smallguy Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 My wife declares unsurpassed love for a new guy 2 wks before christmas, we have 2 little ones, and it's new y eve, I have been coping quite well for a few weeks, given the circumstances, but tonight I didn't really want to hear from her, but I was still disappointed that I havent. I can't get the thoughts of her wishing her new boyfriend happy new year, out of my head- we've been married for 8 yrs and together for 9, I know that everyone here is in a similar boat, but it is just the thought that I really truly believed that she had more integriity and that we were happy ever after. There is a lot of this going around, and I don't want to lose faith in the human race, but, god, i couldn't of trusted her any more than I did- how can i ever trust anyone else? She told me that she could of continued with our relationship indefinitely, as she was quite happy, but she thinks that she can be happier with the new guy. As I've said, I have been doing my best to cope, but tonight, I found the finality and betrayal really real. I know I'm not the only one, but man it really hurts and I can't believe she has abandoned our little family unit. Link to comment
skyjuice Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Hi Smallguy, Hang on there. I know reality is cruel. You have to move on. Focus on yourself and your two little one. Link to comment
v-neck Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 Hey bro i'm sitting here on new years at home as well thinkign of a past flame, but knowing I have a life ahead of me. i'm just going to chalk up this year as if it didn't happen and hope the new one brings peace and joy. Anyways, chances are she's with this new guy for the wrong reasons, it probably won't last as most of those instant and sudden realtionships don't. To be honest, most guys don't want a girl with kids and who are married in a long-term thing and for that matter you wont' see this lasting much longer, at least in my opinion. I would defintely reconsider taking her back when she come pineing back to you, as she doesn't deserve that, just a thought `v-neck Link to comment
scornandtorn Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 She told me that she could of continued with our relationship indefinitely, as she was quite happy, but she thinks that she can be happier with the new guy. I feel for ya. The same thing happened to me some time ago. I can tell you this, don't put any thought into "she thinks she could be happier". She is living in the fog and nothing she says will make sense to you. If she has developed an attachment she will only try and justify it. I have been in your shoes and trust me, it is NOT you. Don't let her burden you with the load. Link to comment
Mysterygirl Posted January 1, 2008 Share Posted January 1, 2008 you can't change the past, all you can do is plan for a better future ... what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger Link to comment
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