Can't tell whether or not she has feelings for me...

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For a year and a half now i've been good friends with this girl i know. Since the first day we met we got along great. We have the same interests, the same tastes, we're even thought to be a couple. That's just it, we're not. But i want us to be. About 9 months ago she started going out with a guy on her swim team that she's known for a while. It upset me a little, but i kept being a good friend and helped her out when she had no one else to talk to. Her bf was never there for her, but i was. I would and will do anything for her. I just want her to be happy, and it makes me happy when she's happy, no matter who she's with. Anyway, about a month and a half ago, they broke up, and like always, i was there for her. Since then, and especially for the past 2 weeks, we've been spending A LOT of time with eachother. And as much as i think she has feelings for me, she still gives me the impression that she just wants to be good friends. I just want us to become more than just good friends, and recently, i've been debating whether or not i should tell her how much i care for her. Like i wrote already, i care for her with all my heart, and i'll do anythig for her. Please help.

[Jax Miggen]

Hey i know what you are going through sort of. Sometime when your alone with her look straight into her eyes and ask her how much she likes you. and believe me it will take evry ounce of courage. It did for me...

Happy trails!!!

 

jax

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jax,

 

thanks for the advice. Are ther any other suggestions, i can't sleep, i think about her all the time.

[Chan209]

I know what you're going through. Believe me. I'm having a hard enough time reading the girl in my situation. There's times when it seems like she's not interested in more...and then there's times when it seems like she is (talking about a future together, living together, etc..).

 

There's more, but anyway... One thing you could do which I've done in mine is joke about it and gauge her reaction. For instance, me and the girl in my situation were at StarBucks a couple weeks ago. We were talking about how you really need to connect with someone to be in a relationship with them, etc... We both agreed that the only people we connect with is each other and she wishes she could find a b/f she could connect with as well. I joked "Ok then, I'll be your boyfriend" (in a joking way).

 

It's better than trying nothing...

[BINGO]

Thanks Chan, that's a good approach, i might just try that. Thanks a lot!