Is this normal?

[Rider0375]

5 months of dating, 2 1/2 months of exclusiveness (Girlfriend/boyfriend) and I haven't yet 100% fallen in love.

 

I feel love grow inside of me for her some days, and other days im just content/sitting at idle with her. I love being around her and we have so much fun together. She is my best friend for sure.

 

That being said, should I know already that I love her? Or am I asking this question to soon?

 

Thanks guys!

[low man]

Probably too soon!

How does she feel about you and have the two of you talked about it?

[Rider0375]

Yes we've talked about it. She says that shes falling for me, and im falling for her. But she tells me that i've got a ways to go for her to fall in love with me.

 

So I think we're on the same page. But, she does have a little bit more infatuation with me than I for her.

 

I've kinda lost that infatuation feeling for new girlfriends because of past relationships. It's got me in trouble before and so it goes away a lot faster for me than it does for my new partners it seems.

 

Which is ok =]... Infatuation is fake anywho, the real love is where its at!

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi Rider,

 

Well, 5 months doesn't seem that long, although it sounds like you have very positive feelings bordering on love maybe.

 

See what the next five months bring.

 

Jeff

[MissIndigo]

Sounds normal and healthy to me, and sustainable!

[low man]

Sounds that she has a level and sound grasp of situation. You now (if I am hearing you correctly) seem not to want to keep the relationship. What's the full scoop?

[wiser]

I've been going with a woman since July 1, exclusive for about 4.5 months.

 

The same with me...I could have written your OP. She tells me she is very much in love with me, and I have the refrigerator full of greeting cards to prove it.

 

I feel comfortable with her, I have strong feelings for her, I have no idea if it's "love" or if I even know what love is...sounds to me like you are doing just fine. Because if you aren't then neither am I!

[Rider0375]

Oh no way Low Man... I want her very badly. I hope that it turns into love =]. This woman is amazing. I have been in love before. And this isnt there yet, thats how I know its not love.

 

But believe me... Im going to stick it out and allow it to get there if it is meant to be!

[Portage]

I think love happens at a different rate for everyone. It sounds like you are progressing nicely. Why put pressure on yourself?

 

Some people never fall in love, so count your blessings and enjoy

[Rider0375]

No pressure on myself... Basically just wrote this to make sure im not doing something wrong.

 

I don't want to be a bad person to her because im not progressing as fast as she is sometimes.

 

Just making sure im in the clear and not being a jerk at this point!!

[low man]

Soory about not understanding situation. I agree with ONELASTGO and WISER, stay calm and and collected. A sincere relationship is built on structuring and patience.