mom and sister interfering

[chris_nos_2007]

Ok so I am 19 and the girl i really like is 15 and be 16 in a month. I have been talking to her on the fone every nite and she is someone that i have come to really like. We said we wanted to be in a relationship and i guess were. Yesterday however she told me that she had been talkin about me and her older sister said she wouldnt date me and a few other bad things she claims to kno or have heard. I was a freshman when she was a senior in high school i have however never met her. Her husband also said some bad things who i kno a lil better but never got along with. The mom was sitting in on this and saying see i told u u shouldnt date him. The girl i like went off on her sis for this. The sis just saying shes just trying to look out for her tho. So the girl i like told me she just doesnt kno wat to do cause its pointless if she cant do anything with me and doesnt kno if her mom will let her date me. She said wen she turns 16 itll be a lot easier just cause she can go where she wants. I dont kno wat to do about this as i really like her. In the back of my mind i of course have those neg. thots like maybe thats just an excuse on her part maybe changign her mind on the relationship? She says she still like me tho. Any help would be appreciated.

[buckdawg]

first of all, that's quite an age gap for teenagers and explains why the mom and sis are hesitant.

 

basicaly there's nothing you can do. the last place in the world you want to be right now is in the middle of a family squabble. it can only end badly for you. i would cut my losses, respect the wishes of her family and try to move forward.

[FreedomRing]

Yes try to move forward as buckdawg suggests, and I'll add, try to get someone closer in their late teens as you are...19 and 16 are at two totally different developmental stages IMO.

[beauty21]

Unfortunately, your gf is still a minor so there isn't much you can do. You must have done something really messed up for her sister to take it this far. All you can do is respect her and her mother's wishes.

[St00f]

It seems like you have good intentions, maybe you guys could just be friends. You could ask her why her mom feels that way. And even if she is 16 her parents are most likely going to treat her the same and give her same boundaries when it comes to being in a relationship with you.

 

But usually if parents, older siblings (and sometimes friends) disagree before the relationship starts it isn't going to work out, especially if the girl you're interested in looks up to them. Sorry

[chris_nos_2007]

I kno this is an age diff. but she really is everything that i look for in a girl...only prob is the age gap haha...it really doesnt make sense to me tho he last b/f was 18 and they were 2gether 4 6 months. The sis is just going off rumors she has heard about me basically the small town highs chool drama left behind. The girl i like does look up 2 her sis but she is fighting her on this. She told me yesterday she was gonna try to talk to them and c wat she can do but doesnt kno wat to do.

[buckdawg]

i know you're not going to listen to me but at 19 the only things you're looking for in a girl are if they have the right parts or not.

[chris_nos_2007]

lol far from it ive been with a lot of girls just in the party scene and elsewhere and i want something a lot more fullfilling now. This girl is an athlete, very mature (knows what she wants from life), good family relationship, a christian, not a huge party girl/wild, same sense of humor, and yes very attractive. Its hard for me to want to give this one up.

[buckdawg]

lol far from it ive been with a lot of girls just in the party scene and elsewhere and i want something a lot more fullfilling now. This girl is an athlete, very mature (knows what she wants from life), good family relationship, a christian, not a huge party girl/wild, same sense of humor, and yes very attractive. Its hard for me to want to give this one up.

 

fair enough. i believe you.

 

however i can also tell you that what you want and what she wants will change drastically in the next ten years. that's not to say that you shouldn't try but just realize what's potentially down the road.

[chris_nos_2007]

i completely agree but ive seen same situations work and hopfully i could be one of those...i guess just take it as it comes.

[ghost69]

wait it out for that month she has left. maybe you will meet someone closer to your age.

[chris_nos_2007]

i kno thats good advice...its just been so long since ive been in a relationship and i miss it and want it now

[beauty21]

You have to be patient. Things will work themselves out.

[ghost69]

i kno thats good advice...its just been so long since ive been in a relationship and i miss it and want it now

 

i want new year's to be here already. but i have to wait.

[chris_nos_2007]

so im a little confused how this will go from here. Me and her never talk during the day but she calls every nite. She throws every signal at me that shes interested. We still cant hang out tho. She asked last nite if her talkn to a certain guy bothered me so?

[ghost69]

omg, move on now.

[beauty21]

She asked last nite if her talkn to a certain guy bothered me so?

 

What did she mean by talking?

[chris_nos_2007]

its her ex and they had a casual convo online and she asked if this bothered me?

[beauty21]

Oh, I thought she meant talking/dating this guy. Well, did it bother you, and why?

[ghost69]

its her ex and they had a casual convo online and she asked if this bothered me?

 

oh. i thought you meant as in possibility of dating.

[chris_nos_2007]

Naw she asked me that like we r together like if it really bothered me she wouldnt do it. Last nite she didnt call me tho which would be the first time in like a week we havent talked