This is not what is suppose to happen is it?

[Essian]

Me and my girl friend are both virgins. We have not been in a rush to have sex but we enjoyed being next to each other naked cuddling. Yesterday we started to joke around and me trying to get into her but it was not as easy as we thought it would. She was really turned on but still. Is it because she is really tight or is it something else? Please let us know.

[buckdawg]

it happens.

 

if at first you succeed try, try again.

[Essian]

But is it suppose to be difficult to get in?

[someguy88]

She's probably just tense. The first time I tried to do it I couldn't get in either. Don't worry about it, it'll work eventually.

[Mavh25]

Yesssssssssss still is sometimes!

 

and yup @ someguy!

[someguy88]

But is it suppose to be difficult to get in?

 

All women are different. This is perfectly normal.

[jsx730]

Yup, happened to me the first few times too.

[Essian]

So did you guys do anything to make it easier?

[someguy88]

So did you guys do anything to make it easier?

 

Start slow, be gentle and use your fingers first. Start with one, then two...

 

When you're ready to go, let her grab you and insert you. Just go slow and don't be too forceful to avoid hurting her.

[jsx730]

Incase you werent already using them, lubricated condoms help.

 

If not, KY works well.

 

Have her use her hand to spread her natural lube around too.

[Essian]

Yeah I tried that with my fingers too.

[pesh]

You have to be very erect (hard), especially with her being a virgin. The first time I tried to have sex with my bf, he had already orgasmed once, and he wasn't hard enough, so it was impossible for him to get in! I was worried about breaking his penis, so we stopped. The next night we tried again and everything was fine when he had a "proper" erection.

[Essian]

Thanks for everyone's help, we tried it again today and it worked just fine. Such a relief.

[pesh]

Thanks for everyone's help, we tried it again today and it worked just fine. Such a relief.

 

yay! glad to hear that we helped!

[rant]

Having never slept with a virgin woman I can't comment specifically on that, but I can say I've slept with a 37 year old woman who could tense up so tightly that sometimes penetration was pretty difficult. I had sex with her maybe 3 or 4 hundred times, and this happened maybe about 20 times, completely at random. Lube is very helpful in this situation.

 

There are also times a woman doesn't get wet enough, even though she's horny. That can happen at all ages. Both factors could be at play here. Throw in the fact that we (WERE)talking about a virgin, yeah I could see penetration being virtually impossible without lube.

[ghost69]

get some oil or lube. don't buy anything at the grocery store either. get at an adult shop.