is it ever a good idea to have sex with an ex? I did, and now I’m even more confused, She text me asking me to have sex. I said no that I didn’t think it was a good idea but she talked me into it. I’m meeting her again tomorrow and she will more than likely want sex again. Should I? If you think I shouldn’t then what should I do. Totally confused at the minute and need advice. Thank you very much. Link to comment
catwalk Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 if the break up wasn't messy....... if it was a while ago..... if you both are not seeing anyone else...... and if you are mature enough to handle it...... then go for it! but if it was a messy break up.... recently.... or if she has a new bf.... and will end up thinking you are back together just because you had sex.... then stay far far away! Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 Who broke up with who? I think if you're confused about it, you need to stay far far away! Link to comment
johnmmm Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 if the break up wasn't messy....... if it was a while ago..... if you both are not seeing anyone else...... and if you are mature enough to handle it...... then go for it! but if it was a messy break up.... recently.... or if she has a new bf.... and will end up thinking you are back together just because you had sex.... then stay far far away! no the break-up was not messy as far as break-ups go. she broke up with me. We where and are good friends and I think both of us don’t want to luz that. The break-up was just over a month ago. No she dos not have another boy friend. She keeps asking me if I have slept with anyone since we broke up which I haven’t. When I asked her after having sex what we where going to do she said that she was afraid that things would go back to the way they were before, I told her that things would definitely not because I didn’t want to go back to that ether. Link to comment
sandyv Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 All I can say is ewww... cause I've been doing it... Truthfully its hurt me alot, I love him, and it seems to mean nothing to him... so IMHO... don't do it, unless you think it will work out. Link to comment
Lora828 Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 I'm going through this exact same thing right now. A month is a very short time. You will wind up getting hurt in some way- I learned this from experience. The sex was great and it felt so right at the time. It's really hard to go from regular sex to nothing at all. We've had sex 4 times since the break-up, and the first three I was fine with it. But this last time, the next few days after it I spent in tears... it felt as if we had broken up all over again. Don't do it. Maybe in the future, when you've become more adjusted to the break-up and the pain isn't so recent. But not right now. I know it's hard, but it's really not worth it right now. Link to comment
catwalk Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 agreed, a month is a very short time and emotions would still be high and RAW. she needs time to live with her decision and get on with her life Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 No, it's not a good idea. You broke up because the relationship wasn't working. One of you wants to get back together, or is hoping for more than the other. It's not helping either of you, so i would move on Link to comment
Superfreak Posted January 2, 2008 Share Posted January 2, 2008 One of you usually gets hurt. If you're comfortable with being her sex buddy and then all of a sudden having it endi once she finds a new boyfriend then doing it is fine. If you don't want the feeling of being "discarded" once she moves on with her dating life then it's not. Link to comment
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