I CAN NOT get PREGNANT

[brianna19]

Hi, well my name's Brianna and I really need yall guys to tell me if my problem is normal or i ( or my boyfriend)should get checked by my doctor. About three months ago I decided to go live with my boyfriend since we had been together for 7 months before I moved in with him and we hadnt had sex. As soon as I moved in he asked me if I was ready to be a mom because he wanted to be a dad. I said yes and since then we've been having unprotected sex but we are wondering why is it that i cant get pregnant , do yall guys think its ok or there has to be something wrong?

[wiser]

3 months is a grey area. You might have a problem, you might not.

 

Any thoughts about getting married before having a child?

[brianna19]

Well I we are arranging our marriage because if i ever do get pregnant we want our baby to me inside a matrimony

[wiser]

Do you mind if I ask how old you are?

[RayKay]

I think the child would figure out they were made before the marriage....

 

Why don't you wait until you ARE married and do have more than a year or so into the relationship at least?

 

Babies should not be something you decide on the spur of the moment and they are very stressful on a relationship - even the happiest ones.

 

How is your relationship otherwise?

[ebizdiva]

3 months is not enough time to determine that you cannot get pregnant. Give it some more time and then if you don't get pregnant the two of you can go and see a Dr. to determine if everything is working normally. Usually when people try too hard to do something it doesn't happen. Try to have fun, relax and enjoy yourself.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

one is not judged to have fertility problems unless you have actively tried for a full year.

 

if you are older (mid 30s) you might consult a doctor after 6 months just to get checked out, but anything less than that, don't worry about it until it's been a year.

[brianna19]

I'm 20, well my relationship is going by good, we do have our arguments like any other couple but besides that him and me are great, we've known each other for about three years but we've only been going out for seven months

[musicguy]

Are you sure that you both are ready to have a child at your age? how old is he?

[ebizdiva]

You're still young. If you are determined to be married and have a child, get married first and then get pregnant. What's the rush? Just because the two of you want to be parents? Are both of you not only ready to be parents but are you ready to support a child? Having children is not easy and it is rather expensive.

[brianna19]

Well all this worried me because all my life I had heard that in some cases it only takes one time to get pregnant, and that getting pregnant was really easy.

[ebizdiva]

And that's true... in some instances. But just because you don't get pregnant the first, second, third..... time it doesn't mean that you can't. Just that you haven't.

[HappyAsALark]

Getting pregnant is not easy. It is more of luck or well for some, bad luck I guess. Check your fertility days. And if you are planning on getting pregnant, why not get married first? Even if you aren't religious it still doesn't make sense to intentionally get pregnant then get married

[brianna19]

Are you sure that you both are ready to have a child at your age? how old is he?

 

he's 24, Well we we are planning the child because since our relationship is really stable and we're living together but the only bad thing here is that I'm attending college since I plan to get into Early Childhood teaching. But he's really supporting and plans to be with me and help me in anything.

[musicguy]

he's 24, Well we we are planning the child because since our relationship is really stable and we're living together but the only bad thing here is that I'm attending college since I plan to get into Early Childhood teaching. But he's really supporting and plans to be with me and help me in anything.

 

that's good that you have someone who supports you, but I think that you should wait until after you graduate college and go from there. I mean things can change in a relationship. I'd wait until everything is fine emotionally and financially. Kids aren't cheap

[ebizdiva]

WAIT....WAIT....WAIT...WAIT...WAIT....WAIT

 

Huh? The only bad thing is that you're attending college? I'm sorry to be redundant but huh? College is a bad thing? Going to college is going to forever change your life and the last thing you want to be is an uneducated Mother.

 

Concentrate on your school work and don't just have a baby because your relationship is stable. Take your time, children can wait.

[musicguy]

Brianna19 read this.

 

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tell me if both of you are ready to raise a child

[tmp0620]

Why on Earth would anyone want to have a child at the age of 20? ](*,)

[musicguy]

Why on Earth would anyone want to have a child at the age of 20? ](*,)

 

My first girlfriend had 2 kids by 20 and was married by 18. Women seem to be more ready at a younger age than guys are

[ebizdiva]

Just because somebody has kids it doesn't mean they're ready. It doesn't have anything to do with your sex.

[Mythical_Suicide]

But he's really supporting and plans to be with me and help me in anything.

 

He says that NOW.. They all say that, given yes there are a handful of guys who do stick to what they say more often than not they run the other way once the child is born. I don't think either one of you are ready for a child, finish school, get married and really establish your relationship before you bring an innocent child into this world. Everything is going good because you two are still in the "honeymoon" phase and this will probably die out some the longer you're together and all a child does is add more stress, if you two are ready to be parents, it will still be the same way acouple of years into the relationship.. Why rush it? Enjoy your time together now because once you have a kid, that goes out the window.

[HappyAsALark]

My first girlfriend had 2 kids by 20 and was married by 18. Women seem to be more ready at a younger age than guys are

 

Women are not more ready really I don't think. I think a lot of it has to do with life circumstances and they way they are brought up.

[musicguy]

He says that NOW.. They all say that, given yes there are a handful of guys who do stick to what they say more often than not they run the other way once the child is born. I don't think either one of you are ready for a child, finish school, get married and really establish your relationship before you bring an innocent child into this world. Everything is going good because you two are still in the "honeymoon" phase and this will probably die out some the longer you're together and all a child does is add more stress, if you two are ready to be parents, it will still be the same way acouple of years into the relationship.. Why rush it? Enjoy your time together now because once you have a kid, that goes out the window.

 

she's right. Don't you have a child?

[annie24]

Hi, well my name's Brianna and I really need yall guys to tell me if my problem is normal or i ( or my boyfriend)should get checked by my doctor. About three months ago I decided to go live with my boyfriend since we had been together for 7 months before I moved in with him and we hadnt had sex. As soon as I moved in he asked me if I was ready to be a mom because he wanted to be a dad. I said yes and since then we've been having unprotected sex but we are wondering why is it that i cant get pregnant , do yall guys think its ok or there has to be something wrong?

 

i think it's been a stroke of good luck that you haven't gotten pregnant yet. keep it that way. don't rush into it. how much money do you have? i would wait and finish college, marry your bf, enjoy your time together as a young couple, and then have the baby. you will have the rest of your lives to be parents, but you can only be a free 21 year old once. i think you and your bf should enjoy being young, save up money, and start your family a few years from now.

 

from everything i have seen, babies make things far more difficult, not nice and cozy and easy. i have seen wealthy couples with plenty of money for food, clothes, nannies, etc.... have plenty of troubles still raising a baby, so why such a young couple would do it on purpose, i don't know. it will be easier once you are done with college.

[Mythical_Suicide]

she's right. Don't you have a child?

 

Yes I do, and I am definitely speaking from experience about the guys being excited about having children until it comes down to actually being a parent. My sons father was extremely excited about my pregnancy until my son was born and then he just lost the excitement and was more interested in going out and partying while I was left to take care of a child by myself. I NEVER expected that in a million years since he already had two kids from a previous marriage and was a GREAT father to them. You can't always tell how someone is going to be, especially when it involves having a child until you are actually in that situation. Give it time, why rush it??