pleasee help

[wantherback]

Its been a little less than a year since my last posts and a lot has changed. Last year me and my high school girlfriend of two years broke up when i went to college shhe was a year younger. I was real heartbroken i never felt such pain. for months i pined over her and being on this website actually helped. we ended up gettin back together for a few months i went to her prom with her and then we got in a big fight and separated again. another fight in the summer warranted me acting irrationally giving her back all of the thigns she gave me and ridding all picture of her i wanted to just get her out of my life. worked for a while i thought i had really moved on. she went off to college i was doing my thing at school and that was that.

then in november in a real strange coincidence we both visited friends at the same college on the same weeknd and ended up at the same bar. Personally i thought it was fate we live 6 blocks away from each other at home but havent seen each other since the break up then 6 months after not being together we both happen to be in some random city at a random college at some bar but i played it cool i said hello did the general convo and then went back to my friends i tried to look like i didnt care at all that she was there. she came running over later and actually bought me a drink nd we talkd for a while she texted me again later that night.

soo two weeks later for thanksgiving i thought maybe we should meet up and i asked her too she was willing but said she wanted nothing more than friends. i didnt pursue it i knew friends isnt what i want with her. i still think she one of the most beautiful girls i ever met and do have feelings for her. soo we didnt talk for another month until christmas. i texted her to wish her a merry christmas. then last night she texted me to see what i was doing i had some friends over dirnking and told her to come it was pretty late and not too many people were there. she said she wanted to come over as a friend i told her thats not what i wanted i wanted to hook up and we talked about that for a while and she decided to come over anyway. she brought a friend with her. after about an hour out of no where she was like alright im leaving and left the room real quick i went after her asked her to talk but she wouldnt she made it real weird. i texted her and asked her what happened. she said she just wanted to be friends and that she was drunk. i texted her again no response. then i called her i def. went over the top and scared her off again. what do i do now? i want to talk to her so bad but i dont want to ruin anything and wow this was rediculously long and im sorry but i need help i wana see her i want to talk to her but i dont know if i should or how to go about it pleasee help me

[rjm0827]

Seems she only wants to be friends.. Besides, if yall got back together then you both are at different schools. Long distance relationships can work but generally are harder. Do you want to have to deal with that? If you still want to try and get her back don't overwhelm her again like you did. That can really mess things up, speaking from personal experiences. See if she would mind going out as friends one night. You obviously want to be more than that but you have to start from somewhere.

[jmantra]

ya man seems she wants to have her cake and eat it too, begin NC and forget her. If she contacts you again tell her you want more than a friendship from her and since she is unable to provide, that she kindly respect your wishes and not contact you again.

[wantherback]

heyy thanks for the advice .... i think im going to call her tomorrow wish her a happy new year and see if maybe she wants to hang out friends or whatever even just see how it goes ... do you think this is a good idea? i'll let you know how it goes

[wantherback]

heyyy soo i called her today. we talked for about ten minutes. we didnt end up meeting up. she said she wants to make it clear she just wants to be friends she doesnt want to hurt me. she said she'd liek to hang out as friends but wants to make sure thats all i want too. i told her i could try but i know thats not what i really want. i still don't want to give up. maybe im a dumb hopeless romantic but i feel like i can still win her affection. im gonna play it cool. continue to talk to her casually over the next few weeks. were only home for another 3 weeks so im going to do what i can over that time and then go NC again for at least 60 days. hopefully i can build some kind of attraction again and then make her miss me or somethign idk. i miss her a lot and wish things were different but part of feels i really want to just find someone else and move on but everyone i go out with doesnt compare to her. please help with any advice.