How many of you got a christmas message from the ex's?

[S agapo]

and if u did,

 

1. did u reply?

2. did u leave and ignore it?

3. what are ur feelings now if u did get a message ?

4. and if u did, have they been in contact with u since?

 

and what are ur feelings if U didn't get nothing

 

Just a thought

[enchiladaman]

Didn't get anything. Thank God.

[S agapo]

QUESTION

5. How long have u been broken up or last seen/heard from eachother??

[enchiladaman]

QUESTION

5. How long have u been broken up or last seen/heard from eachother??

 

Probably not the answer you want to hear.

 

We were friends for 7 years. Had a relationship on and off for over a year and a half. Our relationship broke down. There was no cheating or lying or abuse. It just broke down.

 

She rebounded with someone new a few weeks after we broke up.

I have not heard from her in going on 4 months. I don't think I will hear from her again for a long, long time.

 

Probably for the best. I have my moments - but for the most part I don't care about her life anymore.

[S agapo]

I haven't heard from him for 8 months and i got no message from him for xmas. I was hoping to hear from him.

I really don't know what really went wrong with us and what was really going on in his head.

 

I suppose not hearing from them is for the best and makes things easier, (not that i really mean it, b'cos i really want him to call me) but u really don't know what they are thinking as well; do we?!!!

 

So, is ur ex still with the rebound?

[cristal]

I got nothing, nor was I expecting anything. It just hammered home the fact that he is done, finito.

[dragon111]

My sister got worse, on christmas day her ex's mother came over to have a chat with my parents, my sister was in my house too with her new boyfriend so that was kind of awkward especially since she had a really serious relationship with her ex (they were engaged and everything) and we're all still friendly with her ex since he had basically become a part of the family

[dragon111]

they are still on talking terms and they still exchanged christmas cards and give presents to the families

[LE DHUY NHUT]

Not a single ex contacted me for xmas,nor the girl I like,nor the one I'm in love with.The exes don't matter but the last two not contacting me hurt like hell.

[enchiladaman]

 

So, is ur ex still with the rebound?

 

Probably. She is really looking to get settled down and married, and so I'm sure she is rushing this new relationship along so that she can quickly replace what she had with me. Obviously too fast too soon and transferring her old feelings and issues onto this new guy is a recipe for disaster...but she's a fun and pretty girl so a lot of her issues take a long time to surface in a relationship. Only after a few years did I realize that the girl had some major emotional issues and personality traits that need to be worked out.

 

She was also someone that could never let go of the past and would use past things that I had done to help give her leverage in a present argument. You can't ever win with someone like this and eventually you just sorta start to give up despite how much you love them.

 

I stopped checking her myspace a month ago though, and it really helped me detach from her and her life. I think she was doing a lot to rub it in my face. It was a game. I simply took myself out of the game. I do think about her though, but as time goes on I care less and less. I've been having a great time recollecting my own self and moving forward. Even been out on a few dates with some amazing women.

 

It's strange. I would love to have her contact me and tell me she missed me and made a mistake. But I wouldn't want her back. Odd, isn't it?

[Lady Luck]

mine left something on his mysace that im pretty sure is for me. i ignored him, i dont need him in my life, hes too negative.

[S agapo]

I went out for the first time in a month with the girls last night. I had a nice time, but it felt different. Empty. I felt, why am I here? it doesn't feel right or fun. And the only person I wanted to be with was my ex. The bar was full, and i got this sudden horrible feeling that there isn't anybody else out there for me how I feel for my ex, and felt the moment I set my eyes on him. And it was a sad feeling inside to have last night.

 

I really want us back.

 

I am thinking sending a short msg for the new year. I've got nothing to loose have I?

 

I can understand NC is to get ourselves back.

But when we stopped trying for good, won't we will wonder the what if's?! I know I have tried over and over with him and got no response back, but I am not a monster to just send him a new year msg.

 

I never felt such a horrible lonely pain inside. Its not ok. I miss him so much.

[cristal]

I got nothing, nor was I expecting anything. It just hammered home the fact that he is done, finito.

 

 

Uh, uh! Spoke to soon. My ex, ex called last Thursday to wish me seasons greetings and wanted to make plans to get together. He left a voicemail, but I have not returned his call. Not sure if I would, even though I never really got over him.

 

Nothing though from the most recent ex.

[S agapo]

Wish my ex would call.. don't know if its a pride thing, he has fully forgotton about me, or is with someone else, or staying single.

 

How long since ur broke up with ur ex ex, and ur ex?

 

Are u going to meet ur ex ex?

[cristal]

Gemini, exactly one year ago. We have been in LC for almost a year. I have not seen him since last February, but there was the occasional e-mail or phone call. He is really the love of my life. The recent ex was more like a re-bound, so his contact is not that important.

[S agapo]

Gemini, exactly one year ago. We have been in LC for almost a year. I have not seen him since last February, but there was the occasional e-mail or phone call. He is really the love of my life. The recent ex was more like a re-bound, so his contact is not that important.

 

 

So are u willing to meet up?

 

Do u know why he has made his conatct now?

What broke u two apart in the first place?

[cristal]

Your ex will call you. Some exes takes longer than some, but history has proven that 9 out of 10 times the dumper makes contact.

 

My most recent ex made contact around October, but I rebuffed him. I ran into him two times after that. He tried to speak to me but I totally disregarded him. I do not take kindly to being treated with disrespect and I think that the ex acted pretty disrespectul towards my feelings during the breakup. For that reason, I will continue to totally disregard him.

[S agapo]

I am just thinking will it be worth making another effort when I have tried so many times myself in the past and got no where! I am not over him. And I am making myself look needy and clingy even tho things have cooled right down. I havent seen him in 8 months nor spoke to him. When we broke up I didn't leave him alone b'cos I was looking for answers and I got angry and upset with him saying a few things that might of been the truth, but still.... my last attepmt was over a month ago. I have stopped ever sice, but now as I didn't send or received a xmas wish, I am thinking breaking the NC again to wish him happy ny

[cristal]

Gemini, as hard as it is you will have to stop all attempts at contact. Even though your attempts to contact him were futile, he still knows that you are trying to contact him and that is enough to alleviate his curiosity and feed his ego. thereforeeee it will lengthen the chance of any contact from him.

 

As they say on this board, you will have to "fall of the face of the earth." It is the only way that he will notice that you are missing.

[S agapo]

Gemini, as hard as it is you will have to stop all attempts at contact. Even though your attempts to contact him were futile, he still knows that you are trying to contact him and that is enough to alleviate his curiosity and feed his ego, thereforeeee it will lengthen the chance of any contact from him.

 

As they say on this board, you willl have to "fall of the face of the earth." It is the only way that he will notice that you are missing.

 

Maybe ur right on this fact. Its really hard, but I have sit on it and decide what is right for me and only me. Maybe i should just leave it for the best. I know I have done all the chasing and grovelling as someone who did love him and still does and want a relationship with him.

I just hope he is well with things in his life.

 

Thanks

[cristal]

is this true? or fiction...

9 out of 10

 

 

It is true in my case.

 

And if you read most stories here, the ex will make contact at some point. Of course there is a time variance, but dumpers usually text, call, IM or whatever at some point after the breakup.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

It is true in my case.

 

And if you read most stories here, the ex will make contact at some point. Of course there is a time variance, but dumpers usually text, call, IM or whatever at some point after the breakup.

 

Yes, they may contact...but that doesn't mean they want to get back together. A world of difference...the only thing that counts is if they want to get back together...any other contact is just pointless and results in setbacks for the dumpee.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I will read ur past posts

Its been 6 months now since I broke up with my ex. Haven't heard from the dude since. I suppose I am clutching to nothing here.. even if we broke up 3..4...8..12 months ago, will he still make his magic appearance?

Every break up is different. I think it all boils down to when they start to feel lonely and realize how good they had it with us OR when they realize the grass was not as green as they thought!

 

It can be any time frame..1 week, 3 months, 6 months, 12 months whatever...but if it is only contact for the sake of contact, with no real substance to it and no desire on his part to re-build the relationship, then him contacting you is pointless.

[cristal]

I must agree here. My attensions for wanting to contact him is to work things out and get back to gether. .

 

 

Well that is an entirely different story.

 

The question that was put before me was whether or not the ex will contact and that was the question that I replied to.

 

I agree with Crazyaboutdogs that contact does not translate into "I made a mistake and want to get back together". Contact means just that. Contact.

[DizzyDoris]

my ex has emailed me a couple of times over christmas and yes i responded. I wasnt particulary thrilled to hear from him but on the other hand it didnt upset me either. Im over him now.

 

I think he only got in touch as he hasnt had any action since we split up (he told me this in his email!) the impression i picked up, was like santa....he needs to empty his sack lol.