Receptionist at Doctor's Office (help)

[woofwoof33]

So I see a massage therapist and DC for work on my back from a car accident here. I'm just moved to Phoenix and don't know many people, but one good thing from the accident is that the receptionist is incredibly attractive and flirty. Of course, I could be mistaking her flirtiness for good customer service, and of course, I don't want to bother her doing her job. I've only been going a week and we talk a bit, but I don't know her name and haven't asked it, ugh, and now don't want to ask because I feel like I should already have known it. I'm pretty sure I know what it is though because I overheard it, and now I'm wondering whether I should pretend I know (and be right/wrong) or ask her. D'oh.

 

Moreover, how do I go about asking her out without being creepy. It's a small office and there are usually people waiting there within earshot, so the whole idea is intimidating. I have another month of treatment, so geting shot down would suck since I have to go there 3x/week. I don't want to be "that guy" but on the other hand, I'll never forgive myself if I don't at least try.

 

So cliff notes for advice:

 

1.) Ask her name or just say hello xxxx next time going with what I'm 99% sure is her name. Will she wonder how I know it? Will that be creepy?

 

2.) How many visits before I ask her out. How much small talk...and how do I keep the conversation short and interesting so I don't bother her work or put my foot in my mouth. Topics? Good question?

 

Any advice appreciated.

[Yambag the Violator]

Don't guess at the name. That seems like a lose-lose situation. Keep up the small talk and try and feel out the vibe. If and when it feels right, take your shot.

[capbit]

How long have you been going there? Does she know you by your first name or is it just 'hi'?

If you're curious about her, just ask your massage therapist.. Say 'who's that cute receptionist you got' and he might give you little bit more insight about her. Not a good idea to ask her what her name is.

[rich0323]

I'm in sort of a similar situation. I recently realized I am attracted to the receptionist at the place I get my haircut. I got my last haircut there a week before Christmas. While getting my haircut I noticed her switching out the music that was playing to Christmas music. When my haircut was done and it was time to pay I approached her and paid like usual and made small talk about the person who used to cut my hair no longer working there. Before I walked out I said I hope you have a Merry Christmas and her face lit up and she smiled back and said Merry Christmas to me as well.

 

I was thinking I really wanted to ask her out right then and there but at least I hope that I made a lasting impression on her by her reaction which borderline of an expression of surprise/happy. I know that my situation is in my favor because the place I get my haircut is a salon, which is mostly women. So at least I know that most of the cliental are female and less chance of her being asked out a lot.

 

I will get my haircut there again in a couple of weeks. I am going to try and get the nerve up to ask her out and I really hope she doesn't have a boyfriend.

[woofwoof33]

Been going there about 1.5 weeks, about 5 visits.

 

The first few times I was actually in a decent amount of pain, and I don't think she was working one of those times. Then I noticed her and made small talk about Christmas, no mention of boyfriend. She knows me by name, but I mean, I have an appt there with my name on the sign in sheet, so that's no big deal.

 

Ok, so I'll definitely ask her name in a casual way...but man, it feels like I should have known it by now, hopefully she won't take that the wrong way.

 

So gameplan....one more talk, ask name, ask out? Or more small talk, ask name, and ask out on a subsequent visit.

 

Next visit won't be until after New years when I can ask her what she did and give her another chance to mention someone else.

 

In re: to the massage therapist, it's a she, not a he, and I fear that she might tell her if I say something and that might creep her out. Plus, I'm not sure, but I think the massage therapist might be interested....and I'm not, so i got kind of a double edged sword there.

 

I really need help on the right gameplan to keep it short and effective. I've always just approached women I found attractive, but never at their job! And this one in particular is drivin me nuts.

[capbit]

I suppose you could ask her for her name. Since she has seen you there for no more than a week.

 

I would talk with her a few more times before you ask her out since it sounds like you visit the office more than once a week. Get to know her more on a personal level. Like you said, give her a chance to mention any bf or anything else.

[rs.dallaire]

Let's be honest here, your chances of successfully asking this woman out are next to nil. These women run into situations like this ALL THE TIME. Do not mistake a smile or small talk for actual interest. They do that with every single customer.

 

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't give this a shot but if I were you I'd stop reading into things.

[ghost69]

'excuse me, but what is your name?' then you will know what to call her next time you go in. then on your next visit 'so how was your new years? do anything exciting?' see if she wants to divulge information to you in detail or just replies 'it was fun.'

[someguy88]

Let's be honest here, your chances of successfully asking this woman out are next to nil. These women run into situations like this ALL THE TIME. Do not mistake a smile or small talk for actual interest. They do that with every single customer.

 

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't give this a shot but if I were you I'd stop reading into things.

 

I disagree. I believe that it's always best to assume that someone is into you until you find out otherwise. If you think she's into you, than assume that you're going to get with her. I think there's a lot to be said for positive thinking.

 

Personally, I'd love the fact that there was an "audience" in the waiting room. If you ask her out in front of a bunch of strangers it shows that you have balls. Even if you make her feel a little uncomfortable by asking her out that's her problem, not yours.

 

I'd definitely wait on asking her out until you get her name.

[rich0323]

I'm sure most guys would figure a hot receptionist is asked out all the time but that could make most guys not try and ask her out. That girl could be sitting there just wishing and hoping a guy asks her out because she is lonely and since she works there she could get in trouble if she was the one asking. The way I see it, there is nothing worse then always wondering what if. What is the harm, I mean even if she turns you down she will be flattered that someone finds her attractive. As long as you do it in a way that doesn't creep her out.