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Sex too soon. Is this a red flag

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Folks, Merry Christmas to you all.

 

In my endless search for true love, I decided to take vacation in South America.

 

Things started apparently looking alright to me. My plane was delayed and the airliner paid me a night in a hotel in Miami. While I was waiting in the airport talking with other people about the flight delay. Then I looked around I saw this pretty, young lady smiling to me about 10 feet away. I smiled back to her. I checked 5 minutes later and she continued to smile. I went ahead and introduced myself to her in Spanish and asked where she was on the same flight. She was not.

 

Next morning, in the sunny Miami, I was having breakfast in the hotel. Then I was so lucky that she was there in the breakfast room. I selected a table next to her. She kept smiling. She had company of another woman and a boy.

 

Then I invited her to join me and sit next to me on my table. She then invited me back saying that I could go there to join her. We started talking and I learned that she was from Jamaica. They were planning to shop and explore downtown Miami. I asked if I could join them.

 

In the downtown Miami all of sudden I noticed that we were walking hand in hand. Very soon I attempted to put my arms on her back. She allowed me. Minutes later I attempted to kiss her and she let me. We kissed passionately for a long time. We spent the whole day together. It was very enjoyable. She exchanged her phone and her sister invited me to visit Jamaica and sleep at her house. I said I was definitely going to. Then later in the day we said goodbye and she took her flight.

 

One day later, I arrived in my final destination, somewhere in the Argentina-Brazil borders. I took a bus from the main airport to a major city. I was so tired that I was sleeping in the first two hours in the bus. All of sudden when I got up, I saw that beautiful 25 year old woman. Her smell and body enchanted me. I introduced myself to her and she was very friendly. At a bus stop, I was walking behind her and I felt in love with the smell of her. She had that nice butt that I like her so much. I thought to myself that I could fall in lover with her.

 

Back in the bus, I asked about her jewelery, etc. I attempted to touch her rings, nails, etc and she let me. Moments later and I asked if I could touch her hand. She let me. In 10 minutes we started kissing each other like I never did before. Her hands were sweating. We kissed for about 4 hours. We talked about many things. I put my hands on her belly and occasionally on her breast as well.

 

Next day she called me. I answered back and it took 3 days until I was able to meet her. When I did, I took her to a hotel and we did sex for several hours.

 

So my question is, guys, do you think I should trust this last woman and start a long term relationship. My concern is that she engaged in sex too soon.

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It's funny, the thing I find most odd about this story is not the sex but the holding of hands and another loving gestures. It all sounds a bit odd how you got to this stage so quickly without even knowing each other at all.

 

I guess it's a bit quick to get into bed but I wouldn't say you definitely can't trust her. Just be on guard...and think about taking things a bit slower!

 

If the genders were reversed I'd be more inclined to be untrusting. I tend to find women will quite often sleep with a guy really quickly because they think this is the way to keep him. It's terrible logic of course, because as a male, I know that if girl lets a guy sleep with her straight away, she can kiss goodbye to ever being respected by him. Men, on the other hand, are probably more likely to sleep with a girl very quickly when they DON'T have any feelings for her - and they will quite often take a hike as soon as the deed is done.

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Oh, this story is for real. Life is beautiful folks. Women are the best thing in life. Especially the ones who are very elegant and beautiful. With the woman I mentioned in the last post, we keep calling each other every day. I just need to learn whether I can trust. I think time will tell.

 

 

 

sounds like you are traveling and met some a s***. first you were in love with her, then you had sex. now you aren't in love?

 

either way, you knew neither of the women much at all.

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Oh, this story is for real. Life is beautiful folks. Women are the best thing in life. Especially the ones who are very elegant and beautiful. With the woman I mentioned in the last post, we keep calling each other every day. I just need to learn whether I can trust. I think time will tell.

 

why couldn't you trust her? every woman should have your full trust until you officially date and think otherwise.

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Why should you trust a person you don't know? Man or woman. That's just ridiculous. It's a great way to get screwed.

 

that's why you don't get attached so fast. but you should have trust in someone with a clean slate so to speak.

 

by chance, are you going to argue every post i put up?

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well you always have to guard yourself. doesn't mean you can't have trust though.

 

Ghost, you go right ahead and trust people that you just met. Myself, I will hold back on giving them my trust until I learn more about them, find out what sort of history they have with relationships, determine if they are "honest" in general, things of that nature.

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Ghost, you go right ahead and trust people that you just met. Myself, I will hold back on giving them my trust until I learn more about them, find out what sort of history they have with relationships, determine if they are "honest" in general, things of that nature.

 

somebody's past doesn't have any bearing on my relationship with someone. i live in the present.

 

and as far as them being 'honest' as you say, you have no reason to NOT trust them until you find things out like that. then, yes, don't trust them. but when you start off with someone they have a clean slate in my book.

 

agree to disagree.

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somebody's past doesn't have any bearing on my relationship with someone. i live in the present.

 

and as far as them being 'honest' as you say, you have no reason to NOT trust them until you find things out like that. then, yes, don't trust them. but when you start off with someone they have a clean slate in my book.

 

agree to disagree.

 

Ghost, you and I have never met, and I have given you no reason to not trust me. Listen, I have this really great moneymaking idea. Since you trust me (according to your own twisted logic), please send me $5000 in small bills. Don't worry, you can trust me.

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Ghost, you and I have never met, and I have given you no reason to not trust me. Listen, I have this really great moneymaking idea. Since you trust me (according to your own twisted logic), please send me $5000 in small bills. Don't worry, you can trust me.

 

that's ridiculous man. i never said give someone 100% trust, but you have no reason to think otherwise upon meeting someone.

 

please stop replying. you are talking in circles. the 'no it's not.' ... 'yes it is' has taken over the thread. good job.

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that's ridiculous man. i never said give someone 100% trust, but you have no reason to think otherwise upon meeting someone.

 

please stop replying. you are talking in circles. the 'no it's not.' ... 'yes it is' has taken over the thread. good job.

 

I believe the phrase is 'yes it is' ... 'no it's not'.

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