Confused...does she like me or not...or is it me?

[otherwise]

My co-worker and I had gone out this past wednesday and today.

 

To make everything short, I enjoyed the time we spent together on wednesday. The only thing though, is because I'm so *freakin* shy that everytime I make my moves on her and she responds back positively (whenever I try to put my arms around her shoulder, she gets closer towards me, but i never did. We sat down somewhere to get a rest, and she just sat and leaned on me. We ate dinner, and she was just red the whole time, from blushing. Basically, everytime she gets romantic, I shy away from it), I kinda back away and end up not doing anything at all. I know that I made a mistake, and if I could turn back the time, I would do things differently. From what I'm thinking, I kinda give her a "message" that we're just friends, that's what I didn't want to come accross as.

 

So tonight, I thought was a second chance for me. We went on a theme-park. We enjoyed everything, from batting cages down to the coversations we had at dinner. This time, everytime I tried my moves, she shies away from me, one time she even moved away from me (literally). There were also times that she was getting a little to close to me. I think that she noticed that I was having a little trouble with women, she asked me if I'm intimidated by them, I said, "no I'm not, it's that I'm generally shy to everyone (If you meet me, I wouldn't talk to you unless you talk to me first).

 

I don't know if she still likes me more than just a friend, or not? In your opinion, does she just want to take things slowly? What do I have to do to overcome my shyness?

[Hero_99]

When a woman wants to get close to you it is a sign of interest. When she asked if you were afraid of her she was meerly noting your shyness and was maybe hoping to get you going somehow.

 

The first thing you need to do is to start socializing yourself more. Make bold moves in public like for example try to start conversations with total strangers. Also smile and look into peoples eyes that helps too.

 

Keep doing it you will improve over time....

[otherwise]

One reason why I became shy to her and women in general is that I had been in a relationship before where it ended up in a bad way. It lasted 3 years (most of it was Long Distance) and we were also co-workers. Out of nowhere, my ex just accused me of being unfaithful to her and cheating on her. To make it short, I got upset and broke it up with her. During our relationship, I had met women, but just as friends and nothing serious and I never cheated on her. To be dumped that way was really hard (for me) and I would have gotten over it (the better way or much faster) if she would just call it quits and not accuse me of cheating. Basically, after spending that time and effort making our relationship work, getting dumped that way had an effect on me (I started having trouble on trusting women); I wanted to take things slowly before having a relationship with someone, cause spending that much time and effort on someone and being dumped that way was bad (for me). I never told her that after I had broken up with my ex, she was the only girl that I really opened up to and became friends(and possibly more) with. The truth is I liked her a lot and I wanted her to be my girl in any way; I just don't want to be burned again.