Meeting up New Years Eve

[Lettingo]

hello,

 

This is my first post, but I have been reading since my break up October this year. My boyfriend and I split due to the fact he was not ready/wanting to get married at this moment and needed to figure out what he wanted. We had been together little over 4 years. He is 31 and I am 26. I was the dumpee, but we handled it w/o much drama and still talked up to the day I moved back home. It has been two weeks today since we last spoke/saw each other and due to my love for him I broke NC and called to wish him a merry christmas. He was very happy and wished me the same and we caught up for a hour or so. His brother, mom and other got on the phone to s/w me and wish me a merry christmas. Towards the end he asked what I was doing on New Years eve, I replyied that I had no plans and he explnd that he was going to be in town that eve and then just got silent At that point I asked "Do you want to get together?" He said yes and the plans were made.

I heard from mutual friends he has got emotional about me being gone and he seemed to get emotional when we made plans.

 

My plan is getting together but not talking about our relationship, just spending the eve together and have as much fun as poss. What do you all think?

Thanks

[Wolf_22]

hello,

This is my first post...just spending the eve together and have as much fun as poss. What do you all think?

Thanks

 

Doesn't really matter what we think because in the end, it's you making the decision, and only you who feels that this may be right or wrong. You know this...

 

If you're wanting emotional comfort (with all due respect, of course), well, to me, it looks like you did an okay thing. I mean, I think you gave him ammunition if things go South because YOU ASKED HIM TO HANG OUT, see what I mean? I'm someone who sees negative things miles down the road too, so maybe he won't use that later on. Regardless, doesn't sound like anything to worry about. Don't be a victim of emotional cornering though. He's setting it up for a "New Year's Ambush" in my eyes, so make sure to go to public places that way you won't be forced EMOTIONALLY to make decisions in a whim. ...That's just my perception...

 

If you think you're strong enough to do something like what you're doing, then it shouldn't be a problem. Maybe you can get together in the future more often, and possibly, build back the relationship you lost. Right now, however, you should worry about yourself. You're single, your still young, so why not focus on your needs / desires? If this guy is one of those, then so be it, but just make sure that he ADDS to you, and not SUBTRACT. Many people have done / still do get into relationships and lose themselves (they become the relationship and forget about their hobbies and or goals).

 

Best wishes.

[Lettingo]

Thank you Wolf...